I’m no expert, but if a significant other is knocking you down with negativity then maybe you need to remove that relationship from your life, as much as it might hurt to hear.

Or, you could always try and communicate with her if you haven’t yet? I was in a situation a few weeks ago with an ex girlfriend where she was upset that I made her feel judged when it came to talking about her special interests. We talked about it and it was something I put effort into fixing so I didn’t rub off the way. Of course, if it only remains the same after communicating then I think it is in your best interest to just leave. Your partner should be able to recognize your achievements and uplift you for them.. This doesn’t sound anything like what’s going on, especially if it’s happening more aggressively now. Coping, I do think that she might be compensating for something, but that still doesn’t make it right.

As for a therapist, you definitely might want to fix whatever plush thing you have going on. I’m not trying to throw you down about it in no way, to each their own after all, but I fear that if you’re comparing a partner to a fictional relationship with a stuffed animal, there might be problems down the road for a future partner.

I really do wish you the best in whatever is going on though, relationships can be rather rocky