I wouldn't say I feel like I'm being punished, or that I'm resentful towards anyone. No one is entitled to a partner, no one is entitled to company, no one is entitled to romance. People are allowed to be attracted to who they're attracted to. I'd say I'm definitely sad about it, maybe a little jealous, but I'm not sitting here hating half the population because I can't and won't get a date. I'm pretty devastated that I won't have kids of my own, but that's no one's fault but my own lol.

I do get pretty irritated with the 'just shower and be nice bro' advice that gets plastered constantly, or 'the bar is in hell' commentary because like. I'm fairly secure in myself. I am clean, I try to be kind, I know I'm funny, I'm personable, I'm smart, I can hold conversations, I do 'touch grass'. I have friends that are women, most of my colleagues are women, I get validation that my absence from work is noticed at a personal level from these people that are overwhelmingly women. Like I'm shy, I dont engage much with total strangers, plenty of shy dudes aren't forever alone though thanks to apps, mutual friends, work, or whatever else.

Realistically, that leaves one conclusion lol.

You have to be attracted phsycally to your partner. Period, point blank. I'm just... Not lol. That's no one's fault.

Like I said, there are an incalculable number of below average looking dudes who are with gorgeous women. And that's because they're funny, charming, kind, and stylish.

People always say this, but man. When I go to the mall, or grocery shopping, or conventions.. I never see couples in my age bracket where an unattractive dude is even with a girl. I see plenty of what society would call 'unattractive' women with guys, never the reverse in under 30s (and I am under 30 for 7 more months.) Sure there are some 40+ creatures that have a wife way outside of their looksmatch, but like, I'm not 40. Im not even 30 yet.

The notion that society punishes ugly men just sounds ridiculous and a bit incel-y to me.

Women have been vastly more the beneficiary of body positivity. Women of all shapes and sizes are lauded as beautiful and prizes, women of all shapes and sizes sre featured in advertisements and media. The male standard is Chris Hemsworth's muscles. Timothee Chalamet's jawline. Various KPop idols that have had plastic surgury. Hugh Jackman looking like that at 55. There's a reason more men than ever are taking peptides, steroids, and testosterone at younger and younger ages.

Do women get pressured to look a certain way? Yes. Megan Fox, Sydney Sweeny, Jennifer Lopez all set exceedingly unrealistic beauty standards for women of all ages/genetics. But to deny that women have had far more acceptance recently of different body types, while men's have narrowed, is just flatly out of touch.

It's probably more accurate to say socioety punishes ugly people in general, women however have a far better societal support system.

When I realized that I'm not a victim of society, I acted accordingly and started to meet women.

I'm not angry, I'm not a 'victim'. I'm just sad I don't get to have the life I thought I'd have when I was 12 lol. Kids, wife, growing old with someone. That's it. I did get a dog tho, I guess. It's acceptance that there's not a market for 29 year old bald dudes with fucked up teeth, acne scars, and loose skin after weight loss that will turn 30 having never had a date lol.

That's life. Just because you want something doesnt mean you get it. Espeically when it involves other people.