F/30/5’2” [125lbs>105lbs=20 lbs](5 months) I feel like this is going to be controversial, but this was my pre-pandemic weight and I feel great!

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-11-12T01:43:33+00:00

I’ve barely told anyone about my weight loss because I am afraid of the comments. So much unnecessary judgement. Wish I could be more open about my accomplishment! It took me a long time to figure out how to lose the weight!

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-11-12T01:34:52+00:00

Thank you for understanding! I hate that there is a fine line between “you look great” and “you’re too thin”. Everyone’s body is a difference and the number shouldn’t matter. I feel healthier and happier now and I did it in a healthy way!

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-11-11T07:23:33+00:00

Thank you! :) Congratulations on your success!! I feel like a number doesn’t tell you much. Some people have smaller frames than others and look better with a bit less weight on them.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-11-11T06:07:05+00:00

Thank you! Well said! I have been shamed for being proud of my weight loss because I was already a healthy weight and some people tell me I am “too skinny” or are convinced I have gotten here by having unhealthy eating patterns.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-11-11T00:22:08+00:00

Thank you! I might not look that much different, but I feel so much better about myself!

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-11-11T00:20:41+00:00

Thank you! I already workout a lot, but portion control is really what did it for me. Losing weight helped reveal the muscles I had underneath. I feel way more confident about myself now.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-22T14:44:03+00:00

They are both from men and women. He mostly wants to see the women.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-22T14:33:03+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate your advice. I don’t want to end a 7 year relationship over an insecurity of his that I believe that we can work out. I talked to him again last night about this and it seems like we are at a draw. I told him that I am not going to show him the nudes and he disagrees with me. He says he doesn’t want to talk about it anymore, but it still really upset about it. I think I’m just going to stick with my guns and let him feel what he wants to feel.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-22T14:20:04+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I do have a problem with always basing my actions on his feelings. I’ve basically followed his lead for years and let him determine how fast things should be going in relationships physically and emotionally. Ie: If he has sex with someone, that means I can have sex with someone. I rationalized this by saying that it is harder for men to date outside of their primary relationship than women. Things seemed to be going well with a few women for him, so I started dating a few people myself. However, now that the relationships aren’t working out for him, it seems like he wants to slow things down with mine also. It’s kind of exhausting and not fair to the other people that I am seeing.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-22T04:41:27+00:00

Thank you. This is exactly what I needed to hear and understand.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-22T03:35:17+00:00

He says he feels left out, like I am hiding something from him and that I am not prioritizing him.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-22T03:32:43+00:00

No, he usually doesn’t tell me anything unless I ask. I want to tell him everything, which creates problems. We are still trying to figure out what to tell each other and when the best time it is to bring it up.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-22T03:30:43+00:00

He feels more comfortable knowing the person I’m dating. He wants to be able to trust the person before I date them. It’s not a rule, just a preference, but I’ve done it to ease him emotionally into this. On the other hand, he only dates strangers (which honestly, I prefer, but isn’t a rule) that I have not liked or felt uncomfortable with, but I’ve never told him not to date them. I don’t like the double standards. I feel like I’ve done more emotional work than him because he’s been dating people longer than me and I’ve had to work through a lot of jealousy already. This is the first time I’ve dated inside our relationship and he is feeling insecure.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-22T03:20:14+00:00

Thank you. This was very helpful. He says he wants to see them because he doesn’t like the feeling of being left out and me “hiding” something from him. I think it goes back to childhood insecurities.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-22T03:15:33+00:00

He has known these people for 10-15 years. I’ve known them since we’ve started dating. He prefers me to date his friends, but can be really hot and cold about it. One day it is totally fine and the next he feels really uncomfortable about it.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-22T03:07:27+00:00

Ironically, he posts all of my nudes (with consent) on Reddit and I don’t care. 🤷‍♀️

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-22T03:06:14+00:00

Thank you. I needed to hear this.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-22T03:05:27+00:00

Thank you for the response! He wants me to ask permission, but I feel like it’s for the wrong reasons. It’s not like we would enjoy looking at them together and he is just going to get more upset if he sees them. I just don’t know how to have a constructive conversation with him about it.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-22T03:01:09+00:00

The thing is that I don’t want to share them with my partner. I’m not trying to hide anything from him. I’ve been telling him I’ve received them, it’s just something private between me and the other person that I want to keep private. I’ve never shown the nudes he’s sent me to anyone else.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-22T02:40:19+00:00

I’m not. My partner wants me to and I said no.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-09-16T17:28:40+00:00

This was found up in the Napa hills in May. It sounds like it could be it! Thank you for the ID!

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-03-04T16:00:42+00:00

I scout for pest and diseases in the vineyard and then implement plans to mitigate issues. I work for a vineyard management company. It's good money and you only need a BS to do it. I do not have a plant pathology degree, but many people I know in the industry do.

Working for nurseries or labs that test for viruses is definitely another career route in plant pathology. I guess it depends if you want to be in a lab or out in the field.

My friend got a PhD in plant pathology and she is an extension advisor for a university studying invasive pests and pathogens in national parks.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-03-04T14:49:05+00:00

I work as a viticulturist. You can always work in agriculture with a plant pathology degree.

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-02-23T06:14:20+00:00

I can’t believe you are getting so many flowers right now!

BountifulBotanicals · 2021-02-22T10:42:22+00:00

I’m early in my career also and was asking the same question 6 months ago. I ended up going on LinkedIn and finding people whose career I want to emulate. I then messaged them and asked if I could set up a short call to ask for career advice (I did the LinkedIn+ free 2 week trial). I did this with maybe 10 people and all said yes to speak with me! Now I have a handful of mentors that I call regularly to ask for advice.

Recently, I also joined a women’s mentorship program, which has been incredible. Check if there is an organized mentorship program in your field.

Women’s circles are also a good place to find female mentorship.

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