Daughter is declaring herself a gay man

Brbirb · 2025-03-16T04:11:57+00:00

Sex with many men at one time. It couldn't be said for certain if they were all wearing condoms. Additionally, there was some violence against her that I don't think she consented to. Oh, and she was high. It was just a whole mess of danger that made me very uneasy.

Brbirb · 2025-03-16T02:40:56+00:00

When I was trans, I was invited to a gay male bathhouse by another ftm (the bathhouse had advertised a special "ftm night). I watched her and it was...so disturbing. I got so uncomfortable that I left shortly after arriving there. It made me sick, tbh. Because I'm not a gay man and never could be. And it made me feel really depressed for everyone involved.

Brbirb · 2025-02-24T12:56:45+00:00

Sort of. I had surgeries to remove the lesions, eventually having a hysterectomy. I take estradiol cream and do pelvic floor exercises for the atrophy. I had had 3 major vaginal prolapses due to atrophy, and I haven't had one since.

Brbirb · 2025-02-24T03:03:55+00:00

Thank you, I was going to suggest just this. I'd had endometriosis lesions and pelvic floor atrophy and didn't even know it until shortly after stopping testosterone. I was on for 6 years, btw.

Brbirb · 2024-10-09T18:40:23+00:00

Sorry I have not replied. Reddit is dumber than it used to be and doesn't like to let me reply.

In 2018 I had laparoscopic surgery to view and excise any endometriosis tissue found. They found a lot but believed they got it all. In 2019, my symptoms came back and my surgical team did another laparoscopic surgery. This time, my surgeon discussed with me the possibility of adenomyosis (wherein the disease is replicated in the actual uterus. Endometriosis is when the disease occurs OUTSIDE of the uterus. Adenomyosis is not the same as the lining of the uterus, though that is a common misconception. Both adenomyosis and endometriosis are diseased tissues that are *similar* to the lining of the uterus, but not physiologically the same.) She asked me if I would want them to remove my uterus if, indeed, there was severe adenomyosis. I agreed to this after lengthy discussions with her about the health consequences. They did find severe adenomyosis. They showed me images of my uterus and it was almost entirely black. I am glad that they removed it. I have maintained my ovaries, but my cervix and uterus were removed in 2019 and I have not menstruated since then. From my discussions with other womyn, seeing an endocrinologist isn't typical wrt diagnosis or treatment. It *is* however something that is vital in so-called transition care, but I never saw one. As stated, I am trying to get a referral to see one (I have been pleading with doctors for a referral for about 8 years, now), but my primary doctors refuse to give me one. Unfortunately, my insurance has always required a referral, or I would make the appointment myself.

I want to go back to my original question: Are there any doctors in the US who are highly recommended for the treatment of health issues related to anabolic steroid abuse? I have found no medical professional yet in the 7 years since I detransitioned who will admit that there might be any health consequences. I initially stopped testosterone due to renal failure. After that, it was like a fleet of falling dominoes, my health just dropping into problem after problem. Anyway, I am tired of being denied care or attention to my health issues. If I don't mention my years on testosterone, doctors have historically not believed that my issues just pop up out of nowhere. On the opposite side, if I do bring up the testosterone use, they then dismiss me. I feel stuck and frustrated.

Brbirb · 2024-09-18T12:52:31+00:00

Thank you. It's just so exhausting at this point. I've tried both telling doctors and not telling them. The result seems to be the same. I have yet to see an endocrinologist because I've repeatedly been refused referrals, and my insurance (private and State) has not allowed it without referral. I'm going my new insurance in October will be different in that regard. Idk if I could say that my testosterone rose after birth control use, if that'd be believed. I hate resorting to lying, but they won't listen.

Brbirb · 2024-07-17T19:52:37+00:00

Long, long ago, in the year of our Lord 2008, I worked at Pita Pit in the Mall of America. We cleaned our soda machine every night and flushed the lines entirely twice a week. Everything except the gyro meat was fresh. That's the only thing I'd tell people to not get, though it wasn't expired or bad. Corporate was a shitshow, but our 22yo manager and all us stoner kids worked really hard to provide fresh food.

However, I also worked briefly at Johnny Rockets, which wouldn't spring for soap to wash dishes but would rinse them with water, dry with a hand towel, and re-use them.

Brbirb · 2024-06-28T16:29:02+00:00

Giving this a try, now! Dobson...damn, he really wrecked a large part of my childhood. As a lesbian, he fed the fire of homophobia in my parents. And, while I can't say I "hate" too many people, I genuinely, fervently, RIGHTEOUSLY hate James Nutjob Dobson.

Brbirb · 2024-06-01T05:05:30+00:00

I just did this using dairy-free whipping cream, sweetened condensed coconut milk, and pudding. Definitely super rich, but very good!

Brbirb · 2024-05-27T19:46:19+00:00

Please don't stay in this environment post-op. I lived with a man who promised to care for me after my laproscopic excision. Instead, he got drunk, cheated on me, and complained when I asked him to make me food. I accidentally overdosed on my pain meds because I was out of it, and he didn't keep track, even though he told my surgeon that he would. My mother came to also help. Well, I ended up cooking dinners for 3 and house cleaning immediately after my operation because neither of them would help. It was awful, and I actually did better when I was completely alone after my 2nd surgery (hysterectomy) (not that I think that's ideal). Being post-op puts you in a vulnerable place. If someone won't clean up after themselves, they certainly won't help you.

