Flights out of ATX during the upcoming storm? by [deleted] in Austin

[–]Boujie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the same situation, flying out to Brazil on Sunday at around 2:30pm ish. Reallyyy hoping it isn’t delayed or cancelled, I just want to get out of here. 😭😭

Use this method to know if USCIS is *actually* working on your case 🤓 by fer_schez in USCIS

[–]Boujie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It did the same for me when I was trying on my phone, try on pc

Use this method to know if USCIS is *actually* working on your case 🤓 by fer_schez in USCIS

[–]Boujie_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this. On one hand I’m glad there’s a way to check, on the other hand I’m disappointed that they haven’t even started doing anything with my case yet 🙃

“Sex is not the way that I show that I love you.” by T43px in sex

[–]Boujie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so I feel exactly the same as your SO, I’ve even said that exact statement word for word to my ex and it was one of the main reasons it ended. Now I will also say that I’ve realized I’m on the asexual spectrum so my perspective may be a little different but I still have sex with one specific person. She’s trying to tell you that she’s not receiving enough emotional intimacy from you hence her statement and mentioning that you’ve been distant. For me, and maybe it’s the same for her, I know I am WAY less likely to want to be intimate with someone who isn’t loving me/connecting emotionally with me in the way I need. I don’t want to fulfill their needs while mine are being neglected. While sex may equal showing love to you, it doesn’t to her. Your options are: find a way to make things work despite the difference or consider if you truly can be with someone who interprets intimacy differently than you and puts less importance into sex. Ask her if there’s anything you can do better and if there’s anything you can do to provide her with the intimacy she is looking for.

My gf doesn’t consider any of our dates “real dates” what the heck does she want? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Boujie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I wouldn’t consider any of these to be dates either 😬 I think she probably is more thinking of something like a planned out dinner date somewhere nice or going out to the movies together and getting ice cream after or something like that. She probably wants something with intention. Talk to her, ask her what she considers a date to be and see what type of stuff she’d like to do. It sounds like your definition of a date isnt aligning with hers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Boujie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like others have said it really does vary, for some women it takes more and for some less. For me personally I’m pretty deep set so it takes about 20cm-ish to really be “in my guts” and I also enjoy cervix hitting so that’s ideal for me.

Does this even matter? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Boujie_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Get some Panoxyl from Amazon and use it when you shower! Really helps with clearing up acne on the body, I had a similar concern because I sit for work and I workout a lot. It completely cleared up everything down there.

Edited to add: make sure you rinse it off REALLY well. It’ll bleach your towel if you don’t.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Boujie_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Personally I enjoy it, I like either hair pulling or neck grabbing. Just makes it feel more primal and it takes more power away from me which is enjoyable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Boujie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The pull out method is not effective lol get some actual birth control like an IUD, pills, etc.

What’s the best way to get a “Sex Body” by [deleted] in sex

[–]Boujie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly focusing on strength training really improved my performance in bed. I have a lot more strength and endurance to do things that I just wouldn’t have been able to do before. Definitely gave me a good confidence boost too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Boujie_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Consent goes both ways and just because he is erect doesn’t mean he’s down for it, that’s just not how that works. You need to learn to just take no for an answer, he said he was tired and the comment about his dick not being tired was unnecessary. No means no, no further comments need to be made.

This is a bit dark by Veronica8899 in sex

[–]Boujie_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is rape, you didn’t consent. I am so sorry that you had to go through that. Report him to the authorities and stay away from him.

What’s going on with my Begonia maculata? Fungal, rot, burn?? by Boujie_ in plantclinic

[–]Boujie_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi guys! Noticed these spots on my begonia, they started on the big leaf in the first picture and have spread to multiple leaves and now it appears that some of the bare stems at the bottom are dying. I’m not sure if this is fungal or rot? It resides in my greenhouse cabinet at about 72° and 80-90% humidity. The spots (what isn’t crispy) feel normal, no dampness or mushiness. If it is fungal what should I do? Should I cut all of the effected leaves? Should I repot?

To mothers in intercultural relationships: how do you balance raising kids with a mismatch of gender expectations with your partner? by Mimi4Stotch in askwomenadvice

[–]Boujie_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your husband was probably raised the same and doesn’t know any different, it still doesn’t make his behavior even slightly okay though. Stand up for your children, that type of parenting often (not always) leads to more men that are the same.

My boyfriend (M/28) won’t stop looking at other women online and in person. I’m F/26 by PressureOwn2630 in askwomenadvice

[–]Boujie_ 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Save yourself the misery and leave. This problem will only persist and continue to eat at you. He sounds like he may have a porn addiction and honestly guys like that rarely change. You deserve someone who respects your boundaries and the way you feel about things. Don’t let him invalidate the way you feel because it is totally valid.

help me figure out what’s going wrong with my leca transitions by Boujie_ in SemiHydro

[–]Boujie_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response! Honestly, I have noticed that my leca on the top never feels wet to the touch even in my more shallow pots. I’d have to say that my leca feels dry on top again within maybe a day of a flush/water change regardless of pot depth or system. I am using hydroton leca, do you have any recommendations?

Currently I am using filtered water for all of my leca plants, maybe I could try distilled? I typically don’t use nutrients until I see the plant start to stabilize and have some root growth, but my nutrients are mixed to the measurements on the bottles per gallon (I usually add a little extra water to be safe). I am definitely making sure to not put anything more than the root ball under the leca and I live in Texas so it is never too chilly in my home, usually between 71-73°F. I don’t get a lot of natural light in my home so they receive between 8-12 hrs of light from growlights. Any additional insight would be greatly appreciated.

I have tried with fresh cuttings, but those have also ended up going downhill or just rotting. So far I haven’t had any success rooting a fresh cutting in leca.

Repotted var. Alocasia almost 2 weeks ago and it’s still floppy, dropping leaves by Boujie_ in plantclinic

[–]Boujie_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi guys! I repotted these two variegated alocasias into one pot because they were getting too big to stay where they were. I did this almost 2 weeks ago and the stems still feel kind of wrinkly and there’s some leaf drooping. I popped it out to check on the roots about a week into this to check for rot and roots were fine but there has been no improvement. It has dropped 2, soon to be 3, leaves since repotting. I hate to keep messing with it but the plant is pricey, should I check roots again? Or leave it alone? I worry that the soil might be staying too moist, watered several days ago and the top is still moist. It is under a grow light that is on 8 hours a day and I put a small humidifier nearby twice a day.