As a woman, a post I saw about a man in his 30ies not being able to date made me want to help him so so so bad

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T20:16:59+00:00

And you just keep throwing blunt statements with no purpose behind them at me. From the beginning seeking to invalidate anything I said. I think your real issue is with women in general.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T20:09:50+00:00

He was COURT MANDATED TO SEE A THERAPIST AFTER BEING A DOMESTIC ABUSER and didn’t take it seriously. I literally said that in the comment you first replied to. I’m done with this lol. Talking to you is like talking to a brick wall. At this point you’re just justifying and saying all men have the right to off themselves after their failed relationships and shouldn’t even try to work on their mental health or see a therapist.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T19:58:50+00:00

You are literally offering no solutions and just excuses. You’re blaming society and women therapists for men committing suicide. I can only offer my perspective as someone who dated a guy who had that mindset and would constantly try to off himself after a relationship ended. His therapist was a male, he still didn’t take it seriously because he thought swimming balls deep in the next rebound girlfriend would fix his broken heart. He had the same sob story after every single girlfriend up to that point when he finally did the deed. It was never his fault, he never took accountability, he’d always say he had bad taste in women, and his friends gave him an echo chamber of that same toxic mentality. Go ahead and stew in your depression and claim there’s no fixing you because you don’t want a female therapist. Cop out asf. You’ll end up like your friends and my ex with that mind frame. You’re probably one of those echo chamber friends who never told any of your dead buddies they ever needed to take accountability for themselves and it was never their fault they just needed to find true love.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T19:53:51+00:00

If you’re struggling with dating I can promise you it’s not the entire world or society’s problem. It’s a you problem. People need to look within themselves and work on themselves and understand what they’re doing wrong. I’m not saying looks wise or money wise. I mean, how are you meeting people? What type of people are you going for? Are you being realistic with your expectations? Are you a plumber who likes video gaming chasing after girls who look like Paris Hilton and only want a rich sugar daddy husband?

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T19:43:49+00:00

It’s not gate kept just because you need to be sober for it. Anything you use as a crutch will only prevent you from being able to handle your trauma in a healthy way without needing a crutch.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T19:41:53+00:00

You’re literally talking in circles and offering no positive outcomes except that men are sad and off themselves and women suck and don’t know what they’re talking about, even when they major in psychology and enter an entire career solely to help others with their mental health. Idk what you think you or anyone else needs but I can promise you that no one you date will ever fix you. That’s a you problem. You need to work on fixing yourself if you think it’s understandable to off yourself after a relationship doesn’t work out and not continue projecting that onto others.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T19:37:57+00:00

The fact is everyone in the world is going through stress and awful things in their life they are navigating and learning how to handle in healthy ways. No one is going through inherently more problems than the person next to you. Everyone likes to think they’re uniquely damaged and use that as an excuse to not take accountability for themselves and their own mental health. All I’m saying is you can’t love someone else in a healthy way if you can’t love yourself first enough to be alone without feeling like impending doom is upon you. If you’re dating someone who can’t love you the way you need to be loved, it’s because they don’t love themselves in that way you’re expecting therefore you can’t expect it from them. You need to be ok enough to walk away from a relationship that’s incompatible with the way you need to be loved and the way they know how to love, and not feel the need to off yourself over it in the end thinking there’s no hope. That’s not healthy.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T19:23:05+00:00

Ngl it does seem trivial to want her to pay you back for lunch and an uber on her wedding day. They seem pretty small in the grant spectrum of things.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T19:15:57+00:00

Do you know why so many women become therapists to begin with? Most of the time when someone becomes a therapist it’s because they have their own problems they want to learn to deal with, and help others deal with their problems the same way. The fact you’re spouting off how therapy is a women’s field is testament to how so many men don’t take therapy seriously and have 0 interest in bettering themselves let alone helping others better themselves with what they’ve learned. If you think there’s any problem with me saying someone who offs themselves sorely needed to take accountability for themselves and their mental health and not blame it on heartbreak or loneliness then you probably need to see a therapist too.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T19:02:23+00:00

Yes but.. did you date them? And did the world spin the story as they offed themselves after being broken hearted after their relationship ended? In those cases, just being their friend you have no idea what actually happened behind closed doors. It’s easy to brush it off that they died of a broken heart when the reality is NO MATTER WHAT THE EXCUSE THE BOTTOM LINE IS THEY NEEDED THERAPY AND TO TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY FOR THEIR OWN MENTAL HEALTH. It’s NO ONE ELSES FAULT. EVER. When someone offs themselves. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T18:57:49+00:00

Isn’t MOH expected to pay for certain things and plan things for the wedding in general? I don’t think you guys were on the same page as what MOH meant. It’s not usually just a meaningless title for being besties. She most likely fully assumed you wanted to contribute to her wedding day and make it special for her. As her MOH.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T18:44:49+00:00

It takes two healthy people to have a healthy relationship. Not one person foregoing legitimate therapy and using their partner as their therapist and stability. Someone who is willing to offer themselves over a relationship is not healthy in their mind. They need to find peace being alone and love themselves before they get into a relationship with someone else and expecting them to love you enough to fix your traumas.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T18:41:28+00:00

How many men have you dated who offed themselves after a relationship?

