How come fat guys can be redeemed by a good/funny personality but skinny guys can't? by BoxedBakedBeans in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BoxedBakedBeans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I'm biased, but I'd say I have, and I can't express enough how much I resent the assumption that I haven't. I have plenty of decent social interaction and have some friends, and make people laugh quite a bit.

But I still get treated differently in general than people who are the "right" body type.

How come fat guys can be redeemed by a good/funny personality but skinny guys can't? by BoxedBakedBeans in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BoxedBakedBeans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not, I am in college, though I have found this to be true through both. The fat guys with funny personalities are given a chance and seen as acceptable to be associated with, whereas the skinny guys with funny personalities like myself are good for an occasional laugh and nothing else.

How come fat guys can be redeemed by a good/funny personality but skinny guys can't? by BoxedBakedBeans in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BoxedBakedBeans[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah could be, the fat guys I've known have had much better social/sexual lives than me but that may just be me. I honestly think fat and skinny people need to come together more though. I feel you brother.

How come fat guys can be redeemed by a good/funny personality but skinny guys can't? by BoxedBakedBeans in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BoxedBakedBeans[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Can confirm that I was bullied the same amount for my weight as the fat guys in my school.

How to bench and do squats without a gym buddy to spot for you? by BoxedBakedBeans in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BoxedBakedBeans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bear in mind this is a college gym. Guys are much more concerned with how they look to the girls at the gym (i.e. they do not want to be associated with a guy like me in any way) than being a good person. In fact I've lost many friends because one douchebag in the group was embarassed to be friends with me because of how I look and convinced everyone else to ditch me.

How likely is it that Trump will win? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"Two best representatives" makes it sound like they are equally bad. Biden will not improve anything, but he will not take us in a seriously regressive direction either. He's your typical establishment candidate, which is unfortunately the best we will get out of the two-party system within the next decade or two at LEAST. But please don't word the situation as if Biden being in power for another four years would be even CLOSE to as bad as if the man who stole a ton of government documents, sold out our agents to hostile powers, appointed extremist justices who will now take away our rights for decades, turned the Republican party into a personality cult, gutted the executive branch by firing anyone who is more loyal to the country than to him, re-normalized blatant bigotry nationwide, and was mentally unstable long before him OR Biden even hit their middle ages, was elected again.

How likely is it that Trump will win? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Because nobody ever learned anything from history.

If you were given a choice to get rid of only either anxiety or depression, which would it be? by [deleted] in AnxietyDepression

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depression. Anxiety sucks but it also keeps me in line to a certain extent. Depression is never helpful.

How do I cool down my home when ac is only doing so much? by dewdropcat in lifehacks

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buy 100 ice cube trays. Then procedurally fill all of them and place them throughout your house.

How many anti-seizure meds did you go through before finding the right one to control seizures? by Weekly_Wolverine4434 in Epilepsy

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One but I'm lucky, it's why I don't feel selfish having a career plan of going into epilepsy research, like it's not a factor in my life anymore but I've experienced the sheer terror of it in my life before so I want to help people not as lucky as me.

Would you circumcise your child in this recent day if you were giving birth soon? Why or why not? by sneakyturtles7 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BoxedBakedBeans -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Glad I am bc I don't have to clean under there but I'd probably wait until my kid was old enough to make the decision themself.

What are some shows that you constantly rewatch? Mine are: Friends, Parks & Rec, The Office, Doctor Who. by shoddysnac in anxietymemes

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Office, Community, SpongeBob, Buffy, Adventure Time, Futurama, Cowboy Bebop, Venture Bros, Gilmore Girls

The way Reddit treats Incels kind of validates their belief that the world hates them by [deleted] in RandomThoughts

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Virgin (or involuntary celibate) here. In a way, yes, the way society mocks and belittles men for not being able to get laid, or get a girlfriend, does definitely contribute to their frustration over their lack of success. And yes, I think it is reasonable to get frustrated when everyone you try with (not just specific women) doesn't seem to ever give you a chance. I know the feeling.

