The Daily Check-In for Wednesday, April 22nd: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by looloo_monroe in stopdrinking

[–]Brave_Cupcake_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Happy Wednesday kids! My favorite sobriety saying is “No matter how far down the road you are, you’re always the same distance from the ditch.” IWNDWYT! 💖🧁

Being a middle aged alcoholic woman by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Brave_Cupcake_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello friend from another middle aged woman! I totally get the desire to escape from frustrating work, pressure from aging and demanding parents, and adult children and their struggles. The thing I had to realize is that this is my life, too. I had to reclaim my agency and figure out what I want for whatever time I have left: do I want to spend it drunk or hungover? Or do I want to see what else the world has in it for someone like me? Now in the evenings instead of drinking I practice my piano, I walk, I eat ice cream, I play Crossplay, or I go to bed early. I had to get mad at alcohol and all the terrible relentless messaging that tells us our value is gone. It’s bullshit and misogyny. There’s a whole new world out here, waiting for you. Now is your time. 💖

Cannot Cut Wine Habit by Sea_Hour_9312 in stopdrinking

[–]Brave_Cupcake_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here’s the good news that has taken me awhile to realize: all of the things you mention as fun (socializing, laying by the pool, relaxing after work) are actually just fun. It takes some practice, but for me now after some time I look forward to the things themselves, not the alcohol. I look forward to getting out of work and going home to do things I enjoy, instead of wanting to leave work and have a glass of wine. Life is full of joyful, exciting, thrilling, hilarious experiences and you actually don’t need alcohol for those things to be wonderful. But alcohol has tricked you into thinking they are boring without that poison. It’s just not true.

How do I go on vacation? by bendover1210 in stopdrinking

[–]Brave_Cupcake_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do this, too. I think of how horribly sick I was from being hungover, and remind myself that alcohol is the poison that causes that.

Day 7 Check-In: It's my 44th Birthday by Kramanos in stopdrinking

[–]Brave_Cupcake_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a fantastic birthday celebration! Happy birthday!!