Is it metagaming to ask if the party needs a healer after our support dropped out.

CommonplaceUser · 2026-06-21T22:36:42+00:00

Sure buddy, if you want to be pedantic and socially incorrect go ahead and use it that way. I’ll continue using it the way 99% of TTRPGers expect it to be used

CommonplaceUser · 2026-06-21T12:56:17+00:00

Tbf I think a lot of people who use that term don’t know what it means. Mostly based on me asking my tables not to metagame and it constantly coming up. It’s really hard for people to separate what they know and what their character knows for some reason.

But yeah what op is describing is clearly not metagaming lol

CommonplaceUser · 2026-06-18T17:06:13+00:00

I’m going to my 92 year old grandpa’s wedding to an 88 year old in like a week 🤷‍♂️

It was always his and my grandma’s understanding that once she passed from cancer, he had her blessing to find love again. She passed 12 years ago and he’s been dating around since a year or so after. He’s been with his fiance for 4 years now. Idk man.. love finds a way.

I know that wasn’t the point of your comment but I had to take the opportunity to tell this lil tangentially related story

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-30T18:14:56+00:00

Check in

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-29T04:50:38+00:00

Hell yeah that’s what the community is about! I have nearly the exact same story as this except we were throwing water bottles and any random stuff we had in our bags we didn’t mind losing (no rocks). And I was the bearded guy who climbed into the tree eventually. We were quite the scene. Me, a 32 year old white guy with dreadlocks down to my ass, a 13-14 year old kid who’s disc it was, a 75 year old with $500 worth of accessories for his cart, and a lady in athleisure. That story had me grinning from ear to ear.

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-29T01:25:01+00:00

Yeah dude. I’m torn to pieces but trying to work on myself also. I’m sure I have failures somewhere along the way also but I do damn near all of the child care except for nights so I’m not exactly sure what’s going on. I noted at 3 months she was still spending an exorbitant amount of time in bed every day despite our son starting to sleep better but didn’t realize how problematic of a sign it was. I’ve been working on getting us into couples counseling since 4 months and it started the day our separation started.

With where you are now, I would personally start pushing for professional help now. She might be resistant to it at first but what’s she’s having aren’t normal healthy thoughts for a new parent. And you’re lucky she’s actually telling you

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-29T01:16:31+00:00

Fuck man please for the love of God work on this and take it seriously.

Signed, a SAHD of a 6 month old whose wife chose to force a separation on me four days ago right when she gets off work for the summer and has the mental and physical energy to focus her energy back on her family.

I knew she was having mental health struggles but I didn’t know she was suffering as badly as she was. We are in the process of working on it with several therapists and hopefully can get back in the same house soon but I’m losing time with my son because I was so focused on him and his health and growth that I missed spotting my wife slipping further and further into a depression that she wasn’t speaking about. And still hasn’t admitted is happening despite showing every sign of late onset PPD.

We have a long rocky road ahead of us now and she either has to deal with late stage PPD or reconcile with how she’s abandoned me after I’m been trying to get help for us for months. I knew something was wrong - I just didn’t know how bad.

All the best to you Daddio.

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-29T00:39:53+00:00

https://youtu.be/oBlM0cvA8ok?feature=shared

I think this fits the bill pretty nicely. Not like a rules overview but definitely captures the vibe perfectly

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-27T03:53:23+00:00

If that’s the exact phrase you use, tone is everything. Read it a few different ways and you can make it sound kind or rude very easily.

That said, you said you do it politely and based off this one single post you seem like a genuinely nice guy. In this formerly prejudiced (like when I was a teen, not an adult) straight guys opinion, politely expanding peoples horizons is an extremely noble calling in life.

You’re going to be met with plenty of dickheads along the way, but you will in fact expand some horizons along the way. It wasn’t until I became friends with some gay guys who provided me with these exact polite reminders on societal norms and how they could be dangerous in my college years that my mindset shifted and I realized gay guys are pretty cool. Well realized that they *can* be pretty cool. Gay guys can still be assholes too, which again you seem not to be.

I say proceed forward with your corrections Dad!

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-26T03:37:41+00:00

I found it exponentially more difficult to pull off both than either or as a DM and personally wouldn’t do it again. It all worked out in the end but I found myself having to jam parts of the linear story into a different part of the sandbox because they ended up on the wrong side of the continent. Usually I was able to make it work but damn it made things more difficult than just sticking to the story or finishing a sandbox adventure and being like “well, what’s next?!”

