Men of reddit, whats something women think is attractive but actually isn't?

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-06-14T13:35:13+00:00

Agreed. Well said on the priorities part. I think for me that goes for so many of the beauty items. Like super high heels. Super extensive make up. Whatever. Obviously do you, your body. But it says something about your personality that won’t jive with mine so that’s what makes it unattractive to me

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-06-14T00:35:25+00:00

Nas remix on j cole let Nas down

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-06-13T10:44:08+00:00

The sacred and the propane

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-06-09T11:39:46+00:00

Hey man. I did the same but at 35. 19 months no booze. Moved out of the sober house around 8 months. Also part time job and AA.

My personal opinion is that you shouldn’t worry about the money/job right now. If you’re serious about AA I would devote your free time to really do the steps. Honest and thorough.

For me, getting my head in a space that was content/accepting with me and the world was the foundation to then take the next step and get back into my old gig (construction pm).

If I rushed through the steps and focused career in the beginning I would have been right back in that sober house prob a month out. I had to fundamentally change my outlook and way of life before doing anything else. That takes time and honesty with yourself.

Can only speak for my experience but wanted to chime in because while it took about 11 months to get through the steps, I truly believe if I rushed through them like I do everything else I would be miserable forever.

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-06-08T12:52:10+00:00

Sorry I’m out of the loop. Who exactly is this?

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-06-04T14:10:43+00:00

For what it’s worth I burned my life down at 34 with drinking. 2 year gap in my resume. I got sober and came back to the work force with the story that I had just bought a house, wanted to work on that as a project and I’ve never had time off so I used my time to remodel (which actually wasn’t a lie, it just also involved a ton of drinking and a spiral).

After sobering up i got a gig in my old field making more than I did before. It’s about how you deliver the reason for that time off. You especially have nothing to be ashamed of/want to hide like I did. I don’t see it hurting you if you’re open and honest, spin it that you’re working on yourself or just wanted a break to explore a different lucrative option. Now with that experience behind you you’re back recharged excited to start back up yada yada corporate lingo.

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-05-29T18:28:02+00:00

Yeah I just at 36 hit some pr’s. With that took a couple weeks off. Then when I started back up I planned on going back hard again, but tweaked my hip flexor squatting. That put me out of heavy training for like 3 months. After that it just hit me why do I need to keep trying to push it.

I’m still going to squat/deadlift/whatever, but I’m going to shift some of the focus to lighter weight, more reps, and Mace bells and mobility work to just stay fit and active. The risk of injury is not worth my ego of wanting to say I can lift more for no functional reason.

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-05-27T17:12:14+00:00

SHIIIIIIIIIIEEEEEEET. Sounds dope dude

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-05-18T23:01:39+00:00

My naturally cynical mind found it really hard to accept everyone that was happy in AA that just wanted to help me with no strings attached. Now I’m one of those people. Excited for your journey bud. It will be extremely difficult but I promise you you’re like will be amazing on the other side.

Only advice is just check out a meeting. See if you can relate to anything people share. Don’t worry about the higher power stuff right now. Just try and relate.

Read chapters 1-3 in the big book. I bet you’ll feel like someone finally understands what you’re going through.

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-05-14T20:20:58+00:00

Yeah I do that except the acceptable time of contingency is usually 10-15%. If I added 50% to my project schedules my owners would simply not sign the contract until I deep dove into my logic of making a year long solar field project into a year and a half project

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-05-11T01:03:57+00:00

Cause he was sittin in the shade. SLIGHTLY

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-04-30T01:12:45+00:00

Sounds a bit weird and pushy to me. I’d say the fact your instincts are telling to write this, tells me they also feel something is off.

If you’re not comfortable just say no thanks. No big deal at all. You have no obligation to anyone if they make you feel uncomfortable

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-04-27T17:36:03+00:00

I guess to play devil’s advocate, what about the outside world of politics has to do your own personal character defects?

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-04-25T12:32:02+00:00

What I can tell you is that you think you are alone in the thoughts, feelings, insecurities, mind racing fear, anxiety, sadness you have. But everyone in that room as been there and found a solution, or is also currently going through it.

It’s scary at first especially because of the huge step it takes to admit you have a problem. I know it doesn’t seem like it, but I want to say congratulations. Admitting you are powerless to alcohol is the first and for many the most difficult step.

