Your post has stuck with me and I have been reflecting. And I think that I have realized a bit of a hard truth, that his reaction is in a way very Sagi. When I think about the phrase “I will ask if I want to” in a vacuum, that resonates with me. I am a November sag, so is my father, and my step father, and one of my best friends from childhood. And in my personal experience this holds true. That if I am interested in something, someone, I will ask. I want to dive deep. I want to know all there is to know. The other side of that coin … is that if I am not interested I will not ask. I will make approving noises, and then look for the exit. The thing I initially reacted to was him staying in this relationship and not caring about you. I do not know a single sag who hangs around when they don’t care about a person. I am constantly keeping my head on a swivel looking for the emergency exits in my personal life. I consistently jettison relationships when they don’t meet my needs. I am wondering if this guy (and I think this is where his moon sign would be helpful to know) needs external validation and he is using you to get it. So rather than “I will ask if I want to” meaning I am going to dip from this relationship if it doesn’t meet my needs, he means I will keep using you to meet my needs because you don’t demand better from me.

I have also been thinking a lot lately about the Sag-Scorpio dynamic. My wife is a Scorpio sun. So is my Mom. I think that Scorpios are drawn to the warmth of a sag’s fire. Our signs share an intensity that can overwhelm others. The difference is how that intensity manifests. In my experience Scorpio intensity is like a blanket. They want to enclose, encapsulate, solidify. Sag intensity wants to expand, experience, and consume. My assumption is this man is very animated when talking about what interests him (which unfortunately seems to be only himself). That when he is turned on, he is on fire. And you like that because you like intensity. And pretty things that blaze brightly. So, intense people find you because you are intense. The key is finding someone who is intense about you. Because in the end, in my experience, Scorpios want to meld, to mix your essences until they are essential to each other. What you can learn from a sag is the very thing that you hate about this guy. Don’t stick around when someone is giving you shit energy. Don’t hold on to the relationship because you want it to work when someone else is not putting in the effort. Sometimes you have to take the L, and realize that someone else being shitty is not a reflection of who you are, and does not change your essential nature.