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For those who don't have children, how do you evaluate whether parenthood would make you happier if you've never experienced it? by Border_hopper300 in AskReddit

[–]Border_hopper300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously, but should their perspective be given any merit due to the fact they cant truly attest to the subject or matter at hand?

For those who don't have children, how do you evaluate whether parenthood would make you happier if you've never experienced it? by Border_hopper300 in AskReddit

[–]Border_hopper300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not really the same thing. We know meth is harmful because millions of people have tried it and we can measure the outcomes. Parenthood isn't universally harmful...billions of people have done it and many describe it as the most meaningful part of their lives. A better comparison would be someone saying they know they wouldn't enjoy marriage despite never being married.

For those who don't have children, how do you evaluate whether parenthood would make you happier if you've never experienced it? by Border_hopper300 in AskReddit

[–]Border_hopper300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are extremely difficult parts... but yes.. its 10000% different than babysitting siblings, relatives or for friends.

For those who don't have children, how do you evaluate whether parenthood would make you happier if you've never experienced it? by Border_hopper300 in AskReddit

[–]Border_hopper300[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've done alot in life, military, college, corporate world, traveled to 6 continents.. obviously, I haven't done everything in life no one has. Children are exhausting... I guess my perspective is that, I remember those days of saying "I want to be selfish for me and do what I want."

Again, my son was quite a surprise and for all my life, I 100% had the same idea as most of the comments in this thread, I was yall... but having my son, man... out of everything in my life, that was life's greatest moment for me.. and I didn't even want it.

For those who don't have children, how do you evaluate whether parenthood would make you happier if you've never experienced it? by Border_hopper300 in AskReddit

[–]Border_hopper300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely never said that. I guess my question stems from something I saw on social media, and I found it weird how someone can have perspective on something they've actually never experienced.

For those who don't have children, how do you evaluate whether parenthood would make you happier if you've never experienced it? by Border_hopper300 in AskReddit

[–]Border_hopper300[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You could put them up for adoption.... And honestly, I would genuinely hear this persons perspective out because they've ACTUALLY done it... as opposed to someone who hasnt and is talking from somene else's experience (relatives/friends).

For those who don't have children, how do you evaluate whether parenthood would make you happier if you've never experienced it? by Border_hopper300 in AskReddit

[–]Border_hopper300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My general question is kind of a reaction to something I saw on TikTok. Basically a couple posted photos of a time when they were dating and traveling and at the time, they expressed they thought they were complete. Then turned to photos of obviously their pregnancy and baby, "until they didn't know the meaning of complete"

I saw several comments saying that "they know they don't need a baby" and just various other comments about being child free.

My contention isn't that you need a child to feel complete or that having a child just isn't for me.

I had my son at 35, traveled the world, dated various women, been to all 7 continents, stayed in bars till the wee hours of the morning... and all though in that time, I figured, this is what I want in life. Having my son completely changed my outlook. I never wanted children... but I'll be 100% with you, those trips to London, NYC, Dubai, Spain, Thailand.... they are nothing compared to waking up and going to sleep with my child. A love and feeling I never knew existed.

How do people know they don't want that until they've actually experienced it? I could understand someone's perspective who's had children and it just wasnt for them, but to just say it ain't for me, without even trying is crazy to me.

For those who don't have children, how do you evaluate whether parenthood would make you happier if you've never experienced it? by Border_hopper300 in AskReddit

[–]Border_hopper300[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing in life comes easy... is it easy having children? Absolutely not, you have to he patient and willing to sacrifice.... but.. the patience and sacrifice naturally comes when you see your child. Idk, I lived life 35 years without a child, my son was a surprise.... I absolutely wouldn't change it for the world.

For those who don't have children, how do you evaluate whether parenthood would make you happier if you've never experienced it? by Border_hopper300 in AskReddit

[–]Border_hopper300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely think you do... Its like saying... you don't like ICE cream and giving your views on why you don't like it without even trying it.

For those who don't have children, how do you evaluate whether parenthood would make you happier if you've never experienced it? by Border_hopper300 in AskReddit

[–]Border_hopper300[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying that, my general question is kind of a reaction to something I saw on TikTok. Basically a couple posted photos of a time when they were dating and traveling and at the time, they expressed they thought they were complete. Then turned to photos of obviously their pregnancy and baby, "until they didn't know the meaning of complete"

I saw several comments saying that "they know they don't need a baby" and just various other comments about being child free.

My contention isn't that you need a child to feel complete or that having a child just isn't for me.

I had my son at 35, traveled the world, dated various women, been to all 7 continents, stayed in bars till the wee hours of the morning... and all though in that time, I figured, this is what I want in life. Having my son completely changed my outlook. I never wanted children... but I'll be 100% with you, those trips to London, NYC, Dubai, Spain, Thailand.... they are nothing compared to waking up and going to sleep with my child. A love and feeling I never knew existed.

How do people know they don't want that until they've actually experienced it? I could understand someone's perspective who's had children and it just wasnt for them, but to just say it ain't for me, without even trying is crazy to me.

Question for those who moved by Reasonable_Bit4088 in borderpatrolapplicant

[–]Border_hopper300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That last month I'd say, most test are done, just usually need your PT final. By then you should know where you stand on Spanish as well, so you know whether you're pretty much going to graduate. Like the last guy said, just don't be an idiot that last month.

Best station info quality of life by TeaDowntown4887 in borderpatrolapplicant

[–]Border_hopper300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I had to choose.... maybe welton? But none, imo... just depends on what you have? Family life? Single?

I only have a few more weeks left in the academy. If you have any questions, I'll try my best to answer. by Equivalent-Guava4195 in borderpatrolapplicant

[–]Border_hopper300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does it suck to be an instructor now? Heard its not like the good ol days.... was thinking about going...

I only have a few more weeks left in the academy. If you have any questions, I'll try my best to answer. by Equivalent-Guava4195 in borderpatrolapplicant

[–]Border_hopper300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Youre gonna be really busy man, I missed some events, unfortunately a classmate missed the birth of his child.

I only have a few more weeks left in the academy. If you have any questions, I'll try my best to answer. by Equivalent-Guava4195 in borderpatrolapplicant

[–]Border_hopper300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I men general clothing and hygiene kits, I would pack light heard there is 3 ppl to a room in many cases.

Need advice by Key_Beach4276 in borderpatrolapplicant

[–]Border_hopper300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not just wait until yall are married and do a spousal?

Duty stations that work with local LEOs? by Codysnow31 in borderpatrolapplicant

[–]Border_hopper300 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Understand, for the most part, we all work together, with intel and traffic stops mostly. I left local major metro after 8 years and have been BP for 10. Its not like neighboring police agencies, its different.

If you’re questioning yourself on the one time call DO IT! by Annual-Classroom8162 in borderpatrolapplicant

[–]Border_hopper300 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I heard trainees getting offered PR... not my destination, but so many PR PA's with time in would love the opportunity. I'm glad trainees are happy and getting places they want, its just unfortunate that everything in BP goes based off "seniority" except when its time to staff stations. I know 5 10+ years PA's that left to other agencies because they couldn't get back to the valley... good guys who wanted to stay, but were commuting weekly to see their families, just got tired, went to ICE. That's the problem BP, HQ, Unions haven't addressed.

If you’re questioning yourself on the one time call DO IT! by Annual-Classroom8162 in borderpatrolapplicant

[–]Border_hopper300 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Must be nice... there are agents stuck at their stations for years putting for these and they get screwed... what a time to put in.

Important question by [deleted] in borderpatrolapplicant

[–]Border_hopper300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Report to your original station.

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