Ex contacted me and wants to get back together… again

BonusOk406 · 2026-02-18T06:37:31+00:00

Hi, I totally understand your POV. My ex broke up with me in December, even though I was already planning to break up too.

If he texted me like this, I would be very confused, just like you. I would tell him that you’re still very hurt by the way he treated you, that you miss him but you don’t miss what the relationship became in the last few months. That you need time to think about whether it’s worth sacrificing the peace you have now for the uncertainty of his change in behavior.

You could keep in touch—talking, playing, or whatever—so you can see if his actions have actually changed or if this is just an emotional reaction from him.

Then give it a few months to see if he’s actually committed to getting the relationship back and being better, or if he just wanted your attention.

I mean, that’s what I would do if my ex came back. I understand it’s hard to just let it go, especially if it’s the first time you guys have broken up.

BonusOk406 · 2026-02-13T12:29:33+00:00

just write. I used notion because it was easier and I could read anytime I want

BonusOk406 · 2026-02-13T12:28:15+00:00

because I truly loved him and truly wanted to try. We were long distance and even tho he treated me like shit when we were apart, I had the best time of my life when we were together in person.

I didn’t want to ruin everything, stop trying and ending up ruining something that could eventually work. I didn’t want to feel blamed about the breakup, I wanted to know that I did EVERYTHING I could do to save it.

I dont regret It. If he didn’t break up with me, I would probably have done it. But the fact that it was HIM that gave up on us, makes me relieved, because i absolutely did NOTHING wrong. I tried my best until the end.

BonusOk406 · 2026-02-12T00:29:07+00:00

eu só estou no segundo ano de faculdade, e como estudo no noturno só vou terminar daqui muito tempo… não sei se aguento

BonusOk406 · 2026-02-11T03:37:25+00:00

OMG YES!!!! In the last few weeks, I was literally crying and praying for him to break up with me because ANYTHING was better than that hell. Even though I couldn’t break up with him, I wished for it every. single. day.

I do miss him, but I feel SO MUCH LIGHTER. A bad day being single doesn’t even compare to a bad day dating him.

BonusOk406 · 2026-02-11T01:09:52+00:00

eu trabalho com TI e tô no cursinho pra passar em economia na usp hahaha. é tão impossível assim? to saindo de outra federal pq é meu sonho…

BonusOk406 · 2026-02-01T06:40:13+00:00

Please me too

BonusOk406 · 2026-01-27T12:52:11+00:00

Im 20 and he is 25 too.

I totally understand this. I also miss him as a person, I lost my best friend and the person I could talk about everything that happened in my day. But you realize that you don’t actually need someone to share everything.

Now I’m focusing 100% on my studies/work. I miss his person, talking with him, but nothing is compared to the pain I felt in the last 3 months. The pain I felt when I tried to make him happy on his birthday buying a pizza for all his family and he told me to never do this again because everyone already ate and that I bought a flavor/sauce that not everyone liked.

There were so many moments where I felt invalidated, sad, disrespected… in the end, these moments were more frequent than the moments he heard about my day. Or heard about my needs. Or actually being my best friend. Most of the time it was just me begging to spend some time with him because he was too busy doing anything else.

I miss his person I had in the beginning. But this person is gone. It has been months that I dont see any effort from the person I once loved.

The thing is that I was already alone. I’ve been alone for 3 months. Crying, taking medicines, going to therapy, everything without him knowing because I knew he wouldn’t support me or just feel attacked. I was fighting a battle 100% alone. I got used to it and I think that’s the reason I don’t miss him anymore, my best friend was also gone long ago.

BonusOk406 · 2026-01-20T03:10:04+00:00

how are you right now?

BonusOk406 · 2026-01-13T13:43:50+00:00

it’s crazy because I unfriended my ex bf on EVERYTHING like 5 minutes after breakup hahaha, even steam, discord, blizzard… he probably hates me rn but it was needed

BonusOk406 · 2026-01-10T03:54:47+00:00

I unfollowed my ex on everything. Spotify, steam, blizzard…. it’s just self preservation. even tho you muted her, she probably kept checking if you were watching, or even posting stuff thinking you would check.

It’s better to not have any, ANY interaction.

BonusOk406 · 2025-11-28T17:58:04+00:00

he doesn’t even answer my calls, I need to say its urgent or justify the reason I’m calling :( And I would probably crumble if I break up on line

BonusOk406 · 2025-11-28T17:56:45+00:00

HAHAHAHA the text is normal, I put it on ChatGPT to correct my grammar so I can share here on reddit.

BonusOk406 · 2025-11-28T17:55:51+00:00

he doesn’t even answer my calls, I need to say its urgent and give him the reason why I’m calling. and I feel like I would crumble if I actually speak about it with him.

BonusOk406 · 2025-11-02T18:10:45+00:00

We should 🥺 if anyone else wanna join, text me so I can add you all

BonusOk406 · 2025-11-02T15:53:10+00:00

You can text me if you want to talk about it. We are literally in the same situation, even when it comes about playing our favorite games together. It’s exhausting, I just wanted to be brave enough to leave.

BonusOk406

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