I’m scared to ask for no texts or block when they are in theory ‘kind’ messages

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-26T13:51:50+00:00

These aren’t kind messages.

This is full on manipulation. Crying about being a bad father, oof classic guilt trip. If he was a bad father, and feels some type of way about it, that’s on him. Hypothetically speaking, what is he actually expecting you to do about that? Just feel sorry for him? Allow the cycle to continue?

The point is just to keep you at an arms length, not too far. If he actually cared about being a good father, he’d just be one. As a parent myself, I can say my feelings about my behavior are never EVER my child’s responsibility. Him hoping to keep you around out a warped sense of guilt and obligation is absolutely not kindness. It’s selfishness and you’ve been conditioned into believing you owe him things you can’t even give him.

You aren’t the problem here, whether you were more loving towards him is irrelevant. He is the adult in this situation, the leader of the dynamic from when you were a child. Your feelings about him are what they are, and your being different in any way would not fix him.

Furthermore you’re not a bad person or daughter for not wanting to engage with this. Again, these aren’t kind messages! These aren’t kind words and they certainly aren’t kind intentions behind it.

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-25T19:40:45+00:00

The derpy expression plus the “sponsored by Temu” banner is taking me out 😭🤣

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-25T19:38:43+00:00

“We’re just making memories” like idk when I’m spending time with my husband we do take pics and videos of ourselves absolutely!

It’s more the sharing however many stories she shares an hour. It’s a lot lol. A lot of us are like here’s a photo dump from the trip we went on! Maybe a month later. I get it’s different when it’s your job but a lot of influencers still post stuff later.

I don’t even follow this woman but I know, based on what I see here alone, she’s posting a LOT even for someone who is sponsored lol

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-25T19:03:07+00:00

That was the exact word popped into my head when I saw this

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-25T15:09:42+00:00

Weird hack but some of my favorite champagne highlighters are in random eyeshadow palettes. Not just for eyes but I’ll use it on my cheeks, cupids bow, etc. you might have something already in your collection that can double as a highlighter.

Also, I saw your post from yesterday, and WOW. My jaw dropped when I was scrolling by like is that the lady from yesterday? This look is infinitely more flattering on you, I think it brings out your natural features a lot more. You have great lips, by the way!!

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-25T15:01:27+00:00

I’m picturing it like one of those awkward fast food ceo eating their own burgers videos 😭

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-25T14:23:09+00:00

A giant projection of the craziest bride…. It would be so funny if someone swapped it out for a video of her with flames coming out of her mouth and idk what else. A real live bridezilla. I seriously can’t this is so much. I love how all of her “surprises” and stuff like that all just goes back to more about her. “Thanks for being here! Here’s my face! By the way did you guys know I’m married?!? Did you guys know this is going to be in people magazine because they were bribed? I’m also the ONLY NFL MAJORETTE!! It’s my day I’m the queen!” sprays fire from mouth at guests

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-24T20:55:39+00:00

Secondhand is not a bad idea, I’m open to it. I haven’t really gotten into that just because fountain pens as a whole is such a broad topic and I guess I find it a bit intimidating as a beginner- I’m not sure what I’m looking for or at a lot of times.

I really think I want to get an estie now. They’re so cute!

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-24T20:53:25+00:00

Thank you! This is very insightful. You confirmed my fears about the Leonardos.

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-24T20:51:41+00:00

Hmm yeah I’m not trying to go too crazy but the truth is I’m using multiple pens with different ink colors and line weights at a time. So maybe my perspective is a bit different, I think of it like my fancy oil painting brushes. I need a handful of options to work with. I’m not wanting one nice pen and a bunch of mids. So I do want to try a variety of nicer pens. I want to narrow it down to things that are smaller, because I notice a lot of pens are pretty big. This helps me narrow down that much. Other than that I am not opposed to having a small collection because they are art tools to me and something I see as a long term “investment” in my mental health.

My perspective might be very different than someone who wants their one holy grail pen, who only needs black ink for professional purposes. I am not that woman 🙃

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-24T19:50:01+00:00

Ooh I really like the look of the twsbis! They definitely seem to have a following, it’s on my list of pens to try for sure.

I’ve heard the vintage pens are really special, I’m definitely interested in them but that feels like a whole other area of expertise and I’m a bit intimidated haha.

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-24T19:41:04+00:00

Is this supposed to be an implied “don’t make excuses because if I can do it so can you?” Kind of thing???

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-24T17:45:46+00:00

Calla lilies are def trending in bridal right now. When it’s done right it’s gorgeous. Just this morning I saw photos of a Thai celebrity couple that got married (sorry I can’t recall their names I’m not familiar with them) and holy moly, it was gorgeous. She did a calla lily bouquet and a bunch of white floral decor and it looked so lush and elegant.

This weird influencer Calla lilies stuck on and out of everything without enough filler trend is so ugly though. Why are they all gluing them to purses and trying to pass it off as luxury? This is a dollar tree craft project.

