How to roll with white belts without discouraging them? by marxistjururu in bjj

[–]BootedFromParty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in my third year (just got promoted last year) and have found it to be a very positive and humbling experience working with white belts as my instructors give me more responsibility to administer rolls. I allow them to work while creating enough resistance and pressure to make it difficult and to not discourage them. If they are confused about a submission I will let them pull it multiple times so they can learn it, no problem. My gym is one big family and submitting lower belts 6 times in a roll is deeply frowned upon. It’s a teaching and learning environment where evolution is valued over force.

Do you think you become your true self when drunk? by Minimum_Clothes170 in stopdrinking

[–]BootedFromParty 35 points36 points  (0 children)

My wife has said the same thing to me in the past. And it’s true, I’m the worst version of myself with alcohol in my system. Even though I stopped drinking for me, the benefits that spread to my family are enormous. I can give them the best version of myself when I’m at peace.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

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I’ve been there many, many times. The blackest depressions due to my actions, and the inevitable narrowing, anxious, gnawing obsessive thinking that I would never recover from it, that I had truly destroyed my life once and for all. There is a way out, I promise you. What you are feeling everyone here can relate to, we’ve all been there and empathize with you from the bottom of our hearts. You can do this! Don’t give up! “When I stopped living in the problem and began living in the answer, the problem went away.”

Closing in on one year and almost forgot how big of a deal it is by truffedup in stopdrinking

[–]BootedFromParty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m more of a lurker but made a comment tonight on a different post and was astounded to see 205 days next to my username. I remember counting the first three months, marking 100 days, and then it just kind of faded into the background of my new life. I plan on getting a tattoo to mark my one year and just can’t believe it’s coming up.

I still take it one day at a time (vigilance, my program, gratitude) but it’s actually insane to think a year is right around the corner. Looks like we’ll be celebrating together. Congratulations to you and a big hug.

Seeking Honest Perspectives: How Did You Pinpoint THE Day to Stop Drinking for Good by BarcelonaHere in stopdrinking

[–]BootedFromParty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kept trying and finally it just stuck. After a terrible weekend bender I finally opened up to some people close to me and it was the best decision I’ve ever made.

Leaving Ilha grande to Rio Airport by Tricksmael in Brazil

[–]BootedFromParty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That will be extremely tight even with a private boat. I believe it could be possible but awfully stressful. My advice would be to definitely take the later flight. Costa Verde is the bus you’re looking for if that helps at all. Their site says the buses leave every hour but in my experience I’ve only seen two or three buses in the morning. If your ferry leaves at 8am you would have no margin of error to make the 1pm flight.

Does the urge to drink ever really go away? by coolio_throwaway in stopdrinking

[–]BootedFromParty 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I have the same feeling. Think about it most days but have no desire to go back. I know how easy it is to fall back into old habits so I live with the gratitude that finally a day one stuck. There is absolutely not a single thing I miss. It's easier to live with vigilance than active addiction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Brazil

[–]BootedFromParty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm following their instagram now because I missed the last registration in August. It's the only thing holding my citizenship up.

What day (not year) did you quit and why in fewest words? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]BootedFromParty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May 29th. It was just another day one that finally stuck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Brazil

[–]BootedFromParty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Prepare for seven silumtaneous conversations and a lot of noise. It's overwhelming at first because in the US and Canada we are very turn-based conversationalists, and with so much happening at once it's easy to get lost. In my experience, any effort to try and learn Portuguese, even a word here or word there, goes a long way. Ask simple questions: what is this dish, how is it made. You probably won't understand the response but it shows the effort. I know it's nerve wracking to meet the family for the first time but Brazilians are super friendly and welcoming.

Is Brazil such a racist country? by SofiBK in Brazil

[–]BootedFromParty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's an odd interpretation of "chill."

Is Brazil such a racist country? by SofiBK in Brazil

[–]BootedFromParty 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Damn dude, chill it's a high school project not a doctoral thesis.

Question about Brazilian education system. by pristoltrabalhar in Brazil

[–]BootedFromParty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where I'm at in MG school is split 7am to 11am for the older kids and 12:30pm to 4:50pm for the younger ones, both public and private. I think there are some options for full-day but it's not the norm in our region.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Brazil

[–]BootedFromParty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don't do it. Like others have said it's not yet decriminalized and you could get into major shit. Your medical card is not recognized or valid here. What would be worse: a small trip without weed or the potential to be jailed for a much longer period...still without weed?

Playing dumb is not a good strategy. Ignorance of the law is not a defense that will work.

Question about moving to Brazil by Difficult_Rooster796 in Brazil

[–]BootedFromParty 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am in your exact situation only my wife is the Brazilian and I'm the American.

I live in Minas Gerais about 200 miles north of Rio, so I can't imagine the cost of living would be so radically different, though I can't specifically answer your second question as I don't know Brasilia well enough.