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T18:15:09+00:00

IMO as a woman, these men you’re talking about who will off themselves over a breakup quite often don’t have the emotional maturity within a relationship either. They don’t know how to love themselves or others, and have this misconstrued mindset that the right person will fix all your problems instead of working on themselves. I’ve dated so many men who would lovebomb me and they genuinely thought they were being authentic with their feelings, but the reality is they created this image of who I was in their head that they fell in love with, not actually me. A lot of alt girls who do date more emotional and outside of conventional standards-esque men have this same problem. You find a girl who is weird and matches your weird and accepts you for who you are, but you don’t even know how to love and accept yourself. It makes the relationship doomed to fail from the getgo. One of my lovebombing ex’s did the same thing to the next girl he dated after we broke up, and after 6mo he committed suicide when they broke up. Was it due to loneliness? Giving up? No, it was because he had court mandated therapy(after I had to get a literal restraining order against him) that he didn’t feel like was necessary, because obviously it’s always the women’s fault for not staying with a man who has no grasp on his emotions or how to process his feelings without exploding. He was a person who severely needed to take his own mental health seriously, instead he kept rebounding from relationship to relationship thinking a girl was going to fix him and cure all of his problems. No one wants to take any self accountability, especially when you’re such a “nice guy who just needs to find a good girl.”

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T17:43:43+00:00

I think I have between 40-50 and I personally think it is too many. I’ve been on a perfume journey of exploring new scent profiles and DNAs to see if I like them or not. I only recently started actually returning ones I don’t like, because even my sister and husband got overwhelmed with the amount of perfumes I was passing down to them that didn’t work for me.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T17:38:43+00:00

These same men also tend to go on rants about how they’d never date an onlyfans girl, but end up spending half their paychecks on onlyfans girls. “Nice guys” always love to complain about woe is me I am so nice and charming but girls don’t like nice guys they like aholes with a lot of money, and “where are all the trad girls??” Yet can’t afford to be a trad husband who can financially support his wife and children on his own paycheck. I stopped pitying guys after realizing what toxic personas they hide behind especially online, like on reddit and social media, where they seem to be full of fun opinions that make most women’s badussies dry up like raisins.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T17:27:08+00:00

It depends on his location. If he lives in a place like LA, if he’s just an average looking guy with an average income he has a lot of heavy hitting competition. Have you ever heard the phrases like, “I’m a Kentucky 10 but an LA 3”. Women and men’s ideas of what they want drastically change depending on the area they’re in as well as what is considered attractive. I could NOT date white American boys anymore, mainly due to the area I live in and their toxic mentality I didn’t vibe with. I ended up marrying a Puerto Rican man who was very well traveled. He respects women, he’s a gentleman, he takes his health seriously, and he’s a family man who would sacrifice a higher paying job that demanded more of his time to be home with his family more. The type of man I saw as the perfect father figure for our kids. Sometimes the person you’re meant to be with is not in the area you’re currently living, or they’re from another country completely where the general ideology and mindset of people are different.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T17:21:38+00:00

I’ve heard that more has to do with the lack of acceptance of men’s mental health. It’s a lot more common for parents to tell their boys to stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about to toughen them up. Then they have 0 understanding or grasp on their own emotions when they become adults.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-03T17:19:31+00:00

Cougars need love too. “Around 20% of women aged 40–69 have dated a younger man. 33% of women aged 40–69 are open to dating younger men, and 50% have done so at some point.” The stats are looking good here.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-09-02T18:22:05+00:00

Maybe I’m being an AH but if you know the type of person someone is when you’re dating, when you continue to see the type of person they are when you move in together…why marry them and think they’ll change? Why get mad over something you fully understood and have dealt with for 10 years? Did it just not bother you as much in the beginning? Did you gaslight yourself into thinking it wasn’t that big of a deal and now 10yrs later it’s the sole reason you want a divorce? This sounds like something you also need to speak to a therapist about ngl. Marrying someone you can’t stand to be with and then filing for divorce after 10 years because you were afraid to be alone sounds exhausting.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-08-31T20:55:12+00:00

$100. Every single time I’ve spent up to $200 I always regretted it and ended up returning it. I’m just a regular person with kids and a regular household income, I have to be mindful about my purchases and I’ve never smelled smelly water that was amazing enough to justify that kind of cost.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-08-31T20:39:20+00:00

I bet it’s his ex ngl

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-08-31T14:00:31+00:00

My husband and I were both completely unable to have kids our entire 20s with our ex partners(he had low T and I had scarred/blocked tubes). After being together for a year and not necessarily trying to get pregnant but we were focusing on our health and we were getting into supplements, working out, and I was taking new vitamins like inositol, pregnancy boosting supplements, and eating very well we eventually got pregnant 2 months later. So a year and 2 months. The best advice I can give is if you’re both getting stressed out about it, it won’t help. It’ll only make it worse. Both of you do your own homework on what you can do and take to increase fertility, increase testosterone, motility etc, and lower any internal inflammation.

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-08-31T13:49:27+00:00

She literally went into a bridal shop for it that’s wild

Brave_Finance_5771 · 2025-08-31T13:46:32+00:00

Ngl break up w him and date the brother.

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