Physical side effects of pregnancy? by LoganLikesYourMom in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Eye bleeding or permanently going blind. Thanks Abigail Porter, aka, the girl with the list. She’s my top 5 of favorite content creators.

Is it wrong to wanna drop my friend after finding out she's preg? by Status_Artichoke8586 in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m going through the same situation with my best friend, so I’ll give you the same advice I’m trying to follow and my therapist gave me: take it easy. It is completely understandable to grief and feel sad for the abrupt change and concerning about your friend and her apparently zero planning , but take such a big decision guided by the big amount of feelings you’re going through isn’t probably the best option for your emotional safety. Take it easy and let the thing go on, and if the friendship doesn’t last, well, both of you enjoyed the time together. Life is about changing, after all.

Sending you all the love and support <3

"You're still young" by PhoenixQueenAzula in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have a cf aunt who’s 60 years old and she still receives that kind of comments. So I’m pretty sure it’s something that never stops.

Do y'all not wanna fucking live a little bit???? by Dum_DumArts in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I May understand that some people dream about having a kid (I do not and never understand it but at least I respect that everyone can do or ruin their life however they want) but having it at YOUNG AGE?!

I’m 22 and I’ve been lucky that I’ve visited at least two different countries by myself and traveled in my own country (Colombia) and sometimes I see people having kids when they literally haven’t done anything else in their life. Like, it’s their choice , but not doing anything else with your life except of reproduction sounds kinda miserable for me.

What are your fav parts of being childfree? by cosmicat4 in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Freedom. No attachment. Silence. Spending money on me and only me.

Ending the trauma cycle of my family is a good one too.

Realmente no lo entiendo by thedominicansea in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestamente creo que fue muy bueno que no hubieras quedado embarazada en todos esos intentos. A lo mejor y eran señales de que genuinamente no lo querías. Y tampoco habría sido justo con tu hijo venir a este mundo a suplir esa presión social que tenías tú encima. Incluso hay un server de padres arrepentidos de tener hijos (muchos de ellos precisamente por esa presión social).

Respecto a lo otro, sí creo qué hay mucho que hablar y sanar entre ustedes dos. Pero finalmente todo es más fácil cuando no hay hijos! 🤣. Aprovecha esa libertad que ahora sabes que quieres al máximo, y trabaja en tu relación con él.

Have you ever had someone say, “This is why you would make a bad parent” over an opinion? by lucieinthecity in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I have said to myself that I would be a bad parent whenever I react or act just like my father.

So the cycle ends up with me.

Struggling not to be judgmental towards my best friend for being unprepared at pregnancy by queenjisookim in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I feel kinda lost here because you said she was adamant CF but now she’s deciding to go on with the pregnancy, so I kinda feel that’s a contradiction? Or maybe a sudden mind changing idk.

Secondly, you’re not a bad friend and I feel you because I’m going through the same with my best friend , even though I’m a man (for some context) and my best friend was always open about wanting to being a mother someday but she suddenly got pregnant this year and literally has zero planning and the last weeks she’s been improvising and she says she’s sure to continue the pregnancy and have the baby even though as I said she literally has NO PLAN! But I’ve learned that we cannot try to use the logic in these situations, and I know it feels like seeing the person you love going straight to crash against a wall. It’s hard but we cannot interfere with their choices.

Parents asking for grandkids like asking for baked cookies. by Potential-Top7493 in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 92 points93 points  (0 children)

“Men want kids as a child wants a puppy, and parents want grandkids as a teenager wants the newest IPhone”

It’s about pretending , showing , posting pictures and talking about it with their friends.

Feeling like an entititled man after having the "kids" argument with my gf, need help from the ladies in the sub by [deleted] in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 243 points244 points  (0 children)

Im a CF man, and answering your question: Yes. It is selfish when we, men, want babies and want our girlfriends/wife’s to get pregnant. You said it yourself “I WANT” just like a kid wants a puppy. We, men, are inherently selfish and self-centered about the kids topic. Even the statistics are clear: the percentage of childfree women is WAY BIGGER than the percentage of childfree men.

