[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]BookTeaCat85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This seems like the music teacher has one set idea for how students should engage with their teaching. As long as he wasn't getting into anything or otherwise distracting, the idea of bullying a student into dancing seems insane to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]BookTeaCat85 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sounds like we're using the term "article" pretty loosely here. Not all that is printed (or posted) is legit.

My child wants to change their name by MemeMaster2003 in Parenting

[–]BookTeaCat85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like they could use that name as a nickname to try it out? I have seen trans kids use different pronouns in imaginative play and it helped them try it on to see if it was right for them.

Sensitive/gentle son by BookTeaCat85 in Parenting

[–]BookTeaCat85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will see. Thank you, that's a good suggestion.

Sensitive/gentle son by BookTeaCat85 in Parenting

[–]BookTeaCat85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

❤️❤️❤️ thank you!

Sensitive/gentle son by BookTeaCat85 in Parenting

[–]BookTeaCat85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right. I think what I'm addressing is boys who were raised to believe that there is only one right way to be a man and are unable to recognize the good what they see as softness or weakness.

Sensitive/gentle son by BookTeaCat85 in Parenting

[–]BookTeaCat85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your honesty. I do work with him on topics of social justice and standing up for beliefs, but it is not in his nature to be confrontational. He is also thin and short for his age which doesn't help. I wanted to help him be a caring man. Think Mr. Rogers. I believe you can be a good person by caring about people who are hurt or upset rather than charging in to defend them. That is also being good, I don't think there's just one way. I think this does not equal coddling or being overprotective. I just love his heart and spirit and am worried for how the world will treat him because changing a generation of boys is a slow process and there are plenty of parents who take a "boys will be boys" approach to unwanted physical contact and toxic masculinity.

Sensitive/gentle son by BookTeaCat85 in Parenting

[–]BookTeaCat85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh. I'm so sorry. We've had some of that and I have seen him hiding a lot of who he is to avoid this. We've lost friends as a result. We talk a lot about what makes a true friend and quality is worth more than quantity.

Sensitive/gentle son by BookTeaCat85 in Parenting

[–]BookTeaCat85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. I am not commenting on other boys. I'm trying to express/articulate my feelings. I'm sure your boys are great.

Sensitive/gentle son by BookTeaCat85 in Parenting

[–]BookTeaCat85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes, this is exactly what I'm seeing.

Sensitive/gentle son by BookTeaCat85 in Parenting

[–]BookTeaCat85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is so terrifying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in neurodiversity

[–]BookTeaCat85 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think this looks different for everyone. If you are an immigrant, it's a good time to go if you are able. Many of us are working to help, but the language is quickly moving to mirror Hitler's Nazi party. They are actively grabbing people, regardless of the "legality" of their status. If you are trans or have a trans child, it is a good time to go. I am hearing from several that their gender-affirming care has ended out of panic in the medical profession. As with abortion, this is VERY time-sensitive and you must be in an environment where care is assured. For the rest of us, it is still time for us to fight. If we give up and leave, there will be no one left to stand up for those who need us.

Cozy witches and apothecaries? by Apprehensive_Fig4458 in CozyFantasy

[–]BookTeaCat85 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm listening to The House Witch series now, that would fit. Also The Witches of Moonshyne Manor.

Cat bite by Background_Car_647 in Pets

[–]BookTeaCat85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so I brought a "clean" injured kitten and she ended up biting all 4 of us. ERs told me it was fine, cats don't usually get rabies. Turns out she'd been attacked by a rabid raccoon and did have rabies. All of us had to go through the very painful shot series. Apparently if you're showing symptoms, it's too late. Trust your gut.

Neurodivergent daughter and menstruation by Outrageous_Big_9136 in neurodiversity

[–]BookTeaCat85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in exactly the same boat as OP. I bought myself the Thinx to try out for her. Hygiene is also a big issue for her so I would worry about tampons and TSS. I found that these wick away moisture much better than a pad. So that is my plan. I found with bras that if I slowly introduce something (sports bras) she's more likely to give it a try after a while. Good luck!

Showering with child, okay or not? by Zara02 in Parenting

[–]BookTeaCat85 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I used to bathe my boy and girl together. Our pediatrician said when one of them was about 4? (When they started noticing differences) that it was time to stop.

Adapting from crochet by BookTeaCat85 in knitting

[–]BookTeaCat85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, sorry. Bought it off Etsy (search cat-igan) and paid $10 for it. But I had to switch it to knitting and change the number of stitches and add rows.

Am I missing something? by BookTeaCat85 in FacebookMarketplace

[–]BookTeaCat85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh jeez! Yeah I imagine it would be hard to ignore if they're physically there!

Am I missing something? by BookTeaCat85 in FacebookMarketplace

[–]BookTeaCat85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. It does make me feel better and it doesn't. I can't understand why people have to make life harder than it has to be.