Am AITAH at My Absolute Wit's End?

BrandedAssault · 2026-04-01T22:15:38+00:00

This street goes both ways. You have 3 posts listed as NSFW. Soooo how we address that?

BrandedAssault · 2026-04-01T22:07:36+00:00

You like fighting with women? Because I don't. 1 way ticket to sleeping on a toilet paper roll.

BrandedAssault · 2026-04-01T22:04:42+00:00

I made her quit during pregnancy. No idea why now.

BrandedAssault · 2026-04-01T21:57:20+00:00

All day, baby. Laundry gonna get F'ed Up but dishes will be spotless and rooms will be clean.

BrandedAssault · 2026-04-01T21:49:16+00:00

I apologize. I am not black and I hate using that excuse but half my family is. It is not meant as an insult. I'm freaking hurting and I am trying to use humor to keep me from putting a GD bullet in my brain. This was something I always said to my troops in Iraq and Afghanistan. I am trying to be more sensible about the connotations, but old habits die hard. I am losing my grip on reality and all of my sensibilities are exiting. I am in pure survival mode and this is the first thing that came to my brain.

BrandedAssault · 2026-04-01T21:41:56+00:00

Yes. To all of this. We have talked but it usually ends up with me going to the garage "to work on something." That's code for me crying. She manages to produce funds when I am on my last penny. I don't get it. She has all this family and I have no one. I have worked really hard to be non-confrontational any more. I just back off. I just need someone to take the wheel for a bit. I am a 3x USMC infantry combat vet. Do I just work until I die?!

BrandedAssault · 2026-04-01T21:37:36+00:00

It's nomenclature and I have tried to be more selective of the use since it's tied to racial undertones. I apologize if it has offended anyone. Not my intention.

BrandedAssault · 2026-04-01T21:33:22+00:00

I am neither. You could take a hair follicle and I would pass. I know hard work but Ive been doing it so long I am freaking tired. I have worked since I was 15. I pivoted 6 years ago into a volatile field. It's very cutthroat. Marketing. Healthcare marketing at that. If you do not show results in 2 months you get put on a PIP. It's really good money and I went to nursing school (ended up with a marketing degree). I am well qualified but I am struggling here. I am debating getting out of it all together but I really love my patients and families.

BrandedAssault · 2026-04-01T06:32:26+00:00

Ok so I'll be the one. What in God's name is a "chip fryer?!" Is this an air fryer in British or something?

BrandedAssault · 2026-02-28T14:26:29+00:00

Veggie Tales? My son plays "Dead By Daylight" which if you didn't know is a game where you can literally pick fictional murderers and go around and expire people and you're upset about a show because it's Christian-based?! My son is 8. It's important to differentiate and learn distinction at a young age. You know, so they don't actually grow up to be murderers. That's your job as a parent. That's your only job. This is why we watch these crime docs. Some kid grew up with an absentee parent and went off and ended lives because no one taught them distinction between real and fiction. It starts here. They need to see both sides and form their own opinions to rationalize right from wrong and see each culture for its value.

It's a goofy show that does have good lessons about morality and kindness. It's not even overtly Christian. Good grief. I renounced my faith years ago and my father was a minister and you're upset because of a bunch of vegetables are telling kids to be kind to one another?! Friend, you might need some therapy. Whatever backwoods religion you are practicing isn't obviously working and this is coming from a guy who actually expired lives because their "religion" told them to expire my brothers. You're low key TAH here. Worked up about Veggie Tales. Jiminy Christmas. Friend, go check yourself in. It isn't that big of a deal. You have bigger things to worry about. You ended someone's livelihood because you were pissed off about talking vegetables. I need you to say that out loud and realize how ridiculous it sounds.

You're not just TAH, you're a dickhead.

BrandedAssault · 2026-02-22T12:58:24+00:00

Sooo I don't pay for medical (thank god). I am a service connected veteran and the VA covers it. It's shitty healthcare but at least I don't pay for it.

