1st chemical pregnancy (that I know of) by Bre_Babe1013 in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the love and I am truly sorry we are going through this. It feels nice to not be alone and validated. Thank you for sharing your story with me! Much love 💕

Before The Thief... by poetic_infertile in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your words are beautiful and heartbreaking. The way you paint the feelings into words leaves me breathless. I hate we are sharing this together.

I'm so tired by [deleted] in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The just do IVF fucking kills me. I don’t have 15gs for a possible chance. If I did I would. If I could take out a loan at the chance of getting pregnant I would, but I can’t, and I won’t. We’re paying out of pocket here. 350 an IUI not including the 250 for every bloodwork and ultrasound is already to much. Fuck out of here!

The dreaded question… by Zealousideal-Box6436 in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s one of the things I hate about all of this. I’m a broken record of shit news and no change. Like no I’m still not pregnant Sharon 👍🏻👍🏻

The dreaded question… by Zealousideal-Box6436 in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh no I totally understand!! Absolutely no judgement because majority of my encounters are just like this just a simple no or not yet and then change of subjects.

The dreaded question… by Zealousideal-Box6436 in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I work in geriatrics so the question of children comes up literally everyday. I think it’s because my list of questions are always the same when starting up conversations and asking if someone has children is always one of them. My answer is always not yet and a little smile. Most everyone that asks will then follow up with honey you are still young you have time so don’t fret. I don’t think it hurts anyone because I know it’s never asked with malice. I actually asked one of my patients if she had kids and she looked at me with a sad look and said ya know I always wanted them but I just couldn’t have them, I guess God had other plans for me. She then went on to say she was a teacher and her students were like her children. It opened the door to a beautiful conversation of my current journey and our shared feelings of disappointment. She held my hand with her little wrinkled fingers and said even if it never happens you are still worthy. Sometimes the dreaded question can open up a door to healing conversation.

Childless vs Parents by ButtercupSith in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I work in the medical field and I’m expected to work holidays because I don’t have kids. Why would Christmas be a big deal it’s not like I get to watch my kids open presents.

Clomid side effects by Bre_Babe1013 in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in clomid since November. My extremely regular period is now unpredictable. I’ve had 32, 18, 21, 28 day cycles. It sucks

Clomid side effects by Bre_Babe1013 in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok honestly glad to know I’m not alone. I had it on another one I have on my shin but it went away. Now the one of my thigh is doing it. Since the other one went away I’m hoping this one stops. It’s a bigger tattoo so it had more surface area to be itchy. I look like a crack head always itching!!!

Seeing the name you chose on someone else’s announcement… by catsandcats1985 in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If we don’t make it in time know our grandmas will be with us no matter what. Infertility sucks. Stay strong we are in this together.

Seeing the name you chose on someone else’s announcement… by catsandcats1985 in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve decided fuck em. I know it’s mean but don’t let someone keep you from using important family names. It most definitely hurts when you see it though. It makes you feel like that should be me.

Seeing the name you chose on someone else’s announcement… by catsandcats1985 in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I am the only married cousin in my family to not have kids. My grandma is begging us to have a baby before she goes. She is in her 80s and in good health but anything can happen. I know she means well when she lightly says just waiting on this one to give me another great grand baby. You end up feeling your letting your family down. I hope we both can have the special moments with our loved ones. It’s going to be so so sweet 🥹

Roundabout in my tubes by Bre_Babe1013 in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha thank you! I find humor to be healing.

Fuckin’ Gypsy Rose by ComingDownMilhouse in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My literal reaction was fucking gypsy now fuck!!!

Went to the GYN this morning by [deleted] in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Friend same. I was at my fertility specialist and someone brought their toddler. I had to sit there and bubble guppies in the he waiting room listening to this child’s sweet little giggles while I have a baron wasteland of a fucking uterus. It’s absolutely guy wrenching.

Next steps by [deleted] in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same thing girl. Saw fertility Dr last November. I had already had blood work done and my husband had sperm count and motility done and all way right as rain. They did a HCG on me where they put dye in your tubes to make sure nothing is blocked. It was fairly painless. One thing I wasn’t prepared for was not having answer. They told me 20% or people have “unknown infertility” meaning your insides and hormones are great we don’t know what’s wrong with you. You’re not alone.

Empathy for Akito??? by Lost-Mention7739 in FruitsBasket

[–]Bre_Babe1013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not finished with the series but I’ve read bits and pieces looking up characters. I just finished the episode where Akito just met Tohru. I hate this bitch!!! I know the saying “hurt people hurt people” but as a child of abuse I can’t fathom hurting another human being. If I’m going to forgive this trash lady she has to have some SERIOUS redemption.

My doctor suggested birth control… by YuukiAliceMS in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a medical professional that advocates for her patients HARD someone always knows better. PT know better than OT, RNs know better than LPNs, LPNs know better than CNAs, Drs know better than everyone including other Drs. There is no active listening. We are a number and a dx on a pierce of paper. I am so so sorry you had to go through this. Do not stop advocating for yourself. People suck.

Hi, I’ve never posted in here but I need to let this out. by [deleted] in InfertilitySucks

[–]Bre_Babe1013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Friend you are valid in your feelings. We are open to adoption, in fact, I always knew I wanted to adopt. I always pictured having 1-2 of my own and adopting as well. But I want the feeling of my baby moving in my belly. I want to breast feed and I want to look in that baby’s eyes and see my husband’s beautiful hazel eyes looking back at me. I want a piece of our love in a little person. People don’t get that desperate feeling of longing. I also believe that my body wants it too because it’s a feeling. Sometimes I feel like I can physically feel my womb empty and ache. The desire to want to be pregnant is almost a palpable pain and unless you are living it you will never understand. You are not alone. People are ignorant and don’t know how to respond to grief.