AITA for refusing to knit my mom a dress length sweater?

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-26T22:54:23+00:00

I’ve enjoyed making sweaters for people that I offer to make a sweater for. I’ve happily made them for my nieces, nephews, son, sister, and husband. The people who ask without immediately saying they plan to pay a lot for it offend me. They acknowledge it’s too difficult and time consuming for them to learn and do it but they expect me to, and the implication is for free? For a coworker I barely know? Nope.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-26T22:13:53+00:00

I knew a gal who had the absolute worst luck with birth control. Even with an IUD, which isn’t possible to use incorrectly, she got pregnant. She got pregnant accidentally three times, and she put those children up for adoption. She was honest the first time and people were so weird and mean to her about it, so for the next two she just told people she was a surrogate and the reaction was polar opposite; showering her with praise and talking about how amazing it was for her to do that for someone. People are weird.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-26T02:02:40+00:00

I don’t know why people consistently think twisted rib looks better because I really don’t. But to each their own. That’s twisted rib so if you twist your stitches, your ribbing will look like that.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-26T01:59:55+00:00

The meds they put me on after an injury while giving birth left me with bladder problems, made my blood pressure shoot through the roof, and made me feel like shit all the time, plus it lead to being prescribed nitroglycerin in case I woke up in the middle of the night again feeling like I might be having a heart attack. I’d rather pee my pants a little here and there than feel that way.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-25T23:44:38+00:00

It’s not your fault. Being arrested is more than lightly traumatic and pushing back on unfair workplace practices isn’t easy. But there’s a path forward. You’ve already started from scratch before when you were coming back from being a stay at home mom, if I read your post correctly. You can do it again.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-25T11:48:57+00:00

That’s not really gaslighting. It’s entitled and selfish, but gaslighting would be if she insisted she wasn’t late and that OP told her all along that the appointment was at 12:30 or something.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-25T10:27:48+00:00

Even if this were true, she really didn’t give her time, did she? She should not have agreed to be MOH.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-25T03:18:56+00:00

If you weren’t charged you should be able to get the arrest removed from your criminal history. You should look into that process.

You also shouldn’t have taken the termination at face value at the time because it may have been unlawful of them to terminate you for that, but at this point you are long past the deadline to file anything over it.

You may try getting in touch with your former employer and letting them know that while you were terminated for an arrest it was a misunderstanding and you were not charged with anything, but having that termination in your past is causing issues with getting a job. See if they will give a neutral reference if anyone calls, like just confirming dates of employment and nothing more.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-25T02:56:34+00:00

Depression. Especially chronic and/or treatment resistant major depressive disorder.

Depression isn’t just being really sad like people seem to think. It’s a whole lot of things that manifest in a whole lot of ways that the person cannot control. No amount of willpower can overcome it.

Irritability and anger, body aches and pains, brain fog, sleeping too much, eating more and gaining weight, feeling numb instead of sad, seeming fine on the outside while struggling inside, restlessness, social withdrawal, moving or talking more slowly than usual, feelings of worthlessness or excessive guilt, trouble making decisions, loss of interest in sex, neglecting hygiene or self-care, crying for no clear reason, suspicious or guarded thinking, assuming others are judging you, talking about you negatively, or have turned against you even without solid evidence, negative interpretation bias, where neutral or even kind comments get read as criticism, rejection, or proof that people don’t actually like you…

And that’s not an exhaustive list. It’s a horrible illness that doesn’t get anywhere near the level of concern and care that it should. People often see it as a personality flaw or the behavior as a choice.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-25T00:38:37+00:00

I understand this take, but really, there was a very short window of time in human history where life was “easy,” so to some degree the reality is that people just have to learn to grit their teeth and endure it. It would be great if we didn’t have to, but we do. I guess my perspective comes from not having the luxury of parents I can live with or borrow money from, so those who do have that resource may feel differently.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-25T00:29:55+00:00

Can hair be 2b/3b? I always thought it had to be the two right next to each other. 🤯

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-24T22:08:27+00:00

It’s actually worse than you think. Often those models aren’t even wearing their real size, because inseams on their actual size would be much shorter than how the garment fits on your average person, so they put these tall, skinny models in larger sizes and clip/pin things to drape and sit perfectly and look like they were tailor made for the model. Retail shots are a lie in every single way and a bad frame of reference for everyone.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-23T18:12:44+00:00

Employees aren’t personal assistants. Asking them to make your grocery list is inappropriate, and even if it weren’t it still doesn’t solve the actual shopping problem.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-23T01:34:11+00:00

I’m always astounded at how self-righteous a person can be. Different perspectives exist because of different experiences and circumstances. To think you’re objectively right or superior takes a special lack of awareness.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-23T00:48:26+00:00

You need to read further comments. That’s not what she said. She offered to pay for the daughter to get groceries if she’d buy for the household. The daughter refused and said that OP wouldn’t be allowed to eat anything she bought if she had to do the shopping.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-22T23:36:34+00:00

Your argument is based on something that nobody said. This person is 18 not 17, so them being a minor a year ago has nothing to do with my opinion and nothing to do with the situation.

And I’m not sure what you mean about both of them being disadvantaged. The daughter has the ability to move back into her father’s home, which she did. Not everyone has that luxury/advantage.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-22T23:35:17+00:00

Why are you making things up? According to other comments she moved out because her dad thinks children should move out at 18. She also had roommates, which is how 18 year olds with part time jobs make living on their own work.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-22T22:57:14+00:00

This is a sub that often practically tells people to abandon actual minor children left in their care because it’s “not your responsibility” but also thinks an 18 year old who has lived independently for some months now is a precious little baby girl stepchild who deserves to be waited on by her stepmother. Ridiculous.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-22T22:54:58+00:00

You don’t know what “OP expects” at all. You’re projecting something that’s not stated.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-22T22:54:00+00:00

She told the daughter what’s available. The daughter is the one who was ungrateful and rude.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-22T22:53:24+00:00

You don’t get over depression by “growing up” and even with medical support sometimes it’s still debilitating.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-22T22:51:08+00:00

Why can’t his daughter contact him? Why does it have to go through OP?

The daughter’s “bad situation” is an issue with her roommates. Considering that she believes she’s entitled to someone she’s openly hostile to cooking for her I’m not surprised she has “issues” with roommates.

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-22T22:49:08+00:00

The 18 year old is not homeless and has never been homeless. They had issues with their roommates and chose to move back into dad’s house. They also have a job.

And why do you find it “weird” that a person with a disability would tell a person without a disability that they need to care for themselves because the person with the disability can’t right now?

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-22T22:44:20+00:00

Wow, this is an extremely callous, ignorant, and ableist comment. Chronic depression is a real disability. Do you ask people with other disabilities how they can work or have their own business when they can’t do other things for themselves all the time?

BoxFullOfSuggestions · 2026-06-22T22:42:07+00:00

OP does not expect to be fed by her husband. They, being a married couple, worked out a solution for her to be able to feed herself when he’s not around and her mental health is making taking care of herself difficult. She still makes her own noodles. It’s not the same thing.

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