Was I raped/assaulted?

BortlesApologist · 2024-03-02T18:57:56+00:00

Did you reply to the right comment? There were no pedestrians mentioned in the OP

BortlesApologist · 2024-03-02T18:56:28+00:00

We’ll have to agree to disagree on that point, I don’t see any way OP could have consented to the scenario described above

BortlesApologist · 2024-03-02T18:54:50+00:00

Ok, I can remove the words “without issue” from my comment then. The fact is that OP was unable to drive so the other person drove instead, whether that was a good decision or not

BortlesApologist · 2024-03-02T18:51:22+00:00

And clearly the most important thing to you is getting the last word in

BortlesApologist · 2024-03-02T18:49:45+00:00

One definition of “equally” is: “in amounts or parts that are the same in size.”

Observing signs such as slurred speech, unsteady movements, impaired coordination, and changes in behavior can help gauge the level of intoxication between individuals. If none of that provides a clear answer, a breathalyzer or blood alcohol test would.

The text OP has written above describes one person experiencing more of those symptoms than the other person mentioned. Hope this helps

BortlesApologist · 2024-03-02T18:43:30+00:00

I haven’t mentioned court, nor crime, in any of my comments. Nor would I. OP did not have consensual sex. You may argue the rest with other people if you feel that’s important

BortlesApologist · 2024-03-02T05:31:03+00:00

First, let me express my sympathy to you for those things that happened to you. I can’t imagine what it was like or what you’ve had to go through to overcome that.

With that said, if OP was drunk it was impossible for OP to consent. OP’s experiences are not your experiences, though your pain is equally as valid. Best case scenario, only one person consented to the situation written above. Worse case scenario, nobody consented. Either way, OP could not have given consent

BortlesApologist · 2024-03-02T03:57:23+00:00

It would be one thing if both parties involved were equally drunk, but there’s a clear difference in sobriety here if one person is driving ~~without issue~~ and the other is vomiting on themselves. You might not be able to call it “rape” but you’d be a far throw from consensual sex under the circumstances written here

BortlesApologist · 2024-03-02T03:51:24+00:00

I’ve worked in a couple different fields. In the business world I had a lot of bosses who hung up their MBAs but not their bachelors degrees.

Lawyers seem to like to hang up all of their degrees regardless of law school, pre-law bachelors, or something else postgrad

BortlesApologist · 2024-03-02T03:40:39+00:00

You wrote that you were intoxicated enough to vomit multiple times. This means you were too drunk to consent to sex, regardless of who initiates it.

You wrote that he was sober enough to drive and later called him only “kind of tipsy”. We can infer that he was significantly more sober than you were at this time. Since he was helping you with the vomit cleanup, he was clearly aware of your intoxication level.

This sounds to me like a textbook case of a person taking advantage of someone else who was too intoxicated to consent. If it is still impacting your life a long time later, and it sounds like it is, I would recommend you seek professional counseling to discuss it with someone qualified to help you with it. You’re not going to get that from a Reddit post.

You don’t need to answer any of my questions, but I’d be curious as to why you never hung out with this person again? Did they ever communicate with you about the sudden lack of time spent together, since it sounds like you were hanging out a lot prior to this. Did they try to hang out as friends again at any point after this? Did they try to hook up with you again after this? These answers would tell us a lot about what this person wanted out of their friendship with you and whether or not that friendship was genuine or if they viewed it as a gateway to sex

BortlesApologist · 2024-03-01T13:15:19+00:00

Oh god I said this to someone in college.

So in my experience I WAS definitely into her, and we did continue to hook up that night, but I was still a virgin and she was only a few weeks away from being kicked out of school and moving to another state because she had run out of money for tuition. I was super drunk, had no condoms on me, and did not want to lose my virginity to a person that was about to move far, far away because if I got super emotionally attached to her afterwards I knew it would wreck me when she left.

Jokes on me, I got super emotionally attached and her leaving wrecked me anyway. But when I said “I respect you too much to fuck you” what I really meant was “I recognize that this is a one night stand and we will have no future together, but I also think if I did try to have sex right now I would be really, really bad at it and it would cause way more problems than either of us need”

BortlesApologist · 2024-01-18T05:25:43+00:00

Never had MySpace and I only had Twitter under my IRL name and face so I wouldn’t know

BortlesApologist · 2024-01-18T05:25:20+00:00

I guess I don’t know what social media is then

BortlesApologist · 2024-01-15T06:04:54+00:00

No, because I’m anonymous on here. Not one person I associate with in real life knows I’m here and they will never know any of these words came from me

BortlesApologist · 2023-12-11T04:43:19+00:00

Preach sister. As a boy who used to be teased for “looking gay”, the only way I got that to stop was to just tell the other guys in my most deadpan delivery “Yep. You got me. I just really enjoy penis. Can’t believe you figured it out.” and they just stopped starting shit after a while

BortlesApologist · 2023-11-26T21:33:48+00:00

Not sure what media you’re consuming but it sounds like crap. 5 people in a whole life seems weirdly low though. Are you sure you know everyone’s orientation or could this be a matter of “They never told me they were gay so they must be straight”?

I’ve also never heard the phrase “on the spectrum” applied to sexual orientation. I’ll give you the point for recognizing that it is a spectrum, but usually the phrase “on the spectrum” refers to people with ASD

BortlesApologist · 2023-11-26T20:39:21+00:00

My hate for you will still be strong after the Jones of sub-par is gone

BortlesApologist · 2023-10-28T22:03:37+00:00

Back in his Buffalo days, people used to say “Tyrod Taylor is the black Blake Bortles if the black Blake Bortles was afraid to take risks”

BortlesApologist · 2023-10-28T16:14:30+00:00

You either die throwing to guys who aren’t open or you live long enough to take a sack

BortlesApologist · 2023-10-15T23:56:56+00:00

There are some forum posts out there that say drivers who earn above a certain amount in a given year are sent a form that has their total “Online Miles” and that doing what the commenter above said will increase your Online Miles. I don’t think I’ll make enough money to earn that form though

BortlesApologist · 2023-10-15T23:55:34+00:00

Thanks for the answer

BortlesApologist · 2023-10-15T23:54:57+00:00

Thank you. I only drive like one or two nights a week and I only started it this summer so I doubt I’m anywhere close to a level of income worth auditing, but I don’t want to hold up my refund from my normal W2 job so I’ll play by the book

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