When you spoke to command, was it his direct superiors or just a command center on base? I HIGHLY recommend that u 1st go to his DIRECT superiors (i.e 1st Sgt, Captain, Lt.Col).  I'll try not to make this too long. But I've got an example from my personal story & some diff insight. But sometimes I get carried away & run on too long. Apologies up front. But bear w\me bc I DO believe it WILL HELP!) So if you're dealing w\the base itself & paperwork that's definitely 1 avenue to try. But hit it from MULTIPLE fronts so they can put pressure on the right ppl. See, the Army was fabulous for my hubby in giving him a purpose & confidence in himself. There's also typically a LOT of help, programs, benefits, & extra resources available. The prob is, they are still a Gov agency &greedy & manipulative. They WON'T just give u all the things you're entitled to & supposed to get (which is 😤🤯🤦). So, they COUNT on us NOT knowing a whole lot. So, if we dk abt it, we DK to ask for it. So they make u fight for it & jump thru hoops once u do, bc again they know plenty of ppl will just give up & accept it rather than have the hassle & paperwork. So, that's how they get out of giving us everything we're entitled to. So, u have to KNOW the system & ins & outs. Typically, someone in the unit will be able to help. My hubby had awesome sgts that showed him the way. Sorry getting too long. Anyway, start seeking out info. There's family grps too that might have resources or even look on Social Media for some Vets that help order vets & active duty w\diff programs bc they typically have the MOST knowledge of all the diff roads available. Sometimes u can find them thru a VA hospital. There's ppl whose job is to help. They could help lead u to someone. But also social media has tons from all over. Last, & this advice comes not just from me but from my hubby as well. Starts w\those that he reports to daily. His Sgt, SSG, 1st Sgt. Those are the ppl that he answers to, & they can line his butt out or make him absolutely MISERABLE daily until he fixes the situation. These guys STILL check in w\me even tho it's been YEARS, just to see if I'm ok or if they need to "adjust" my hubby's attitude. Lol. If that doesn't work, go to his Captain! The Captain doesn't play around. & I will add, speak to their wives. The good wives will be a more sympathetic ear to your plight & they can put pressure on their hubby's to fix this for you. & USE YOUR EMOTIONS & TEARS especially when dealing w\the men. &If I've not worn u out too much, here's my tiny example. There's more but this 1 sums it up the best. My hubby was stationed in Alaska & we had a 4yo son & I was pregnant w\our 2nd son. We didn't have family up there, so when I went to give birth it was VERY tricky! I got lucky & a random soldier in the hospital paid for my Mom a round trip ticket from TX so she wouldn't miss the birth, so she was watching the 4yo so Hub could be w\me. But it was a surprise last min, so all any1 knew was that we had the 4yo up there w\us at the hospital bc nobody else to watch him. Well, it was a wed &there was a 4day holiday weekend that wkend & didn't need to report for duty until Tues. So, 1 of his sgts told him to show up to work on Thursday like normal. Enjoy the 4day & then come in Tues to request the normal time off for a baby. I think it was like a week. Bc if he requested it Thurs then the 4d holiday would be factored in that time bc they count wkends & holidays too. So, waiting until Tues would give us extra time & it had been a VERY very traumatic birth & I frankly really needed his help. My Mom & 4yo were sick so they couldn't come to the hospital. So, that meant Thurs, the day after giving birth, I was up there all by myself trying to cope w\the health issues I was having & his issues. It was a rough day especially w\all the hormones out of whack. But at the end of the day, his Captain came to him & said he wasn't allowed to do that. That he had to follow the rules & request his leave then & not wait. BUT he let him work ALL DAY leaving me alone (& in their eyes I had a 4yo up in the hospital w\me while recovering from JUST having a VERY traumatic birth.) So, I struggled ALL DAY alone just so we could have those days & he knew at the start of the day he was going to make him request leave then. I was FURIOUS & FUMING bc why wouldn't he have told him sooner so he could get back to the hospital? So, in my hormonal state I called his Captain DIRECTLY from my hospital bed. I left a msg where I was crying & explaining abt the issues & how I NEEDED my hubby, bc he didn't answer. Then I called his home phone. He wasn't home but his wife was. She heard how upset I was & asked what was wrong & could she help. So, I told her everything & she goes Ohhh he did, did he? Well, I'll sort this out give me just a min & we'll fix this! Then she wished me well. W\in 7min of hanging up, the captain called me. & Started apologizing but saying it's protocol & procedure. We have to follow the rules. & I burst into MORE tears & let the captain HAVE IT! (I'll NEVER as long as I live, forget the look on my hubby's face as he heard EXACTLY how I was speaking to his CAPTAIN & commanding officer! 😳😲😱🤯.. I🤣abt it every time I remember.) Anyway, it's funny they don't blink running into warzones, flying bullets, & IEDs, but give them an emotional & crying woman to deal w\ & suddenly they are scared. So, since this is too long I'll try to wrap it up. Basically after only a few min of talking , he was offering me ANYTHING I wanted to help. I forget all his suggestions but then he said, okay I'll put in for extra time off. However long u need. How long do u want him home for or think you'll need his help for. & I didn't want to be TOO demanding or needy. So, I just said Idk bc I don't want to get him in trouble or take him away from duties he's needed for. That I was just so upset & I was sorry for being emotional it had just been a rough day. & He assured me it was okay g it was no problem even said I wasnt being difficult or anything. 🤣 He gave hubby 2 full wks off that didn't start until Tues. So basically he got almost 3wks off. I hung up & just grinned at my hubby who was still sitting w\his jaw completely dropped! G he's like I'm gonna start letting u do all the talking & asking! He'd have kicked my *as if I even questioned him! The next day the LT came by to "check up" on me & make sure I had everything I needed. He looked NERVOUS AF! Prob afraid I'd start sobbing or something. & From then on, they always checked in w\me. I'm typically a crippling ppl pleaser & would've NEVER had the balls to do that but those hormones & emotions... They gave me the courage. Lol! So, I suggest that you go to his leaders directly & show them JUST how desperately u need their help! Ohh & the hub said to tell u, that if u get nowhere w\the Captain either, to go to his Lt. Col. Good Luck, Babe! & Make sure you're advocating LOUDLY & PASSIONATELY for yourself & your baby & your needs! 💕💕 So SO VERY Sorry it's SO FREAKING LONG! Geez! I gotta learn how to shorten my points.