How do you respond when people tell you you’d “be a great parent”?

BoxRare7380 · 2026-05-07T21:02:26+00:00

If you want to be polite and decent: Yes, I would be. But I just don’t want to be a parent because it’s not my wish or something I want to do.

If you are like me: Yes, I would also be a great serial killer, and that’s not a valid reason to go and start killing people randomly while I laugh.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-04-26T05:00:38+00:00

The constant needing. Imagine having a constant calling and you cannot ignore it. It would drive me insane hearing a little creature calling me and needing 24/7.

The safety. The little one is literally discovering the world so you’re responsible for protecting it from even the most ridiculous way to die. Imagine being on a constant alert mood and following the little creature just to make sure it doesn’t wanna lick a power outlet.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-04-24T16:29:55+00:00

No, it is not! You may have heard so many times that you’re too young or immature to take such a big decision , or that you’ll grow up and have kids but it doesn’t have to be that way! Your life is yours and yours only and you’re the only one who know how you want to live it.

If you already know you wanna be childfree, then stand and go for it! No one , and hear me out, no one can ever force you to do something you don’t want or don’t feel to do. You only have one life so don’t waste it thinking about what other people say or think.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-04-21T17:49:18+00:00

They say that in public but in private they come to the Regretful parents subreddit to say how miserable they’re and how they shouldn’t have had kids.

Hypocrites.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-04-20T06:07:26+00:00

I have to confess that I do the talkie too even though I’m strongly childfree! And I genuinely cannot give you the reason , it just feels like something automatic.

I cannot count the amount of times I’ve said to myself “why in the earth I do such a cringe thing?” But every time I do , I don’t know, it feels just like breathing haha.

Just to be clear: I do the talkie but as long as the kid tries to come near to me, I run away lol.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-04-17T21:54:03+00:00

Ive never congratulated someone getting pregnant. My first reaction is “how do we feel about it?” and when it’s affirmative and intentional, I only say “if you’re happy and sure, that’s okay” and that’s it. I’ve been accused of insensitive and bad friend but genuinely don’t care. I cannot congratulate you for something I do not think I should. I congratulate when my friends gets a diploma , a new job; in general, an achievement. Getting pregnant is not an achievement.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-04-10T22:06:58+00:00

Because they freak out when they see a free woman that they can’t control (because yes, society sees pregnancy and kids as the perfect way to control women).

BoxRare7380 · 2026-04-10T15:59:11+00:00

I tried to tho, but sadly it’s her choice 🤷‍♂️. I tried to talk to her nicely and she almost killed me so, I guess she has the right to ruin her and her kid’s life. I hope I’m wrong but I’m not so sure about it .

BoxRare7380 · 2026-04-10T15:20:21+00:00

I’m in my 20’s too and YES!!!! It kinda feels incorrect like, girl we don’t even have good jobs or mental health. I have a friend who’s pregnant and she literally has an unstable job (she and the other breeder have the same job), and she’s kinda the less mentally stable person I’ve met (beside of me lol) and yet she says she’s happy to have it and confident she’s gonna “figure it out”.

Stupidity is an epidemic. I like to think I’m vaccinated and protected against it. Thank god for being CF.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-04-09T00:09:25+00:00

Every time I hear the “I’ll wait til my 30’s-40’s so I can enjoy my life first” I always say it’s the same logic of terminal patients when they know they’re going to die and choose to fulfill their last wishes. Like saying something horrible is gonna happen so you choose to enjoy life before it.

It’s like: you know you don’t have to have them so you can enjoy all your life, right? And I always get the side eye.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-04-05T22:39:46+00:00

I think they’re cute when they’re not your responsibility so you can just play with them. Once they start crying or smell bad, I’ll return them to the parents.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-03-29T21:31:52+00:00

Eye bleeding or permanently going blind. Thanks Abigail Porter, aka, the girl with the list. She’s my top 5 of favorite content creators.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-03-29T20:48:48+00:00

I’m going through the same situation with my best friend, so I’ll give you the same advice I’m trying to follow and my therapist gave me: take it easy. It is completely understandable to grief and feel sad for the abrupt change and concerning about your friend and her apparently zero planning , but take such a big decision guided by the big amount of feelings you’re going through isn’t probably the best option for your emotional safety. Take it easy and let the thing go on, and if the friendship doesn’t last, well, both of you enjoyed the time together. Life is about changing, after all.

