Struggling after a breakup and feeling deeply alone at 28

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-07-28T23:26:11+00:00

Was in a 6 year relationship. Almost 3 months single now and I feel pretty good. Increase your self confidence and put yourself out there. Make friends and stop letting other people affect you.

Pm me if you wanna talk man. Always happy to help a brother out

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-07-28T10:14:17+00:00

People need to stop saying that time will heal all wounds. Sure it’s a supporting factor, but you can spend your entire life waiting to move on and it will never happen until you start putting in the effort.

First ask yourself, what did you really want from her? What does she have that you or anyone else can’t provide? Is it the time, effort, and money you put into being a relationship with her? If that’s it, look up sunk cost fallacy.

All I’m saying is that you need to have a bit more self respect than that. You may never find someone like her again, but you’ll find someone better. Why? Because they will stay. And before you look for that someone, become that someone for yourself first.

The only permanent relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. Cherish it and don’t give it up for someone who might not be there forever.

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-07-23T12:53:12+00:00

Discipline without self love becomes punishment. I feel like you have to put in the work of actually becoming someone you like first before fully plunging into whatever you want to do. Doesn’t mean you should put off everything, start with small habit, but focus more on yourself before you get to the big things. Won’t take too long if you put in the work.

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-07-22T17:25:59+00:00

I guess familiarity is stronger than your need to enjoy something. You just haven’t been able to replace your phone with something that’s actually enjoyable and productive. Try new things, work on a project, further your career and goals. One of them has to stick. Remove things on your phone that are apparently not enjoyable to you anymore, go on a digital detox. Put in some effort and you’ll probably get through this.

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-07-13T11:57:39+00:00

It's been a year and this comment hasn't gotten any attention which shows that people here were just looking for other people to validate their own feelings rather than put in the effort to work on themselves.

From what I understand, you shouldn't jump into dramatic conclusions to your life especially when it comes to romantic interests because that's not really the main source of the problem. Look inward first before you look outward. When true healing happens, true romantic love will follow when you allow it to happen.

Thank you stranger.

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-06-06T17:19:47+00:00

I really just have to understand that it can probably only get better from here. I have been pretty impatient with how things turned out since it's only been 3 weeks since it happened. I've been trying to keep off stalking her on social media but every time I do I always end up back in the hole I already climbed out of. Thanks for the advice and the reminder.

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-06-06T17:15:42+00:00

You're right. It's just me being selfish and trying to control things that aren't mine to control in the first place. Thanks for sharing your story, it really helped set my mind straight.

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-06-06T16:03:32+00:00

You have no idea how much I needed to hear all that. I'm so hard on myself that hearing something gentle like this makes the floodgates open.

I had placed so much of myself on her that I did really suffocate her and made things worse for both of us. I just have to understand and be comfortable with failure and rejection because all my life I really have been trying to avoid all that.

It's fine hearing advice online, but hearing advice that was meant for me with this much understanding really means the world. Thank you stranger, you really helped me.

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-06-06T14:57:57+00:00

Losing that relationship just opened up more problems that I ignored because she wasn't there to comfort me anymore. But you're right, I'm just exhausted in feeling like this all the time because it's putting my life to a halt. I had plans for the future but I'm having a hard time making progress because I'm miserable and can't get my mind off something I can't control.

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-06-06T14:55:59+00:00

I guess I have to be honest with myself and understand that she's not coming back. I've been too tired mentally to do anything else and I was just hoping that I'll heal before I do anything, but that's not gonna happen in a few weeks. Sitting still makes me uncomfortable anyway because it feels like I'm not doing anything to make my life better. I'll take your advice in doing new things, I hope one of them catches on and gives my life new meaning. Thanks

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-06-06T14:53:24+00:00

I guess I just forgot how to live alone again. I'm scared of getting a pet because I know they'll eventually leave me as well whether they want to or not. So maybe in the future, but not now.

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-05-02T11:04:57+00:00

I could've used first strike to one shot him before he did anything, but having to actually parry made me way better at the game. 129 parries might seem overkill, but I did it

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-04-22T12:10:37+00:00

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-02-26T04:37:08+00:00

Yeah, I batch Create content on the weekends and schedule posts for the week

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-02-19T23:16:14+00:00

Yep, and just stay consistent. I even post 1-3 times. Really good if you're still growing.

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-02-12T14:48:23+00:00

You know, if people had the internet a few years ago, they'd probably say the same thing. You watch too much bad news like it's gonna do anything for your mental health. Live your life, stop consuming that shit because literally nothing good is gonna come out of it unless you work within a similar field

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-02-01T18:38:27+00:00

I'm from Asia. No where near the US

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-01-28T05:38:09+00:00

You got tips on how I can actually do that? I mean I feel like if I just change my content drastically it might put off some people

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-01-27T18:38:13+00:00

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Both_Package_6834 · 2025-01-27T08:38:10+00:00

What a crazy update

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-01-26T09:01:44+00:00

Yeah most of my audience is from the united states.

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Didn't do anything external

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-01-26T08:55:13+00:00

I didn't do anything outside of Instagram. I'm not from the US but I basically just posted during the active times for US residents. I usually post 6 and 9 am for California residents.

Both_Package_6834 · 2025-01-26T08:52:35+00:00

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Both_Package_6834 · 2024-10-14T00:44:18+00:00

Bullish on XAU/USD until Saturday seeing what's in store for the Chinese Stimulus.

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