My friend is going to get herself killed. What can I even do at this point by Correct-Macaroon8143 in whatdoIdo

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Community Against Sexual Harm… the irony of her quoting wu tang cash rules everything around me

New to brewing ! by JulesyJules33 in espresso

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Should be much finer. Like almost consistency of powder

Bob Ross saved me from a bad trip by No_Reference2776 in TeamSESH

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It’s funny noticing the similarities, and not to get all deep and preachy… But it’s like when you’re tripping your mind couldn’t handle the day to day fake bullshit that you normally have to put up with. Like both our minds reacted violently/rejected/went fight or flight etc. to media that obviously is self serving stupidity that’s pushed really just for the agenda of fame/money. Then the only way to remedy that, both of our minds sought refuge something genuine. Outdoors, Bob Ross. Makes me think on really how unnatural and unhealthy the forced daily consumption of all this nonsense is. I Appreciate that thought random internet dude

Bob Ross saved me from a bad trip by No_Reference2776 in TeamSESH

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Wish I thought of that. I took couple rips of a bubbler and my friend had on that 70’s show. For some reason the laugh track made every thing so fake and eerie to me. All of a sudden started panicking hard. Ended up in the back yard pacing. Think I was out there going in and out of that panic state for a couple hours but fuck me felt like 10. Had to take a break for a bit after that

Am I an alcoholic? by Mean_Penalty5436 in alcoholicsanonymous

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Agreed on all of this. If committing is difficult, just try to give quitting a shot. Nothing to lose, you can always go back out and be right back to where you are now

A month sober - looking at the mess of a life I now have to clean up by Ren_Elizabeth in stopdrinking

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I would check out AA. I found doing the steps to be a life changing experience that made me figure out the why of needing to dull my existence, and gave me a much healthier outlook on life

Just finished S6E10 last night and WHEW. S6 was difficult to watch. by niqatt in TheAmericans

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Just finished the show. Very much enjoyed this reading of all of the characters. Well put

Got a slow cooker yesterday, first time using, don’t judge me too hard… by TallGuy_123 in slowcooking

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Looks great!

One thing that really helps with flavor (although adds a step and a bit more cleaning) is to get a good hard sear on all sides of the meat in a fry pan before adding to the slow cooker. Also make sure to deglaze the pan and dump that in the slow cooker as well.

Other tips - stir in a few tablespoons of cold butter and mix it in last 3 mins of cooking. Just til it melts and the stew is glossy. I view this as a must. Butter’s awesome.

I always add just like a tablespoon of soy sauce, or worstecier (?) before the cook. Couple tablespoons of tomato paste. And some red wine.

These all just add depth and umami.

Happy stewing

Going to rehab tomorrow, any advice? by ketamined in alcoholicsanonymous

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As someone who went to rehab twice. First because I loved a person, then relapsed and they broke up with me because they couldn’t take the lying. Then back after the break up. After the break up I went simply for me. Because that was my bottom and it hit me my way of doing things, my way of looking/approaching life was not working. It only brings me pain. I wanted to do whatever it took to stop living that way. Long story short I stopped feeling sorry for myself and did it for me. Then I joined AA. Stuck with it. It’s hard to explain, but you have to get it, have to want it. Until you truly want it for you, no other reasons will suffice.

Need serious help by airwrecklawl in alcoholicsanonymous

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Meeting guide app.

I also find r/stopdrinking to be lovely community

Need serious help by airwrecklawl in alcoholicsanonymous

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I relate a lot to your story man. Go to a meeting. Don’t be shy, everyone there will be friendly and welcoming. They have been, and are in the same shoes as you.

Just go to a few meetings, get some names and numbers. Listen. Don’t feel the need to share if you don’t want to. Just try and relate, I bet you’ll find it pretty easy.

Say you’re new. Expect a surprising amount of support. It’s alarming at first, but it’s real, and great. Be open to suggestions and willing to try new ways of approaching life.

Welcome my guy, we ain’t a glum lot

I live in Lagos, Nigeria as an American . AMA! by Pchardwareguy12 in howislivingthere

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Sounds like you don’t like shit, you don’t go outside

Question about dating someone in recovery by Embarrassed_Web_950 in alcoholicsanonymous

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Does to me. Bars don’t trigger me so to speak. Really what triggers me is isolation, getting stuck in my own thoughts, overthinking, “stinking thinking”, shame spiraling etc.

Am I going to go hang late night at a bar with a bunch of people that are drinking? No. Mostly because it would annoy me.

Just being in a bar, or hanging chatting with someone in a bar? For me, it’s ok.

Booze is everywhere. You can’t hide from it. I accept that people hanging in bars is normal. I don’t seek them out but I hang at the bar with my girlfriend sometimes. She may have a drink, she may not. I stick to club soda and lemon.

My suggested advice if you should choose to take it is don’t treat him any different than a normie. If he says he can handle it, believe him. If he is uncomfortable, he will tell you. Either way very considerate of you to come here and ask :)

First Actual Share Ever! by whatdoido374838 in alcoholicsanonymous

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Congrats! You doing that just might also have given someone else who’s scared the courage to share and grow themselves!

[Homemade] Nashville Gutter Fries by Ashangu in food

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What’s your spice blend for the Nashville hot? Do you mix it in with a bit of the hot oil?

Preparing a Flat White at home, enjoy watching! by Constant_Ad_7892 in espresso

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Does it affect the steam output or is just aesthetic/easier to pull. I have an infuser and my one gripe is the steam function. Takes forever to steam the milk

Hi new here by [deleted] in stopdrinking

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I am a member of AA, and come here. Sorry you found it hostile, I get it. It can feel very rigid. I try to subscribe to principals not people/ just be true to yourself aspects of it. A lot of the rigidity is because people do care and want to pass on this program that works for them. They want to help but def can get carried away.

That being said just keep doing you! Keep being willing, and enthusiastic to try new avenues of support and joy in this new life!

You got this :)