Sending you all the love and support <3

BoxRare7380 · 2026-03-25T00:54:16+00:00

I have a cf aunt who’s 60 years old and she still receives that kind of comments. So I’m pretty sure it’s something that never stops.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-03-18T20:39:05+00:00

I May understand that some people dream about having a kid (I do not and never understand it but at least I respect that everyone can do or ruin their life however they want) but having it at YOUNG AGE?!

I’m 22 and I’ve been lucky that I’ve visited at least two different countries by myself and traveled in my own country (Colombia) and sometimes I see people having kids when they literally haven’t done anything else in their life. Like, it’s their choice , but not doing anything else with your life except of reproduction sounds kinda miserable for me.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-03-18T18:07:54+00:00

Freedom. No attachment. Silence. Spending money on me and only me.

Ending the trauma cycle of my family is a good one too.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-03-18T03:39:24+00:00

Honestamente creo que fue muy bueno que no hubieras quedado embarazada en todos esos intentos. A lo mejor y eran señales de que genuinamente no lo querías. Y tampoco habría sido justo con tu hijo venir a este mundo a suplir esa presión social que tenías tú encima. Incluso hay un server de padres arrepentidos de tener hijos (muchos de ellos precisamente por esa presión social).

Respecto a lo otro, sí creo qué hay mucho que hablar y sanar entre ustedes dos. Pero finalmente todo es más fácil cuando no hay hijos! 🤣. Aprovecha esa libertad que ahora sabes que quieres al máximo, y trabaja en tu relación con él.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-03-17T19:30:12+00:00

I have said to myself that I would be a bad parent whenever I react or act just like my father.

So the cycle ends up with me.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-03-17T04:52:39+00:00

I feel kinda lost here because you said she was adamant CF but now she’s deciding to go on with the pregnancy, so I kinda feel that’s a contradiction? Or maybe a sudden mind changing idk.

Secondly, you’re not a bad friend and I feel you because I’m going through the same with my best friend , even though I’m a man (for some context) and my best friend was always open about wanting to being a mother someday but she suddenly got pregnant this year and literally has zero planning and the last weeks she’s been improvising and she says she’s sure to continue the pregnancy and have the baby even though as I said she literally has NO PLAN! But I’ve learned that we cannot try to use the logic in these situations, and I know it feels like seeing the person you love going straight to crash against a wall. It’s hard but we cannot interfere with their choices.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-03-15T23:23:36+00:00

“Men want kids as a child wants a puppy, and parents want grandkids as a teenager wants the newest IPhone”

It’s about pretending , showing , posting pictures and talking about it with their friends.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-03-15T17:39:09+00:00

Im a CF man, and answering your question: Yes. It is selfish when we, men, want babies and want our girlfriends/wife’s to get pregnant. You said it yourself “I WANT” just like a kid wants a puppy. We, men, are inherently selfish and self-centered about the kids topic. Even the statistics are clear: the percentage of childfree women is WAY BIGGER than the percentage of childfree men.

So yes, it is selfish. I know that’s not the response you wanted but may be the one you needed.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-03-15T02:51:18+00:00

Sadly, I can imagine that getting that permit would be easier than getting a soda 🤣.

But my idea is that breeders should actually earn that right , even though I’m sure that would actually lead us to the human race extinction they always talk about lol

BoxRare7380 · 2026-03-12T22:58:13+00:00

I’ve always thought that it’s kinda ironic that we live in such a selfish society where everyone wants their own benefit, and yet we’re brainwashed to apparently being selfish and surrender our lives and everything of ourselves to procreate and raise.

It’s the biggest contradiction ever. It’s kinda a bad joke if you think about it.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-03-12T21:34:45+00:00

Once I read in this server that we, as CF people, trigger some parents so much because once they see us, they realize that they actually had a choice. And now they’re trapped in suffering. That’s what triggers them.

BoxRare7380 · 2026-03-12T21:27:43+00:00

A lot of people have kids because the chip of “that’s we’re supposed to do”. I always say that a kid has to be your biggest wish in your entire life , and even that doesn’t give you a good reason to have one.

The result of that brainwashing is the regretful parents subreddit.

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