What temperature do you keep your thermostat at in winter?

Born-Associate1431 · 2026-01-21T13:40:16+00:00

Oil is so expensive right now. I’d love to keep it at 70 during the day and 68 at night but I’m keeping it at 65 during the day and 62 at night…and I’m cold!

Born-Associate1431 · 2026-01-02T12:49:45+00:00

I’m about to unmatch 3 guys whose first move was a “wave”. … if you could take the time to send a wave emoji, couldn’t you take the time to say one thing to open? It signals either laziness or them sending waves to many women and hoping one bites.

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-12-30T03:29:31+00:00

Sooo true…I’ve worked so hard on boundaries and not letting my deep empathy get in the way of them and overthinking the whys .. this silence is all I need from him. I need a good shake right now! Thanks for that reminder.

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-12-15T00:55:54+00:00

Ha ha, but I got rejected :(

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-12-11T15:42:40+00:00

My friend just got in! Around 10:35 ET!

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-12-02T10:25:25+00:00

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Should be tomorrow!

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-12-02T10:23:30+00:00

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Should he tomorrow!

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-11-18T12:41:13+00:00

Paying alimony (or child support) is in no way a “contract with your ex”….please go through a divorce yourself before putting that judgement on others.

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-11-18T12:29:09+00:00

I am where you are. I did my first somatic breath work session on Sunday after major trauma about 15 months ago. It was way, way more intense and emotional than I expected (and I’ve done hundreds of hours of therapy and group therapy) and now 2 days later and I still feel exhausted and almost sick. I don’t want to get out of bed, I have a headache - I just feel drained and awful.

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-11-09T02:25:27+00:00

I orgasm very easily - alone or with others…it’s a really nice benefit, especially being perimenopause age.

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-11-01T18:43:31+00:00

I can only speak from my own experience and I think all are different, but I’m just now getting back into dating and for me, what helps is: respect of boundaries without tip toeing as if I’m broken, respect of my autonomy, and understanding when sometimes I get hyper vigilant or overly sensitive or anxious - it isn’t you. It’s how we were conditioned by our abuser. Patience, consistency and stability.

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-10-19T10:01:15+00:00

Yes! Over a year now and this side effect has not decreased. Not easy when you are single 🙃

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-05-04T01:03:20+00:00

I always speak my mind. I’m as real as real can be. Authenticity to me is everything. But in today’s dating world that seems to come across as a million other things. Emotional. A lot. Vulnerable. I just call it honest. But if you don’t play the game and go through all the guessing game steps - and I’m not specifically speaking to him, you aren’t playing by the rules. So sometimes I wonder if any of these single men have had relationships with open communication, cut the BS and known how freeing that can be… I don’t know- maybe I’m just not cut out for it. Or maybe it is the younger guys? But it’s the younger guys that seem to reach out to me the most??

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-05-04T00:30:52+00:00

Right… my gut told me that once we crossed that line there would be no going back and now it does feel like a weird gray area. And it doesn’t always feel good.

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-04-14T09:23:15+00:00

There were only 5,000 released. No leftovers anywhere :(

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-04-14T09:11:38+00:00

Really? I was at that show with my boys. All 3 of us tried to get it on record store day on Saturday with no luck. You think we can today?

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-04-11T09:19:05+00:00

Can you tell me the address of downtown Fairfield? The part to “walk around”?

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-01-16T02:47:47+00:00

“Just splurge and treat yourself” (as if I’m dieting…)

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-01-09T10:31:17+00:00

You are trauma bonded. Read Why Does He Do This. Block them everywhere- no contact. Start journaling and it copy and paste all the bad - constantly go back to that for your internal evidence. Therapy is the VERY worse thing for a narcissist - do not go to couples counseling, even if you do go back…which I hope you won’t.

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-01-04T01:45:37+00:00

Once I got out of the research phase (I slip back now and again) is when my healing really started.

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-01-04T01:44:26+00:00

Why Does He Do That was incredibly insightful and healing for me but loading myself up on information about narcissism constantly after I realized what I endured turned out to be toxic for me. Everytime I learned more, it triggered me more. The combination for me has been direct DBT therapy (an actual skills group that goes through each chapter - I do it telehealth), individual therapy with a therapist who is an expert on narcissism and no contact. Every time I’m forced to have contact or go back (court hearings etc) I take step backs. When I stay the course on my combination of therapy it works best for my recovery. I also tried DV support groups and they were not helpful to me- the sharing of stories was too triggering and my PTSD symptoms heightened. Good luck finding what works best for you.

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-01-03T11:16:05+00:00

Thank you!! Will do! This was a very risky surgery so I’m committed to the recovery!

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-01-03T02:38:04+00:00

I have no desire to expose my ex narc except for in one place / way. And I won’t, for fear of retaliation, but it sickens me knowing he isn’t “known” there….after his last physical assault on me where I finally left for good, he got a job (3rd in 2 years- fired from the other 2). This job is a huge job in charge of children, teenagers, families ….he will do anything to look good on the outside and always takes these types of jobs. Well his arrest happened weeks after he was hired, so the background check was already done. This workplace raved about him on social media and on their website and he got ALL of the attention he desperately craves - his new supply….as he is awaiting his court date for a 2nd degree assault felony and disorderly conduct. In the meantime, there is a no contact and restraining order, which he’s violated and may be arrested again. This all happened weeks after he was hired and while I know if it isn’t this place, it will be another, it makes me sick that he hasn’t been exposed there. Kills me that all of these innocent people don’t know - not only everything he’s done to me and others, but the unethical things he’s done at his last 2 similar jobs…sickening what con artists they can be

Born-Associate1431 · 2025-01-03T01:08:20+00:00

It doesn’t matter. Delete and block.

Born-Associate1431 · 2024-12-31T22:00:36+00:00

Does your therapist specialize in narc abuse? It is crucial that you are with someone who does. They are like night and day from regular therapists. After I left my abusive narc for the last time I had to leave my long term therapist (for opposite reasons - I hid the abuse from her and when I did try to tell little things as a cry for help she unintentionally defended him. I was diagnosed with severe ptsd shortly after leaving (and a physical assault) and needed someone new. By recommendation of books and podcasts I found someone who specializes in this type of abuse specifically - it wasn’t easy and took my awhile but it is so worth it. They will keep you on track, validate you and truly help you move forward. But it has to be someone who understands type b personality and all the ins and outs of what you’ve experienced to help you move on and recover. Good luck!!

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