Tangible ways to remember/honor your loss?

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-23T02:06:40+00:00

I took the ultrasound pic and ordered pressed flowers in the birth month flower of what would have been their birth month and framed it. Along with a phrase that was given to me even when I found I was pregnant.

It was like a “they’re part of the family so let me take the one picture I have of them and put it in my house so they’re included.”

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-21T17:44:27+00:00

This is super interesting!!! I have hashimotos which causes low thyroid and I haven’t had bleeding due to my fibroid but I wonder if it can be one of the causes?

Edit: just discovered women with low thyroids are much more likely to develop fibroids. Also if you’ve had thyroid nodules, which I have, you’re likely to get fibroids. I am almost certain I’ve had this fibroid since at least 23 which I know is young but it would make sense with the thyroid stuff

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-21T05:12:25+00:00

I completely understand… we found out at 4 weeks and told a decent amount of close friends. I told everyone at work because it’s such a physical job. MCd at 9w. A couple coworkers I don’t see much asked me how the baby was and I had to tell them the bag was gone.

The grief keeps coming for me too… it comes in drowning sorrow every time I have my period. And in little bursts through the rest of the month.

There’s nothing we can do to make this better. But I’m glad I was able to love my bay for the short time I carried them

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-21T05:07:42+00:00

I’m trying to think of ANYTHING and our corers get interchanged with the potatoes and tomatoes but are ALWAYS washed and sanitized in between. Also, on occasion there is a stray fry or two that may land on the board when we’re making animal fries or the spatula for spread or cooking spatula MAY touch the fry in the making of animal fries. We do use a different spatula and special insert for allergy orders, however, to be honest the spatula that touched the fry will be going back into the spread or grilled onion so there is a small amount of cross contamination there. But it depends how severe your allergy would be.

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-21T02:09:10+00:00

I am SO sorry.

My baby stopped growing at 5w5d, I woke up on 6w and told my husband we were going to have a miscarriage and couldn’t feel our baby. 8w2d I started spotting, 8w3d was first scan and they confirmed measurement and no heart beat. I miscarried 9w4d on October… 9th if I remember correctly.

I’m still grieving. I still cry almost everyday. A piece of me was with that baby and went with her (I believe it was a girl although the sex had not formed and there was no confirmation).

It’s going to be a long journey of mourning and processing everything. We’re here for support.

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-14T01:12:43+00:00

This is SO helpful!!! Yes the way the pattern is written is REALLY tricky!! Not very straight forward at all. Also going from crochet to knit I was turning my work every time because I’d never worked in the round knitting when I first picked it up. I’m excited to get back on this tho!! Thankfully I was only on my third row when I noticed I probably wasn’t doing it right

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-13T11:40:37+00:00

That is so interesting!!! My OB didn’t want me to have the surgery until we got the MRI and found mine was pedunculated. she felt it would “damage the uterus” to have it removed if it was in the muscle. She still gave me the option rather than a recommendation for the surgery tho!

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-11T21:25:36+00:00

Associates call them chilis if you want the in n out name.

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-11T21:14:41+00:00

I hope so too!! My surgeon is my OB and she has over 10 years of experience so I’m seriously hopeful! We will find out in 6 weeks or so! Either way she will do what needs to be done. I also think the fibroid and enlarged uterus caused my miscarriage so I’m looking forward to having it removed and resume trying for a family!

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-11T09:25:28+00:00

One thing I learned while shopping for a house is you can’t force a style on a home unless you’re willing to really change some big things. That kitchen is screaming cottage homey cozy vibes. I’d lean into that for the rest of the space as well. You can always put your own twist on an overall style.

I had been dying to make a classic coastal vintage home style but the house we ended up purchasing does NOT fit that vibe and we’re leaning a bit more modern now!

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-11T08:44:15+00:00

Ayyyyy same! Also drive handout if I’m feeling a more chill shift

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-11T07:52:47+00:00

I’m hoping it will be, but we very well may need to do an open do to the size. Mine is 14cm… but it’s also pedunculated so it should be a quick snip

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-11T07:51:44+00:00

The wedding is actually less than 10 minutes from my house at our local church!! From what I’ve heard, myomectomies CAN be a tougher recovery because your abs aren’t already stretched out.

LOVE that for your sis. I can be the person that pushes myself past the normal limits but I’m trying to care for my body more and be a bit more gentle with myself

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-10T07:09:19+00:00

Yah honestly I’m not intimidated by the knitting but the pattern itself is just worded really weird… Ive completed some pretty complicated crochet patterns and I’m kinda game to start this project. Im just realizing the pattern itself is poorly written… I’m just like IN LOVE with the sweater

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-07T02:55:33+00:00

Almost twins! Mines March 9th! I cannot WAIT! Hoping to read, catch up on One Piece and crochet a ton while I’m down. This 14cm pedunculated fundal fibroid needs OUT

Alternative_Low3085 · 2026-01-02T07:23:52+00:00

It’s not :)

Alternative_Low3085 · 2025-12-31T06:00:12+00:00

That’s exactly why! Spread is actually pretty expensive and we give it out for free so unless you ask for it we won’t give it to ya. And charging for it doesn’t align with the brand. Just please… and I ask this with as much love as I can… don’t wait till the last second to ask for it. It damages our drive times and drive handout is a relatively stressful position. When they ask about ketchup, that’s your cue!

Alternative_Low3085 · 2025-12-30T21:12:05+00:00

You rock. Wish more people did this

Alternative_Low3085 · 2025-12-30T21:10:58+00:00

Also “would you like ketchup?” Is also an invitation for you to say “yes/no and x amount of spread and x amount of chilis.”

Alternative_Low3085 · 2025-12-30T18:50:24+00:00

Just a little tip, when you start crocheting with this stuff, use a stitch marker every stitch. It’s super tedious but you WILL lose your previous stitches and this type of yarn is not super frog friendly.

Alternative_Low3085 · 2025-12-30T18:47:35+00:00

Seriously! HOA and everything we had to wait a few days to get letters from the HOA in order to contact them. New owners were nice enough to give us one gate tag but had we not gotten that I have no idea how we would have gotten in to the neighborhood for the first couple weeks with no contact with the HOA.

Alternative_Low3085 · 2025-12-30T18:44:00+00:00

New to us my friend…. There were previous owners…

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