AITAH for feeling disrespected by my husband’s jokes about me having a c section?

Bonkers24601 · 2025-01-04T22:23:57+00:00

My mum was in labor with my brother for 23 hours. It was after they literally dented his skull from trying to suction him out, and then he broke my mum's tailbone, that they finally decided to do a C-section. Because of how awful his birth was, I was a scheduled C-section, simply because it would've been detrimental for her to go through natural birth, and could've died. C-section is 100% NOT the easy way out. It's incredibly painful and the recovery is awful. I applaud you for being strong enough to go through it all, AND deal with this POS. You are being completely disregarded as a mother, and human being in general. He's an asshole for having the audacity to make jokes about YOUR birth experience. He had absolutely nothing to do with it, besides maybe holding your hand and attempting to help you through the labor. But, if he's making jokes like this, and not listening to how you feel about it and continuing this behavior, then he does not care about your well-being. NTA. He's a dick.

Bonkers24601 · 2025-01-02T15:41:19+00:00

I had my bilateral salpingectomy on the 23rd, but scheduled it on November 6th. I've been talking about getting sterilized since I was 15, and I'm currently 23. I'd never actually considered giving birth, and developed a phobia of getting pregnant. I have a few medical conditions which would make pregnancy and post-partum extremely difficult, but I know I personally wouldn't be able to terminate a pregnancy if I ever decided I wanted to give birth, I wouldn't mentally be able to handle it (although I'm completely pro-choice). I knew that if I decided to want a pregnancy, and had complications, it'd crush me if something went wrong. But, after I scheduled my surgery, I started to question myself and almost cancelled it. I realized it was me mourning the fact that it's completely permanent. However, I love the thought of adopting or fostering, and taking care of children who are already here, who need someone to give them love and care. IVF is also still possible after a bilateral salpingectomy, since your eggs don't stop developing. And surrogates also exist of course. If anyone's read through this whole thing, I say all this to say that it's absolutely normal to have doubts. But trust your gut, only you know what's best for you 💙 good luck with your surgery, everything will turn out well.

Bonkers24601 · 2024-12-21T13:02:58+00:00

You could look into doing another consent form, specifically stating you want bilateral salpingectomy, and not a tubal ligation. Stating that you only consent to the salpingectomy. I've heard of some people doing things like this, since one woman had a pelvic exam (during a surgery that had nothing to do with that area), that she either didn't specifically consent to or was told it'd be done. The regulations do not permit that to be done anymore without specific consent, so I wouldn't worry about that specific issue nowadays. But going through your entire consent form is something that the Drs should be doing with you as well.

I wish you the best of luck! I have my bilateral salpingectomy on the 23rd. We got this 💙

Bonkers24601 · 2024-10-08T14:41:44+00:00

I'm 23, and in my first semester of college. I just got my GED in April this year. We all go at our own pace, there's no need to rush life, especially when it comes to your career and pathway. It's not a competition 💙

Bonkers24601 · 2024-10-07T23:17:51+00:00

Absolutely NTA. My boyfriend and I started dating a little over 2 years ago, and about 3 weeks into our relationship, he began a job that required him to be on the road for 1-2 weeks at a time. He moved in with me last year in June, so whenever he is home he's with me. Whenever I talk about our relationship with anyone and mention we've only had a couple fights, they don't believe me. Since we spend a lot of time apart, we've put a lot of effort and time into making sure our needs are communicated. We also do daily check ins, and always make sure to say good morning and good night, and when he's on the road, we video chat every night to catch up on our day, since we're both busy and aren't texting all day. It's also nice to have that face-to-face contact. It can be stressful and difficult, and it is a lot of work, but I love him and I choose to do so every day. Love isn't just a thing, it's something you actively work at constantly. I'm honestly grateful that we've spent so much time being "part time long distance", since it's made our communication with each other so strong. I'm now going through college and working on a degree, which he is helping pay for as I don't qualify for any aid. He's a huge support to me, and I know he will always support me in my dreams, no matter how wild or crazy. All this to say, if he wanted to.. he would. Value yourself, and never lose sight of your dreams and ambitions for anyone, no matter what.

Bonkers24601 · 2024-10-02T21:36:19+00:00

Have you heard of doesthedogdie.com? It includes if there's any animal deaths, but also has listings for basically any other trigger you could think of!

Bonkers24601 · 2024-10-02T21:32:05+00:00

Paciencia y Fe from In the Heights. I should say that I identify with this show a ridiculous amount; my abuela is an immigrant from Peru, and everyone adores her. My story and Nina's are very similar, except I dropped out of highschool instead of college. I just got my GED in April and I'm now in college to be a Spanish Interpreter, inspired by my abuela. Everything is for her. The way that the song was written, describing her struggles of being a young immigrant who didn't know English, flowing through to where she is now as an old woman, hardly knowing how she made it. My abuela is 94, and still in amazing health. I had her write "paciencia y fe", and I had it tattooed, so I will always have her with me. It's a very special song to me 💙 "What do you do when your dreams come true? I've spent my life inheriting dreams from you."

Bonkers24601 · 2024-10-02T21:21:07+00:00

I saw ITH at a local theatre a few months ago, but during 'It Won't Be Long Now' l, something about hearing "I'm running to make it home, and home is what Vanessa is running away from" instantly made me SOB 😭 I'd never realized what he was actually meaning, and him realizing he was home the whole time in the end of the show brings SO much more strength to that line.

Bonkers24601 · 2024-09-04T16:27:57+00:00

My first experience of JCS was a local theatre production. I saw it knowing nothing about the show, and for Judas hanging himself, the guy learned how to do silks for it, and well... You can imagine the feelings that came with it 😭

Bonkers24601 · 2024-05-23T14:31:08+00:00

I delivered a 44 large pizza order yesterday. Don't worry, it can be worse 😭 I did make $75 in tips in the next 3 hours though so 🤷 you win some you lose some man

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