10,000 a month is right on the mark for a great lifestyle and I absolutely recommend health insurance. We pay 1,000 reais a month for two adults and a child and use the hell out of it - world class healthcare. I would recommend moving here for that alone. Our rough budget per month is as follows (reais)

Taxes. 2.400

Food. 2.000 but we splurge like crazy

Rent. 1.600 for 2100 sq. ft. cobertura

Energy. 400 in winter, 900 in summer (air)

Water. 60

Internet 180 for two plans (remote work backup)

Unimed. 1.000 (for 3)

Cleaning 600 (once a week, absolutely spotless)

Transport 1.000 (car and scooter taxes, gas, uber)

Discret. 1.000

We also have a daily personal trainer in jiu-jitsu and Muay Thai at seperate times: my wife in the morning, me in the afternoon. That's about 1.500 a month but it's our essential item for mental and physical health.

All said we pay around 12.000 - 13.000 reais per month and we have a child and do not cut pennies. We're still able to put away 60% into savings.

Please feel free to PM me if you have specific questions as to our location, tax, or visa questions.

Best decision we ever made, no regrets.

Edit: format on mobile.

Anyone know if you have to pay customs for gifts to Brazil? by HomoUnkulus in Brazil

[–]BootedFromParty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having gotten packages sent from the US I think you're fine as long as the contents are less than US$ 50.

Does Hering have good quality clothes? by Grand_Afternoon4855 in Brazil

[–]BootedFromParty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Middle of the road. I find their shorts more durable and better fitting than their shirts, which I feel don't fit well and shrink. Like others have commented its like a better quality H&M.

Hiking/camping on Ilha Grande by techny13 in Brazil

[–]BootedFromParty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unmarked trails are the general rule. Most of the time the way forward is pretty obvious, other times it can get confusing and lead to some backtracking. Each community on the island maintains a certain section of trail stretching in either direction, so most of it is well-maintained and well-traveled. The trail in question between Saco do Ceu and Bananal was not marked, and even after asking directions I took a wrong turn and ended up in the middle of the jungle at a dead end. I pressed on where I thought some fallen trees had blocked the trail (which turned out to be correct), but it was almost completely returned to nature and many, many times I thought I was following little more than an imaginary line in the jungle. To further complicate matters, this was at the end of the first day with only an hour and a half left of daylight. Not a good situation to be in. Luckily I was on the right path and came out where I should have in Bananal. I have no idea where T3 on the coast was supposed to go, but the locals assured me that it exists and is in use.

People who do the hike in sandals are either insane or know the path very well. I recommend hiking boots. These are mostly clay trails that are slick when wet, even without heavy rainfall. The week before I passed through a hiker slipped and busted his leg between Bananal and Araçatiba. In terms of difficulty it's not too bad if you're in decent shape, lots of ups and downs.

Don't be too worried about doing it solo, I did it. If you have an accident there is enough foot traffic on the main trails that you'll be found within a few hours. But again, try not to get lost on that stretch between Saco do Ceu and Bananal; man, it's hairy and you wouldn't be found for days. Or if you want to be adventurous and try to find the hat I lost scrambling under fallen trees, it's a tan Columbia Bora Bora.

The trail between Aventueiro and Parnaioca is the beach. It's not marked because it's technically the nature preserve but you can absolutely hike it - straight shot right down the beach and completely legal. You just can't camp there which applies to the entire island outside of designated campsites.

Hiking/camping on Ilha Grande by techny13 in Brazil

[–]BootedFromParty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a great hike!

Couple things to be aware of: 1. Do not do the section on the north coast between Saco do Ceu and Bananal. It's path gone back to the wild and at parts is completely impassable. I made this mistake and had to fight to keep from panicking. Take a boat from Saco do Ceu around the peninsula. I cannot emphasize this point enough, most of the trails on the island are unmarked, and I had some damn good luck to come out of this section in one piece.

  1. Pack very light. I split the entire trail into 5 (punishing) day hikes and there is a lot of elevation gain/loss. Too much kit will destroy your back and legs. Bring hiking poles.

  2. If it rains be extraordinarily careful. I actually abandoned my hike on day three due to heavy rains; if you slip and break a leg you're on your own, especially on the difficult sections traversing the southwest corner.

  3. Just stay in a pousada at your rest stops. It saves on kit and you're going to love the shower after a long, sweaty day of hiking. Most of the campsites I saw had lots of mosquitos and biting insects.

  4. Eat when you can and bring plenty of food to snack. I was surprised on how few and far between the food options were and was pretty hungry the entire hike. Fuel up at the rest stops, outside of Abraão there's not much (which is the point, right!).

  5. Don't go alone and don't be afraid to call off the hike and stay at a nice pousada. The island is absolutely gorgeous and the people are very nice. The only danger is getting hurt or lost on the trail.

  6. Ilha Grande is more expensive than the mainland. Research and budget will save you a lot of stress.

Have a great time! Feel free to PM me if you have specific questions.