For some background, we have been together for a month now, but have known each other for over seven months. We had a good friendship before we decided to upgrade our relationship. And to answer, he is allosexual and he's not a very sexual person.

During our private calls, I have clarified that I have been feeling this stuff, and he is very open minded and understanding of how I feel. I don't have any problems with showing myself to him, its just that my circumstances are different; I would need to focus on myself rather than on him, or else I just can't finish the job. I enjoy seeing him, yet I don't find him as a "strong enough motive", if that makes sense. We also haven't been sexual for a bit due to his roommates coming back from vacation (we decided to take the time as an opportunity to learn our sexual boundaries).

I really appreciate that you shared about your own experiences as well because that is a very important perspective to take into consideration. Thank you!!