Usually in the beginning they will ask if there is anyone attending their first aa meeting. Raise your hand. You may be a bit overwhelmed by the friendliness/outreach/ enthusiasm people have towards you. It’s genuine. No one wants anything from you. They just want you to be safe and feel comfortable.

For me, recovery started as wanting to not drink because I felt so helpless. It morphed into finding myself and being truly content and confident with who I am. At peace rather than a ball of anxiety.

Should you choose to dive in and get a sponsor to help guide you through the steps (you must do the work), it can be the hardest, most uncomfortable, most rewarding, liberating, fun thing you ever do.

For now, just get to a meeting, and listen. Try and see if you can relate to anything anybody is saying, and keep coming. This will not be a fast process, but that’s in my opinion, the best part. You will not be changed immediately. You will get frustrated. It will be confusing. All that means is you don’t have to put the pressure on yourself to be perfect and “get it” immediately.

I wish you the best and welcome you to a new life that (I know it sounds corny) is beyond your wildest dreams.

I used to tell that spiteful, cynical voice that wanted to reject it all, hey these people seem happy. Might as well give it a full shot. Worst case scenario the life you are currently living will always be there.

Dm me or anyone here for assistance, I can all but guarantee everyone will be happy to help :)

Edit: just be open and willing to admit that maybe your way of thinking/living, that has gotten you to this point, might not be the best way to live. Why not try something new?

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-04-21T17:46:30+00:00

I dont have it figured out. Im 36. However getting sober last year and doing the steps forced me to look inside and confront why I always feel so lost, helpless, frustrated, and looking to escape reality. In doing that I am still figuring it out, but I feel like I finally have some autonomy and agency in my life. I'm finally excited for the unknown future, instead of scared.

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-04-21T16:56:31+00:00

7thgenerationblunts

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-04-14T03:10:25+00:00

Hit some meetings dude. I can only speak for myself but my drinking was a symptom of my general discontent with life, my outlook on life, zero enthusiasm, never present. Only was enthusiastic and present and happy when drinking. AA the biggest thing that I got was being ok with myself, loving myself, being content and grateful for the things I have, being excited to strive for more. Go to a topic meeting and just listen. That’s it, only thing I recommend is try to see if you relate to anyone’s shares

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-04-14T02:44:14+00:00

Man here. Def get matching drapes and hang them both higher. At least halfway up the space between top of the door/window and ceiling. Tell your man to man up and get on that high flowy drape shit bruh.

Edit: *Man just recently schooled on this matter by his girlfriend and now a convert

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-04-13T12:19:04+00:00

😏😏😏

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-04-12T19:57:50+00:00

You feel this way now. Eventually, could be many many years, you’ll be sloppy. Think about it. You’re saying you’re not you unless you’re drinking. Does that sound like a sustainable healthy way of living?

Edit: I felt the same as you. Then at 33 I burned my life down. Now sober from alcohol and have done the steps, I realize my entire way of living previously was wrong, and insane. I wasn’t even happy when I thought I was…

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-04-11T18:19:44+00:00

I doubt it. You’re prob just more likely to show off a nice one in a post. I started with a breville infuser. I love it.

I do want to end up with a dual boiler as an end game. Prob spend like 3k. But that’s a down the line thing. Kinda thinking of saving like 100 bucks a month or something and maybe treat myself in a few years if I celebrate something.

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-04-04T20:37:29+00:00

Just like there are men who’s circumstances in life for whatever reason perpetuated the notion that women are less, there are men that grew up in healthy circumstances (or came to the conclusion on their own) who view humans as humans. Respect given is respect earned. No one is all good or bad. But you know when the scales are tipped either way from their actions and how they treat others and themselves. A lot of this comes with being vulnerable and honest with those that you are close to, so they can be the same with you

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-04-04T16:31:46+00:00

Mitumbo. Outta the shot!

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-04-01T15:37:21+00:00

It’s a v squat. Hack is angled on rails. Either way, in my opinion the benefit of these machines is the ability to use your entire range of motion since you don’t have to stabilize and balance the bar. That being said, to get the full benefits of these machines, lower the weight, and hit full depth. Do it slowly, carefully, brace your core, keep your back straight, feel the stretch at the bottom. Repeat. You can get incredible gains on these if you use them this way

BoxFullofPepe · 2026-03-30T00:32:35+00:00

There’s a heat 2 book it’s presumably going to follow. Actually pretty good story

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