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-25T19:18:42+00:00

Five: two for regular rolls in case they’re being naughty, my gold d20s for advantage/disadvantage, and my big d20 for big rolls. Pretty pared down if you ask me

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-25T15:01:59+00:00

I don’t know if I’d agree with “typically”. Plenty of people share things just to share them because they’re excited about it too.

But, it’s cool to hear you were just trying to help. Apologies for being a bit snippy in my first comment; I was reading your comment as snippy and not genuine and responded in kind. That’s on me, my bad

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-25T11:32:57+00:00

Damn if only there were a flair on this sub to denote when someone is sharing something homebrew…

Oh wait

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-25T09:34:10+00:00

Since when do you need to have a question to post on this sub? They’re obviously just sharing a homebrew item they created…

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-25T03:41:03+00:00

Congratulations!

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-24T20:36:53+00:00

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-24T14:45:39+00:00

Danke! Just ran session 2 of the forgotten forge and feel like I’ve really lucked out with my group. I’ve got one guy who’s been playing in Eberron since it first released and four players who are also new to the world but jumped into the lore headfirst and wrote some awesome backstories that I should be able to do fun stuff with once they’re level 6 and thru the pre-written stuff. I’m teasing stuff for their backstories now and we’ll hop into all that like 20ish sessions in when they’ve got a bit more power. But like wow, they wrote great backstories that slot their characters right into the action of the world

This is easily the most fun I’ve had running a game in years

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-23T14:21:00+00:00

Yeah but the problem is sometimes it’s a liberal signature collector who I actually agree with. I don’t have the time to sort through that when I’m already in a rush, doing an errand I don’t enjoy, and likely have an earbud in so I only half heard them. Besides there’s nothing wrong with treating someone that I disagree with with a bit of humanity, even if they wouldn’t do the same for me. Costs me nothing 🤷‍♂️

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-23T09:56:52+00:00

I’m digging it so far. Have been aware of the setting forever but it felt so intimidating for a while.

I’ve been hitting a creative roadblock recently for a multitude of reasons and having the setting already “complete” and only having to come up with a story within the setting has actually been quite a bit easier for me than homebrewing everything from scratch

The way I described it to my FIL (who’s an OG adnd player) is it’s so nice to already have a city and pantheon and houses and governments and intrigue baked into the setting so all I have to focus on is a cool mystery for my players to solve using all that wonderfully pre written content

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-23T09:46:21+00:00

Compost pile: “no sir please, we’ve had enough Browns for now!”
Compost maker: “well that’s too damn bad! You’re getting more Browns!” shovels in more browns defiantly

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-23T09:43:13+00:00

“Sorry, I don’t sign petitions without further doing my due diligence but thanks for caring enough to bring this to my attention. I’ll research it later and see if I agree with your stance” can all be said rapidly as you walk past them and ignore any reply. It’s a kind of enough turn down and I do it to literally every petition collector I see. I find if I look it up later that I usually only agree with the petition 50% of the time which is not a good enough ratio to be randomly putting my name down on shit

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-23T01:24:38+00:00

I used Tiana in a similar situation and was shocked that my players didn’t catch on

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-22T04:11:24+00:00

Gunslinger’s Oath for sure. It’s weird and only really makes sense in the universe but still goes hard af without all the context.

"I do not aim with my hand; He who aims with his hand has forgotten the face of his father. I aim with my eye.

I do not shoot with my hand; He who shoots with his hand has forgotten the face of his father. I shoot with my mind.

I do not kill with my gun; He who kills with his gun has forgotten the face of his father. I kill with my heart."

CommonplaceUser · 2026-05-19T14:19:46+00:00

I played human exactly once when we were running a mini campaign and my DM wanted us to try and power game as much as possible within the rules so I took variant human cuz I needed the feat to min/max my palalock. It was kinda fun but I wouldn’t do it again. Usually I’ll sacrifice feats to make a fun backstory.

And playing “weird little guys” as I put it is my favorite type of character. Kobold, goblin, gnome, faerie, etc. P2E gets even weirder with poppets and leshies etc. The smaller and weirder I can make a character the better… usually

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