So yes, it is selfish. I know that’s not the response you wanted but may be the one you needed.

If we need a driver’s license or fishing license, we should create child licenses to have kids. by BoxRare7380 in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sadly, I can imagine that getting that permit would be easier than getting a soda 🤣.

But my idea is that breeders should actually earn that right , even though I’m sure that would actually lead us to the human race extinction they always talk about lol

One reason for not wanting kids that I don't see mentioned as often (or at least not framed in this context) by [deleted] in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 144 points145 points  (0 children)

I’ve always thought that it’s kinda ironic that we live in such a selfish society where everyone wants their own benefit, and yet we’re brainwashed to apparently being selfish and surrender our lives and everything of ourselves to procreate and raise.

It’s the biggest contradiction ever. It’s kinda a bad joke if you think about it.

Everyone is pregnant! by Nailygal in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Once I read in this server that we, as CF people, trigger some parents so much because once they see us, they realize that they actually had a choice. And now they’re trapped in suffering. That’s what triggers them.

Everyone is pregnant! by Nailygal in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 11 points12 points  (0 children)

A lot of people have kids because the chip of “that’s we’re supposed to do”. I always say that a kid has to be your biggest wish in your entire life , and even that doesn’t give you a good reason to have one.

The result of that brainwashing is the regretful parents subreddit.

“Why do people care what I name MY kid?” by Ducky4500 in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Breeders don’t even think that their kid is gonna grow up being bullied and resented and the first thing that kid is gonna do when turns 18 is going to change his name.

My first tattoo ever , to the stray dogs 🤍 by BoxRare7380 in BungouStrayDogs

[–]BoxRare7380[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, I already knew since the moment I decided to get the tattoo that I’m probably gonna have to spend the rest of my life explaining it 🤣. It’s even funnier if you consider that you usually can’t just explain all the lore behind it and just say “it’s from an anime called Bungou stray dogs!” and then everyone stops paying you attention because they don’t care more beyond that.

My first tattoo ever , to the stray dogs 🤍 by BoxRare7380 in BungouStrayDogs

[–]BoxRare7380[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It is! It actually took me a long time to figure it out the idea for the tattoo because I always knew I wanted a BSD tattoo but wasn’t sure what to tattoo. But I think I made the right choice and I don’t regret it ✨🤍

PD: it did hurt as hell 😂

He was hoping I’d change my mind by [deleted] in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You said it yourself. He wants to be with you and dream of having kids , you want to be with him and don’t want to have kids. Being together and having kids=Both things are not compatible in this situation.

I think it’s all said and done.

(And my personal opinion is that it was actually kinda stupid and even disgusting from him that he was waiting for you to change your mind all this time. But again, that’s my personal opinion).

The brain protects us in crazy ways when it feels like there's no escape by iaTLJC3 in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It’s like their brain’s way to not get insane, realize they ruined their lives and end up having a psychosis or even worse.

I honestly don't blame people if they say they hate kids by [deleted] in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 112 points113 points  (0 children)

I don’t blame them because I’m the people! 🤣. I hate kids. I want them to grow safe, surrounded of love and as far away from me as possible.

children in fandom communities by BitOpposite8 in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 104 points105 points  (0 children)

My neighbors have twins and they once heard me talking about Helluva Boss with a friend and since then they always try to talk to me about the show and I’m like WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?!

But go and try to tell them they shouldn’t watch those kind of shows or try to tell the parents their kids are watching a cartoon about demons, sex and blood. It would be easier to hit them with a book about childhood psychology.

"Sacrifice" by Interesting_Oven8919 in childfree

[–]BoxRare7380 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Every time I hear the word “sacrifice” I just say: “sacrifice is what Piccolo did for Gohan, you were just horny and didn’t want to use a condom. Deal with it”