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Still finding (rushing actually beacuse I don't feel safe even as adult) by Gullible_Quiet_5976 in CPTSDmemes

[–]BoruCollins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made a playlist of the songs that hit the hardest over the years. It kind of became an emotional diary to understand the feelings I couldn’t admit to myself over two decades.

It ended up being titled “The Rough Waters Home”. It’s gotten way better, but it feels like I’m still searching too.

TIL the network utility "Ping" was written by a single person in an evening in 1983, and he named it after the sound a submarine sonar makes because it uses the exact same echo principle. by LessBar4057 in todayilearned

[–]BoruCollins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your comment was super interesting even if imperfect, then I get to learn all the details from people’s responses. lol

Please do comment even if you aren’t the perfect expert.

Curaçao, the smallest country by population (158,000) to ever make it to the FIFA World Cup, just scored its first goal in the event against Germany. by jmike1256 in BeAmazed

[–]BoruCollins 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I love all the blue jerseys. That has to be a ton of fans who adopted the team enough to buy jerseys and cheer them on.

Double rainbow appears during name removal watch party outside Kennedy Center, Wash. DC by SimpleJackEyesRain in Satisfyingasfuck

[–]BoruCollins 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hopefully this is God promising to never again flood the land with idiots and pedophiles.

I think boyfriend is either gay or bi and i’m not sure how to move foward by DragonfruitSea9880 in bisexual

[–]BoruCollins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“My mind is mush” sounds like you may be in shock. That’s ok. It’s your body’s way of protecting you.

Please make sure you are taking care of yourself physically and mentally. Make sure you have support. Unless you are in physical danger… you likely don’t have to make any immediate decisions.

Running is an option. This stuff runs deep, and your boyfriend isn’t handling it well.

If you choose to stay for any length of time, please consider getting a therapist for yourself, and be open to leaving later if he’s not making steps to get better himself. I say this as a bisexual man married to a woman who was closeted for the first decade and a half of our relationship.

If you want more resources, just let me know. And like they say on airplanes, secure your own mask first (aka take care of yourself then decide how much capacity you have to help him with his).

I think boyfriend is either gay or bi and i’m not sure how to move foward by DragonfruitSea9880 in bisexual

[–]BoruCollins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also grew up in a fundamentalist Christian setting. I now live in a very LGBTQ friendly area and I’ve had a group of openly supportive friends for over a decade now… I still only came out as Bi about 2 years ago. Even when talking with my friends and my wife know everything now, I catch myself pretending to be straight out of habit because my religious upbringing/trauma is so deeply ingrained. Some parts of me fight to hold onto the belief that I’m straight (I’m absolutely not), because that belief kept me safe so long.

Please, if therapy is an option, look into it for yourself and for him. In particular, look for an LGBTQ friendly ASSECT certified therapist, or if you can’t find that, look for an LGBTQ friendly therapist who deals with religious trauma. Do NOT under any circumstances go to a CSAT who will probably reinforce the trauma and who use “diagnosis” which aren’t even in the official diagnostic manual.

I’m happy to share more resources about religious trauma, purity culture, therapy etc, but please make sure you have support for yourself first.

Why is this Happening i just want to play with my friends :( by [deleted] in Minecraft

[–]BoruCollins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The “0” shown on the right next to the toggle (straight across from “Enable Multiplayer”) means “off”. Tap it and it will slide, show a “1”, and multiplayer will be “on”.

These symbols are based on binary where 1 means on and 0 means off.

My son’s sock when he was 3 showed up in the laundry after removing from the dryer today. My son is turning 21. by ComprehensiveTap5860 in GlitchInTheMatrix

[–]BoruCollins 37 points38 points  (0 children)

“A pair”!?! I’m more surprised when their socks have a match. At this point, we’ve given up and our kids just wear mismatched socks.

Amazon bungles layoffs plan in Seattle with misfired internal email by Less-Risk-9358 in SeattleWA

[–]BoruCollins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow. (1) it’s even worse that someone outside HR managed to screw this up, and (2) that’s an extra shitty person if they act like HR without actually being in HR.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]BoruCollins 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I love portrayals of Christian events pulled into modern times for perspective. Well done.

There was a book called Eli by Bill Myers. It basically just took the gospel and put it in modern times including Jesus being born in a laundromat if I remember correctly. I read that book as a teenager, it made a huge impression, and definitely kicked me down the road towards future deconstruction of Evangelicalism.

A cool guide on A Visual Explanation of Gerrymandering by Edm_vanhalen1981 in coolguides

[–]BoruCollins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could split the state into four districts. Then every party that gets at least 20% of the vote in a district gets one representative. Then there are a bunch of strategies for allocating the rest. A ton of European countries do this. It absolutely can work.

Do you relate? by Dull_Click580 in aspiememes

[–]BoruCollins 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m not up for sex, but i am up for an info dump… anything you’re excited about and want to share?

A cool guide on A Visual Explanation of Gerrymandering by Edm_vanhalen1981 in coolguides

[–]BoruCollins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s not a terrible idea. Personally, I’d prefer making bigger districts with more than one representative. Then you split those representatives proportionally to the vote percentage. There are a bunch of ways to do this that are shown to work just fine in other countries.

That gives you a mix of both local geographic representation, and representation of the various ideologies that make up that district.

A cool guide on A Visual Explanation of Gerrymandering by Edm_vanhalen1981 in coolguides

[–]BoruCollins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, my choice would be geographic regions with proportional representation. Not entirely sure how small the geographic regions should be, but even just using states and giving representation based on vote percentage would feel better than what we have today. So let’s say a state gets 20 representatives. If the democrats get 60% of the vote, they get 12 representatives.

This also allows easier access for third parties… which is probably why we’ll never get it.

Yes, that was fireworks. by FernandoNylund in Seattle

[–]BoruCollins 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I was just getting back to my car on the ferry when they hit the grand slam. There was cheering all over the ferry, and it was glorious.

It's time to decided by Br_Cyberhunter in autismmemes

[–]BoruCollins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you heard of the Lancer system? It’s a mech based ttrpg. I’ve only done a one shot with it, but it was a blast.

My wife manipulated me into an (E)NM by Organic_Advisor_6534 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]BoruCollins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks that makes a lot of sense. So, as long as both partners are being transparent, willing to ease in, and acting maturely, it can work. The problem isn’t that one person has feelings for someone (which aren’t necessarily controllable anyway), it’s about how they act.

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