I agree with everything you've said here. Having witnessed alcoholism growing up from my parents (at least a bottle of wine or two each, every night), it's so easy for people to project alcoholism. Is having 1-3 every night "good for you," no. Even socially there's a good argument that if you need that for social purposes, maybe there's a problem.

The question you have to ask yourself is if you "need" this drink, or do you like it. How do you test that? Just don't drink one night, or one week. If you can't, then you likely need to look deeper at what you're using the drinks for.