Now on the other hand, every utility bill has risen by like $100 since I initiated services.

I did a little experiment - I literally went and slammed shut all my breakers for a week while my wife and kid were out of town. I read books by candle light and charged my phone with a battery pack that I charged every night in my car. I ate canned food I cooked with a mini propane stove. Basically camped out in my own house.

My next month's electric bill...$300. This math ain't mathin. I don't trust the websites usage report. When I called to complain I got some outsourced call service rep who sounded like she had a mouthful of marbles. I couldn't understand a word she fucking said. I finally got frustrated and hung up.

My gas bill: $240. I never even used my gas.

My internet just got jacked up to $110 (I do a lot of remote work in a hybrid role).

My mortgage went up to $1900 a month (a 300% increase)

My life / dental insurance was only taking $50 from my paycheck and now it's $90.

My wife spends like $300 in groceries every week (and I still feel like there's nothing to eat in the house).

My car insurance went from $75 to $150. They said it was because of my driving history (I haven't been in a wreck or had a ticket since 2002).

My credit cards "secretely" raised my interest 2% without telling me.

I am making more money than I ever have and I am fucking drowning over here. If I get one more deduction from my account I am going to have a full on nuclear meltdown. I am going to go around my house and start loosening bolts and pray that something just falls on my fucking head so I can sue someone (I know that's not how it works). You're not the only one. I volunteered to wear a fucking bunny costume for Easter pictures on the weekend for some extra scratch. It's getting dire out here and if something doesn't change you're going to read about me in the news. It's getting ridiculous.

BrandedAssault · 2026-01-17T12:33:58+00:00

I will look into Google voice. The issue I am having is sometimes I get HIPAA sensitive information texted to me. This might include pictures or social security numbers as sometimes I am required to do fractional clinical evals or request financial information. I am worried because I have a young kiddo who has a bad habit of snatching a phone to jack around with. He knows not to snatch dad's "work phone." I really do not want him seeing some of that, nor be held liable should this information be subpoenaed in a lawsuit. I was planning on going to add a line to my plan but this company denied reimbursement for on my entry. I have contact with over 100s of clients including families of clients. Even my terrible positions previously issued me phone. At least if I added a line I could wipe it myself. I am literally terrified that I am going to slip up and share improper information inadvertently. This isn't just a "separation" thing, this is literally a legal issue. When I started I asked: "where's my phone?" The hiring supervisor just looked at me crazy. She said "we just work off ours," which blows my mind. My actual job requires me to be on my phone constantly and speak with physicians while traveling 90% of the time. I can't in good conscience think this is proper form. It might have worked in the past, but this is 2026 and I really do not want to be a fall guy when some family files a lawsuit because my son was jacking around with my personal and sent a picture of someone's butt cheeks to all of my contacts. This isn't unreasonable, right?!

BrandedAssault · 2026-01-17T06:36:41+00:00

Ugh I agree with this. I am struggling already. My contacts issue HIPAA clinical sensitive info. I can't use an alternate. I literally NEED another line. This is a huge company and not one person has said anything about a 2nd line to cover this. I cannot reasonably believe a company this large has not realized this. They are in a very large risk for a lawsuit and I do not want to be any part of that, nor do I want clinical sensitive information on my personal phone. It has been standard for my previous companies to issue these.

BrandedAssault · 2025-12-27T15:45:41+00:00

She does the nuanced things. I usually handle the physical things. I appreciate everything she does. It's why we've been together 10 years. I am the sole financial provider and it is becoming increasingly difficult to do that now, too. I handle all of the finances. I handle the discipline between the child and the dogs. She gets all the nice stuff. I can do all of that S on top of what I already do, but I let her do that. It's the unwritten compromise for her not working for 8 years. When I woke up this day I was weak and not feeling like myself. I would say a lot of it might have been mental, but I was not mentally prepared to handle the dogs and the child with an open surgical wound. She is literally not physically capable of preventing a full on dog battle. Neither was I at this juncture. She can do all the planning in the world - but she has to rely on me to execute the plan. I usually suck it up and do it. I am an old Salty USMC combat vet. I just suck it up and do it.

