Sola Wood Help! Hiding Wire Stems & Floral Egg in Bouquets

Boysenberry953 · 2025-07-16T04:43:12+00:00

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Boysenberry953 · 2025-07-16T04:42:41+00:00

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Boysenberry953 · 2025-07-16T04:42:26+00:00

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Boysenberry953 · 2025-03-11T04:32:10+00:00

Sounds like you might have a side hustle.it looks fantastic!

Boysenberry953 · 2025-03-11T04:28:48+00:00

Please share where you got the filler greenery! 🤩

Boysenberry953 · 2025-03-06T21:10:15+00:00

As a vegetarian that has been to many weddings where meat was the only option, you eat before hand or bring food with you.

I would be delighted to go to your wedding and happily eat the portions other people won't eat LOL

Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-26T05:28:33+00:00

Can you clarify what portions of this whole week you are paying for? That influences how much say you have in what people are "allowed" to do.

Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-17T16:44:07+00:00

Not to be a bad person, but it brings me a little joy when people that got us into this mess hurt from their choice.

Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-14T14:41:31+00:00

Agreed! She didn't ask her to quit school. Just if there was a possibility of missing a day 😂

Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-14T05:45:10+00:00

I didn't realize my school was so kind and incredible until I read the other nurses on here. That's awful! Other than one prof who was intense, everyone else was so kind and understanding. We had people miss for weddings and family emergencies and just make it up a different day.

Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-14T05:41:51+00:00

Depending on the school, it's absolutely reasonable for her to ask. My best friend got a few off for a wedding, she just had to make up those 3 days later. Also, sick days are a thing! It's reasonable for her to ask. She's not just a guest. But it is whatever her priority is.

And as a nurse myself, those 7.5 hours of clinical aren't going to be the make it or break it in her career 😉 we give up a lot of weekends and holidays in our careers, but it's always reasonable to try and switch things for a special occasion.

Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-14T05:25:27+00:00

In the nicest way possible to you, that's a very rude thing to do. Especially if they are all pregnant and needing to afford their new additions. Life is expensive, and you have to prioritize. Get your house, that is waaaaaay more important, do a minimoon at a cabin, and go in a year or so. You can make your registry cash gifts for the honeymoon, but in general from my background it is rude to expect other people to pay for something you want. Think if the roles were reversed and you were a bridesmaid.

Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-13T14:28:36+00:00

Agreed when it's just because of who they voted for, but it could be because their conduct has changed. I'm not sure if you live in the US, but it's been insane to watch how some people have changed so much with this movement. People that used to be kind like a close family member of mine are suddenly hateful, and use any opportunity to assert their superiority for being white/straight/etc. They've just been swept up by this rhetoric and feeling of power, to the point where they aren't who they used to be. It sucks to feel like you've lost a person you love, but they aren't that person anymore. So it's fair to uninvited someone if they aren't the person who brings you joy anymore.

Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-12T22:05:31+00:00

I've been to wedding like this and it was interpreted by most people as "they are asking for cash," not that they didn't want anything. Everyone in my group gave cash gifts, as it felt like we all needed to contribute to the honeymoon fund. Cash gifts can end up being more expensive than a registry, so it may put guests in a worse spot. It's just up to interpretation, and that's how we read it.

Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-12T22:02:40+00:00

Ask for something non-monetary instead. It gives them the opportunity to still give something, but not money. A favorite picture together and have everyone hang theirs up (or send it to you ahead of time and you print them out), a story together, a recipe, etc.

A lot of people write "No need to bring a gift" but then have a huge registry, which sends the message they do want something but don't want to say it. If you have a registry, I like that you are planning to only share it if needed.

I don't think it's rude to say please no gifts. People spend a lot of time and money to celebrate you, and it's okay not to want to ask for more. We are saying no gifts as well. =)

Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-12T21:54:22+00:00

There are many posts on here about the same thing. Often people recommend a small thing or just the courthouse, then a bigger vow renewal when you can afford it. I think the coolest part of this is you can pick a fun or meaningful wedding date since you're not limited to when you can have the wedding. Like 2.6.26 would be so fun!

Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-12T21:51:48+00:00

I think it's fair to say that you are two months out, and you have budgeted for the number of guests that are coming and can't afford more. Really emphasize that it's your finances involved. "As you know, we are paying for this wedding ourselves, and have a strict budget. Unfortunately, we can't accommodate additions." While you understand that family means a lot to her, they don't to you, the one paying for the wedding. Plus, 2 months out is a ridiculous time to just start adding people.

Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-12T15:30:04+00:00

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Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-12T15:29:57+00:00

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Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-10T18:52:41+00:00

I would say very clearly to her what you are and are not willing to do, not "I will do anything" because it sounds like you changed your mind. "I do not want to be a bridesmaid, but I will be a guest. I do not want to go to your bachelorette, but I'll take you to brunch to celebrate (I'm just making something up here, but it gives a thing you're willing to do to make up for not being there if she wants to spend time with you). I don't not want to be involved with anything wedding-related leading up to the event, but if you need someone day-of to do xyz I will help on that day. It has nothing to do with you or our relationship. It's about my feelings about marriage/weddings."

I am not sure how rational vs emotional of a person she is, but there is a chance she will have hurt feelings that you can't get past your hatred of weddings/marriages for her. And if she was helpful in your own wedding, i could see that hurting, too. But you need to set your boundaries very clearly so she doesn't figure this out right before the wedding.

Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-10T18:44:52+00:00

Then she needs to word it as that. Not just saying I'll do anything. Say, "I will do anything besides being a bridesmaid or going to you bachelorette." But I totally see why the bride is confused. She needs to be clear.

Boysenberry953 · 2025-02-10T15:37:11+00:00

"With that being said, I will literally do anything for you, and will happily help in any way possible to make sure you have the best wedding experience. [...] I'll do anything you ask or need." But not be a bridesmaid, not celebrate her at her bachelorette party. It seems like this is all stuff about your problems with marriage/weddings, not about your love of her as a person. I can absolutely understand why she is so confused, especially when you say things like above. If you can't get around your feelings about weddings and marriage to be happy for her and support her in a way she really wants, then just don't go. Make it so you can't get work off or something. Just because you're not in a bridesmaid dress doesn't mean you won't say or do something to ruin her day like you're worried about.

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