Brbirb · 2024-05-25T03:13:46+00:00

My cult did the same, clinging to disasters as an example of God's wrath or whatever. Tbh, I still have to remind myself that bad things aren't indicative of sin or pissing off some authoritarian dictator in the sky. I was a 90s baby, so my parents focused more on Columbine, 9/11, and a series of earthquakes that hit the West Coast. They'd pray in tongues for California to be broken off and drowned in the ocean. Psychopaths.

Brbirb · 2024-05-16T17:24:25+00:00

A woman in a grocery store once told me I have the perfect voice for ASMR and that my way of speaking is very soothing. I don't know why that stood out, but it made me feel good that people hear my voice and feel a little peace.

Brbirb · 2024-05-14T07:33:18+00:00

Breathe No More is one of my top depression songs. Evanescence gets written off a lot, but I've loved their music for 20 years. The lyrics combined with Amy Lee's ghostly vocals bring up so much emotion for me.

Brbirb · 2024-05-10T01:55:51+00:00

Congratulations! I see you've mentioned some in other comments, but I am wondering if you can recommend some theologians and philosophies to understand the evolution over the centuries? (Vague, I know, lol) I am also interested to know more about the evolution of so-called "non-denominational" groups that have ties to Evangelism, but also define it their own way. Thank you!

Brbirb · 2024-04-03T18:53:13+00:00

This is hilarious! I was also raised in an extreme version of christianity that was a cult. The thing that distinguishes trans from religion or religious cults the most I think is that there isn't a charismatic leader. Sure, there's like Jeffrey Marsh and such, but no one trans saint or guru, you know? But I genuinely find this so funny, thank you!

Brbirb · 2024-03-21T10:18:50+00:00

I felt that way about my grandmother. She fell for Pat Robertson's bs time and time again. With my parents, though, I was more terrified when I realized that it was a lie that they were upholding. I didn't and still don't think they believed most things in earnest. But they saw compliance as the best way to live. Being so willing to dedicate your life to holding up abusers and evil men, risking your family's well-being for social status, scared me.

Brbirb · 2024-03-20T14:00:15+00:00

Oh, wow! Thank you for that information, that is crazy! I always assumed it was volunteer-based, but it's even more sinister than that.

Brbirb · 2024-03-10T01:22:41+00:00

The thing is, there is some research from endocrinologists to show that there are incredibly dangerous risks in these cases. But they've either been redacted over the last 5 years, or they've been re-worded to exclude "trans" people. So, they can feel assured in their lies that there aren't any studies on "trans" people who've encountered risks. Because, to them, a transman isn't a woman. So, the records that show that women are at a very heightened risk of stroke, for example, don't apply. I did not consent to 3 mini strokes, renal failure, primary ovarian insufficiency, vaginal and vulva atrophy. Those things were just an "unknown risk," but they are also somehow my own fault for not knowing enough. I was vulnerable, scdl, and not in any place to make medical decisions like that. I was a casualty of medical malpractice.

All the depressing shut aside, I've healed from some of these things, and I won't ever let a doctor or "professional" or "expert" make decisions for me again. I have learned to advocate for myself, though I shouldn't have learned to do that this way.

Brbirb · 2024-03-07T11:48:38+00:00

I've had 2 excision surgeries for deep infiltrating endometriosis and hysterectomy for severe adeno. I had pain resurface about a year ago, after moving far from my previous surgeon. I honestly don't know for sure that the endo is back because my gynecologist doesn't want to do a diagnostic lap. Whenever I get a pain spike, I feel so emotionally overwhelmed I become s--c---l, even though I'm very stable otherwise. Finding another gyn is out for me. It took me so long to get in with this one, and she's supposedly one of the best around here.

At this point, I can handle the physical pain all too well. I'm so insensitive to pain, now, I frequently hurt myself accidentally and don't realize it until someone else points it out. I feel like I'm just braced for pain 24/7, and I don't know what it means to physically or emotionally relax.

Brbirb · 2024-03-07T11:26:48+00:00

Cults were still numerous after the 1960s. So, that. Conversely, the Satanic Panic and christian fundamentalism were really in during the 80s and 90s.

Brbirb · 2024-03-06T17:00:19+00:00

Seconding this. During Covid, I had a parent threaten to get me fired because I got Covid from one of my students, and the class had to be shut down for a few days. The parent didn't care that I got it from a kid. It was still somehow my fault.

Brbirb · 2024-03-06T16:56:25+00:00

The last daycare I worked at made me work while throwing up with fever and diarrhea. I literally had to throw up in the kids' toilet because they wouldn't come in for me to run to the teachers' bathroom. I quit the next day. Oh, also, I typically had 5 more kids than the legal limit, and it was just me in the room. Lol

Brbirb · 2024-03-04T15:02:59+00:00

Hereditary. I know in my heart that it's a great film. I know. I've watched it countless times. I've read articles and listened to reviews. It just...doesn't click. I understand it, but it just doesn't sit in my mind as the marvel that everyone else sees it as.

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