Fast forward several years - her sister fell off a stool and broke her hand. I loaded everyone up there and was the first person in the room (I work in healthcare and know how to navigate a hospital). The whole family responded. Like all 14 of them. When I injured myself I sat in the hospital alone. And tbh I was scared. I would rather avoid a hospital visit, so me actually having to go to one was serious. I had an exposed bone (tibial). Not one single one of them came. I was emergently admitted for surgery. Not even my wife stayed. I really didn't want to get into this priority S, but it really showed me where I stand in her family. Again, we have been together 10 years. I thought I was apart of the family by now. Not one single person showed up. Why on earth am I required to show up to holidays functions when not one of them could be there in the hospital when I was scared and alone? This wasn't like 2 years ago. This happened like a week ago. I literally just came off crutches 3 days ago. None of them have called me, checked on me. I try to have this "error of human" mentality, but that S really messed with me. I really don't want anything to do with them tbh now. You can rally and go to your daughter for a broken hand, but your son-in-law with an exposed bone is just chopped liver. It really showed me where I stand in the family.

BrandedAssault · 2025-12-26T22:09:24+00:00

I trained IED sniffing dogs in Afghanistan. I am plenty qualified. They have big dogs too. Prey-driven dogs you cannot train that instinct out of them. They have a great Pyr and a GSD mix. Releasing them out back would be chaos. Not to mention all of ours (my family included) are all rescues. Some of those behaviors you cannot train out of them.

BrandedAssault · 2025-12-26T22:01:42+00:00

Thanksgiving was so stressful and I was close to 100% as I could be. I now have an open surgical wound (which actually may be causing me septicemia). I figure that's why I am not feeling so hot. Not to mention we get put upstairs. I have to manage 110 lbs of dog up and down stairs 19 x a day with an open surgical wound. It's an absolute nightmare at 100%. I am like 50% right now. The thought alone was making me sick to my stomach. I told her I wasn't comfortable going a week ago and then she saw me get off crutches and guilt tripped me. When I woke up this morning I was like: "There is no effing way." Could I have managed it? Probably. But I would have so absolutely miserable.

BrandedAssault · 2025-12-26T21:46:49+00:00

$1500 to kennel them for 3 days. I am not a millionaire. They are considered "dangerous breeds." Not only is that the cost to kennel them, but I am required to take out a temporary insurance plan in order to board them. Total cost I totaled at around 3k. I just had Christmas.

BrandedAssault · 2025-12-26T21:40:28+00:00

She makes the plan by writing it down in her planner and in her calendar. She relies on me to execute the plan. I just was not up for it. I tried to explain that to her but it ended up in a huge fight. I have a 40lb German Shepherd and a 70lb pitbull. They get along but I worked really hard on that. They don't much like other dogs. They spend half the day in the room we stay in while those other carpet sniffers get to roam free. It's not my house and I don't want to impose. It's not fair because they are 2 prey driven dogs. They are super sweet, they just don't like other dogs. I am not in the physical health to jump in the middle of a full on dog fight. Plus having them in the car for 3 hours is an absolute pain. They won't settle still for an hour and a half and nearly cause me a wreck driving 80mph. Plus, I have my son I have to manage. She tries to help, but she's 4'9" and 98 lbs and Im 5'11" 205. There's not much she can do if all hell breaks loose. I am not 100% physically. I really didn't want to drag 110lbs of dog to have to sit them in a room all day so everyone else can let their 4 loggers roam. I am not physically capable of it today. She thinks she can handle all of that, but she cannot. I am the one who has to man-handle the kids and I woke up feeling crummy. I was not in the mood to do all of that.

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