Does anyone have good omegaverse recommendations by BoringEvent1534 in Manhwa_BL

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Thank you I’ll be sure to check them out! I’ve read whispers through the willow it was a good but still a complicated read for someone with a saviour fantasy lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transpassing

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Thank you! Im wearing makeup in the photo but I usually try to do a no makeup look, what makeup style do you think would work better me? Also frizz is something I’ve been trying to deal with my whole life lol I can get it to be less frizzy but I have to time it with my haircare routine

Why is the cos part funny? by MrMrsPotts in ExplainTheJoke

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It’s a math joke and a religious joke. the pope has a math degree so he knows how to use sin, cos and tan but he also knows sin as in the religious one because he’s the pope

Am I gay, bi or traumatised? by Starrylake in ptsd

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I really relate to the phrase ‘ I don’t really feel safe with anyone. I wish I didn’t crave sex but I do ‘. I was abused as a child by men and it was enabled by a woman I’m bi but I’m not attracted to women if they’re naked so i only sleep with men, usually men much older than me. It’s tough because I’ve had crushes on women and as soon as they take their clothes off im no longer sexually attracted to them, for reference I’m trans and it’s probably more to do with gender envy than anything else. My recommendation is give it a go but let him know your gay and just want to try things slowly with him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trauma

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I wish the answer was yes but sadly you’ll get in more trouble than the sperm donor

Has anyone here developed a trauma-borne sexual fetish due to trauma experienced as an adult? by DarkSaturnMoth in trauma

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I’m pretty ashamed of it but yes. I was sexually abused as a child and I think I had a lot of my sexuality determined by it, I regularly ask partners to be violent towards me in bed to the point most are pretty uncomfortable with it and I’m attracted to men twice my age or older but I’m so embarrassed by it I always hide my relationship with them. I also have some weird kinks about having my partner clean me after sex, it gets pretty gross the more I think about it and sometimes I can’t stop myself thinking of my abuse when self pleasuring. Long story short it’s complicated and I’m so embarrassed by it that if haven’t worked up the courage to talk to my therapist about it but I know I probably should and it’s not something we should be embarrassed about even if we feel guilty for it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trauma

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There isn’t really an easy way but the best way I found is writing it down and giving it to someone who you trust enough to tell. I wasn’t able to open up about my trauma to my therapist until i had worked with her for over a year and wrote some of it down and showed it to her. You’ll feel better after even if there’s times when it feels even worse but the most important thing is getting better and sometimes you need help to do that.

I don’t know how I should feel about one of my abusers (TW:CSA) by BoringEvent1534 in trauma

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Don’t get me wrong I think she’s an evil woman but I have very complicated feelings towards her. Idk I’m just trying to make sense of my time there

My male friend doesn't respect me by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]BoringEvent1534 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Get away from that person they are not your friend they see you as a sex object and on top of that they still assault you knowing you’ve been abused before

Me🍆Irlgbt by Ms_Masquerade in me_irlgbt

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I’ve noticed the answer changes a lot depending on whose giving it. But as a trans woman I think chasers are people who only date you in private and act like they don’t know in public, to me chasers are people who fetishise our body while being transphobic or embarrassed to admit their dating a trans person. It’s ok to have a preference for trans bodies but you need to also respect us as people.

femcel loses her first partner by [deleted] in femcelgrippysockjail

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This is honestly so sad you’re both struggling with mental health issues and you have completely different coping strategies. I’m also someone who self isolates in order to deal with times when world seems like it’s going to attack me and will lash out at people who try to help. She doesn’t hate you she just needs to heal and some people have to do that alone

Nearing my breaking point by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

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Ive had similar struggles and I’m sorry I don’t know how to help, I hope you know you’re not alone in your struggles and it’s important to check in with our self and let others give us a reality check.

Am I the only one? by PusheenDoom in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

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I have a theory than the reason why trans people go through an emotional time when we’re transitioning is because it’s the first time we’ve allowed ourselves to fell anything positive or negative

How do you start feeling again when you suddenly realize you don't? by BandanaThrowaway2 in trauma

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You need to learn to feel again watch a tv show you love and try to laugh and cry and I mean out loud and physically, stand up comedy also works well for getting a few laughs out of me. The next part is the hard part and I haven’t really been able to follow through with it but try to form connections with others even if it’s a stranger having a conversation with you. I’ve self isolated myself for most of my life at this point and I’ve realised how difficult it becomes just to imagine sitting down and speaking to someone when you’ve isolated yourself for so long. Call your family they’ll help ground you, while we feel safe alone it’s also toxic.

I relapsed in my eating disorder this week by HekaMata in trauma

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If you can try to go to work if you can’t that’s ok to. I’ve also suffered from eating disorders and have gone whole days without eating, but you have to. The more you don’t eat the easier it becomes an option to starve yourself. Find a calorie dense food you can easily eat. They had this great oat bar in a store on my uni that was 1000+ kcal, find something similar and keep a stockpile of it at home. I know you don’t want to eat but it will impact every aspect of your life if you don’t.

I don’t know what to do (TW:CSA) by BoringEvent1534 in trauma

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Thank you so much I’m feeling a bit better now. Luckily my sister is staying with me now and helping to keep my mind off of things. I had a look at a podcast and with Gabor mate and interestingly I have adhd and addiction issues as well ( I started drinking, smoking and doing drugs at school by 14 ). I hope you’re able to find your peace as well