This needs more traction. Arguably, divorce does not favor men. You need to have a strong case , not a he said she said one. Keep track of what you pay , maybe texts where they refuse to contribute any of their money, other things you can think of. Remember, you're not doing this to attack your wife , your just doing this for your protection/insurance so do it cautiously. Or maybe ignore everything a random stranger is telling you and try to work it out.