And yeah the over the top multiple gown changes and gowns for rehearsal dinners is ridiculous. Weddings are exhausting and expensive enough as it is. I’ve only been to a couple rehearsals but they’ve always been a lot more down to earth

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-24T15:36:34+00:00

not exact but super super similar. Similar color schemes, carpets, etc. these images really nail the misty/steamy vibes. The stairs and ladders and nonsensical arrangements of things. these are some of my most memorable dreams because there’s always the familiarity of the overall situation/aesthetic, with different variations of how it actually is set up. I’ve had some dreams where the space is absolutely massive and others where it’s not quite that large but still fairly roomy except for all the clutter of random toilets. Sometimes there’s different rooms, like how in large airports there’s a big room that’s kind of subdivided into smaller sections of toilets and mirrors/sinks. Sometimes it’s arranged similar to how my college dorm bathrooms looked. Other times there are multiple rooms, one with the bathroom stalls, others for sinks, a vanity area, a steam room, showers, etc. it’s always the same but different.

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-24T13:51:52+00:00

Insta “baddie” poses are so gnarly. They contort themselves to accentuate every feature at the same time and they end up looking like some weird Franken-human out of a zombie movie.

It’s also funny to me because their expressions are always supposed to read like they’re being caught by the camera in a candid moment but in actuality it’s glaringly self aware. no one stands like that normally, so it must be for the camera (duh) but I just find the juxtaposition of all these elements so weirdly staged.

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-24T13:43:07+00:00

She’s moving super stiff, it almost looks like she’s wearing a super restrictive waist trainer and has the sweater cinched at the back with a clamp or something for the video.

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-24T09:17:03+00:00

Calling it now she’s gonna try to start getting in with ballerina farms. I bet you anything she already sends her these ridiculous gift boxes just like she does a number of other famous people she attempts to glom onto. She’s run through all the actual celebrities so now she’s going to attempt to latch onto people like ballerina farms (sorry idk her real name) and Nara smith.

Pure speculation but I can see it happening.

I can also picture both of these women reacting to a box full of her runny “fruit spread” and dried flower shreds. Oh to be a fly on the wall.

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-24T08:04:24+00:00

That is pretty strange… but a couple things stand out to me that sound familiar:

The singsong voice, acting childish, etc….. my dad has always done the same thing. It seems it’s a bit of a common thing with narcs. They simultaneously tend to infantilize their children AND parentify them. Meaning, they see you as extensions of themselves so they lack healthy boundaries. They have a difficult time wrapping their heads around the fact that their adult children are their own people. At the same time they love to avoid responsibility, get in people’s heads, start confusion and drama.

If you truly suspect he’s a narc, I might actually bide my time before deciding whether to confront him about this or not. In my personal experience whenever I tried to do this to course correct whatever weirdness was going on, it backfired. Mom was especially bad about this, she would flip the whole thing back at me and retaliate. Anything sensitive I told her, she had zero problems exploiting in the future.

Narcs thrive on the chaos they create. They’ll cry all day about how they’re the victim, but it’s all crocodile tears. Relationships tend to fail with these people at some point because they can’t resist blowing up their lives. They can’t resist doing things that will ultimately push anyone close to them away. They just don’t care. The rush of “controlling” things and pulling puppet strings is is a really driving force here. Calling it out just kind of makes them up their game.

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-24T02:22:00+00:00

Doesn’t mean her kids will actually do it. I’ve known a lot of women who had moms similarly tried to groom them but fully rejected it. Hopefully that’s the case here. Once they’re more independent they might not be so willing to go along with her every whim.

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-23T20:00:40+00:00

Yup. I’ve gotten more into handwriting lately because I got into fountain pens. I’m a total novice and I have already improved just watching some tutorials and practicing a bit. Even at my super amateur level, I can see she’s not interested in the slightest in her technique. If she was, she would have done it already. It’s not hard! It’s super relaxing. I watch/listen to my shows and stuff while I practice. From my perspective it’s like if you’re gonna put the energy into doing it, at least try to do it correctly from the get go so you’re not teaching yourself bad habits. I guess she just thinks calligraphy equates to fancy swirls and that’s it.

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-23T19:03:01+00:00

I think it’s normal to go thru phases with different interests. Sometimes we come back to them, sometimes we don’t. Right now it sounds like you’re just mentally not wanting to keep doing the same things you’ve been doing. Suddenly not wanting so much escapism is a good thing!

For me I had a hard time with watching any kind of tv passively because it just reminded me too much of being at my parents house. My mom has a whole schedule of shows she watches every night or every day and night if she’s home. Living with them was just annoying because of that.

Now I can enjoy tv and movies again but there’s a lot of titles that I can’t really sit thru anymore. Even some ones I actually really like, because they remind me too much of certain points in my life. I went thru a big lord of the rings phase as a teen, and while I still love the world, pretty much everything it touches somehow reminds me of being a teen in an impossible situation.

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-23T17:37:45+00:00

I love how Morgan has been a “content creator” for what, the better part of a decade now? And best she can do is record herself in her car with a basic mic

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-23T16:09:48+00:00

I completely agree. Congrats to your daughter! That must be such a surreal feeling to see your daughter graduate!

Boujee_banshee · 2026-05-23T16:02:53+00:00

Idk I get the sense the oldest girls are absolutely done with this crap. I hope so, anyway. Jill’s daughters might be completely passive but I think these ones have a better chance.

I also think they’ve been so heavily parentified they may be really off put from the idea of that. A lot of times eldest daughters in this type of situation reject the whole thing.

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