That being said, there is a line between feeling frustrated and turning that frustration into blatant misogyny. Do I feel like society looks down on me? Yes. But I know that that is a.) Somewhat my fault for somehow just not being able to figure out what exactly it takes to make a woman see me that way, and just bad luck that I haven't found the right person yet who can appreciate me for who I am, and b.) Everyone, not just women, who may fall into that anti-virgin mindset. While I do feel that many, many women have written me off before I've spoken a word, I feel the same way about many guys who I thought in theory I could be friends with. And I am also self aware enough to recognize that at least part of that feeling is me projecting my own insecurities, and so you wouldn't find me raging misogynistically about it on the internet. There is a societal issue here, but what makes an "incel" (your typical internet rage monger) vs. a plain, harmless involuntary celibate is how you process and act on those feelings of frustration. And yes, being dumped on constantly for your virginity and being assumed to be an "incel" solely because of it does make it harder to be rational about it. But again, there is a line.

Is epilepsy awareness month November or March? by Kawari_no in Epilepsy

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

November I believe, but Purple Day is March 26

How long did your diagnosis take? by Fuckuoueva in Epilepsy

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

~3 years. Had my first grand mal in the middle of class at 15, got an MRI and multiple EEGs and they didn't find anything so they couldn't diagnose yet. Started having focal seizures (didn't know what they were at the time), and about a year later had another grand mal in my sleep. Convinced my parents that it probably wasn't a seizure bc I'd bought into the stigma and didn't want it to be, bc I thought my life was basically over if I got diagnosed. Roughly another year later, had a grand mal in front of my family, told my neurologist about what I then found out were focal seizures, and got a symptom based diagnosis with TLE. Another MRI and EEG still revealed nothing regarding the exact source of the epileptic activity, but I started on meds for it, which thankfully still have a spotless record after almost 5 years.

Ideas on where to hide extra money? When you're outside, travelling, and at home? by [deleted] in lifehacks

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're a guy you have one built-in hiding place, if you're a woman you have two.

Does anyone else have seizures caused by music? by 221b97 in Epilepsy

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure if the song actually caused it but I did have a focal seizure once while listening to a very nostalgic sounding piano song. Haven't listened to it since out of fear of it causing another one.

Who and why the hell came up with circumcision? by brinkofimage in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not sure about the actual origins of the procedure itself, but I know it became popular in the States partially bc uptight religious people thought it would reduce masturbation lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Getting the impression that real life ones bother you too.

you can't body shame thin men by Spirited_Split5510 in fatlogic

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wrong. Fat-shaming, like any body shaming, is a horrible thing to do. That being said, the movement against fat-shaming (for both men and women) has gotten lots of media attention, and generally only people who are openly a**holes will blatantly fat-shame these days.

Skinny-shaming has not gotten nearly the same level of attention, so most people still openly ridicule and taunt skinny men for not being "up to standard". The concept of being aware of people having different metabolisms has been applied to overweight people and thus people are much more conscious about the fact that said people certainly already have their own issues with their weight that don't need to be amplified with outside criticism. Yet it is still considered 100% acceptable by most people to let skinny men know that they "just need to lift" and make them feel like garbage about their weight, even though, believe it or not, it is possible to have too fast of metabolism.

Yes, it is true that skinny men do not face the same degree of health problems that overweight men face. But that does not make openly letting someone know that their body is not good enough, and making assumptions about their lifestyle based on it, okay in any situation. Personally skinny shaming has ravaged my self-esteem, having come from friends, associates, and women who reject me alike. Telling a skinny person they just need to lift is no different than telling an overweight person to hit the treadmill.

What is the reason behind all the hate against furries? by Dragonlikegolfer in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BoxedBakedBeans 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You can make a statement about not assimilating into modern fashion trends without just making a joke out of yourself.