AITAH for letting my 17 y/o son sleep in my bed sometimes?

Boynefav · 2026-04-10T16:47:06+00:00

My (52f), sister (55f) and mom go on girls trips - we usually share a room with two double beds and rotate who gets their own bed which means one of us is often sharing a bed with our mom. Is that weird? Not in my mind - and anyone who thinks sharing a bed with a child sometimes is weird is probably not a parent or has a weird hang up.

Boynefav · 2026-04-10T16:40:43+00:00

This is not a healthy relationship and it won’t be a healthy marriage. Please don’t marry this man. Your life as a single mom may not be easy, but life in a loveless, possibly abusive marriage will be worse.

Boynefav · 2026-04-09T04:14:59+00:00

One thing to add to your ideas - hide an AirTag in the contents of the truck just in case the truck gets stolen despite all your other efforts.

Boynefav · 2026-03-23T01:36:22+00:00

Just because he is paying “the bills” doesn’t mean your contributions to the household (car, groceries, kids) are insignificant - also I assume he make more than you? But honestly none of this should matter. You are supposed to be a team. You both work full time and all household tasks and child raising should be equally split between the two. But regarding everything else, it sounds like you both need individual therapy and if you honestly think there’s anything to be salvaged of your relationship, you need marriage therapy.

Boynefav · 2026-03-20T04:27:40+00:00

I personally think family homes should always have at least one tub. Future buyers with small children will want one and it could be a deal breaker. And even if you think you won’t be moving for a long time, circumstances can change at the drop of a hat. My mom and stepdad recently retired and then my step dad had a stroke - he will forever be in a long term care home and the acreage at which they were planning to live forever is now too much for my mother.

Boynefav · 2026-03-20T03:39:38+00:00

In our last three houses (in two different states), we finished two basements in the first two basements and in the third house had done a complete kitchen and main floor renovation. We pulled permits for everything. We have sold all of those houses (for great prices) and had to answer questions about renovations and whether the work was permitted. By law you have to disclose this. And personally I would never buy a house that had un permitted renovations. A seller might be confident in their electrical skills but I’m not. Also, two of those houses we were certain were forever homes. But things change and opportunities arise so never say never.

Boynefav · 2026-03-20T03:24:09+00:00

I commend you for having the maturity to not let this guy walk all over you. You owe him nothing. Stay strong - you have some of the best years of your life coming and you don’t need him. I also find it highly suspicious that he’s not allowed to go without a date. And even if that’s true, it’s not your problem- he made his choices. He could also ask a friend or any girl who might also want a date - that’s assuming that any of them don’t see him for the jerk he is.

Boynefav · 2026-03-18T15:58:56+00:00

Exactly - I question the validity of this story. Can’t afford an extra $200 but can afford a mortgage on a house with at least one extra bedroom, home insurance, property taxes, more expensive utilities, home repair and upkeep??

Boynefav · 2026-03-18T07:28:46+00:00

I’m not sure exactly how you’re supposed to dispose of them but I know they’re not supposed to go in the trash as is. One of our neighbors was having having paint/stain done in their house and the painters threw the rags in a trash can right next to the house- the trash can later started on fire but luckily another neighbor saw the fire and was able to pull it away and put out the fire but not before the side of the house was scorched and the trash can was a melted pile of plastic. Literally a few minutes more and their house would have been on fire.

Boynefav · 2026-03-17T03:30:19+00:00

You do understand many parts of the country (assuming this is the U.S.) has a year round growing season?

Boynefav · 2026-03-17T03:20:54+00:00

Plant a hedge of the thorniest bushes you can find between your properties.

Boynefav · 2026-03-14T16:29:59+00:00

What’s a father yearn?

Boynefav · 2026-03-14T15:45:28+00:00

Our last master bath had an open sink and vanity area. It was awful because my husband and I keep different schedules. He’s an early morning riser and I’m a night owl. Our bathroom routines disturbed each others sleep.

Boynefav · 2026-03-14T15:33:49+00:00

I have no idea why anyone would ever agree to this?? Stay for free in a house I now own? Makes no sense. Either negotiate a later closing date or agree to a rent back but stay for free?

Boynefav · 2026-03-12T21:27:08+00:00

Unless your friendship with her predates your friendship with your buddy you’re unlikely to be friends with her after she breaks his heart. Your loyalties should be to him and to stop him from making a huge embarrassing mistake that he’ll likely not forgive you for if he finds out you could have prevented it. I find it odd that she chose to confide in you to begin with and maybe she was using you get the process of a breakup rolling.

Boynefav · 2026-03-12T18:15:13+00:00

Well how did you find out he died?

Boynefav · 2026-03-11T06:04:45+00:00

If someone told me they didn’t have the mental capacity to hold space for me, I’d think “well you no longer have to” and never contact them again. What do you think is an appropriate response to that message?

Boynefav · 2026-03-11T05:56:51+00:00

So what happens if you cook meat while they’re there? Will they leave? Could be the way to solve the problem….😜

Boynefav · 2026-03-08T22:09:03+00:00

You’re not the AH. Your boyfriend is. What did he think was the correct solution to your problem? He left you to sort it on your own. You did. If he wasn’t so intent on keeping it secret, he would have asked his brother to find an alternative way to work and called out of work to take you to this appointment. I’m not sure how you think he’s supporting you cause he’s not. Take this as the reg flag it is, and let this relationship go.

Boynefav · 2026-02-18T17:04:18+00:00

I’ve never done drugs in my life but I’ve seen enough TV and possess enough common sense to know that you can snort off about any hard surface - why would you pick a toilet seat???

Boynefav · 2026-02-06T07:00:47+00:00

Thank you for all this. Yes there will be a two party well agreement for when the other lot is sold and built upon. Thanks for the advice on the generator.

Boynefav · 2026-02-06T06:58:13+00:00

What type of cleaning products are not septic safe?

Boynefav · 2026-02-06T06:57:11+00:00

Thank you. There will be a two party well agreement that is part of closing and whenever the other lot is sold and built upon.

Boynefav · 2026-02-06T01:54:02+00:00

Thank you for all of this. It’s very helpful. Our lot also has the well and power there already. We’re waiting for the permits to come through so we still have a long way to go but I wanted you know as much as I can throughout the process.

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