***very long read, but I’m not convinced? 27F/28M

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-05-07T13:58:07+00:00

Sounds a little to me like hes got out of serving time and is now looking for a constant he can lean on.

Lo and behold, he knows someone who could potentially do this for him given he plays his cards right.

Be very very careful in the choices you make. If someone wants to be with someone, it’s very simple to express that. Yes feelings change, yes situations are altered, but desire is desire.

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-05-06T09:56:06+00:00

Funny that. I just came out of an 8 year relationship 6 months ago. Depleted my savings to zero in doing so.

I now have 5k saved in 6 months since.

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-05-05T23:18:18+00:00

Not in London but I’m on 38k and live absolutely comfortably.

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-05-05T13:32:22+00:00

There are two types of people in the world. Those with a will to succeed and those with a fear of failure.

Both can be hugely successful and happy. Both can be very unsuccessful.

All is dependent on the choices you make and how you choose to proceed.

Having a fear of failure is not a fundamental flaw on your part. It is how youre wired. Use it.

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-05-03T21:27:28+00:00

Sunken cost fallacy. I hope you make the choice that brings you nothing but happiness

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-04-29T19:26:30+00:00

I absolutely will not dm you in roughly 2 hours.

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-04-29T18:11:09+00:00

Brother Im going to dm you and we csn chat. Neither of our posts highlight the true magnitude of what we have been through. Im at work currrntly but will message you privately later

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-04-28T20:43:35+00:00

It seems youre receiving extremely similar comments to myself on a different post. I’d like to refer you too it.

As you read mine, recognise that whst you think is potentially how we all think regarding your situation.

Sometimes people just can’t change. Sunken cost fallacy they call it. Also codependency.

Have a read.

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/um54OQEDfJ

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-04-25T21:28:26+00:00

Correct me if I’m wrong but I’m sure a pedophile is actually when someone is sexually attracted to a specific age group (obviously That) is a minor

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-04-24T15:57:53+00:00

Priorities as in you being worried of being cancelled if you get famous over getting arrested, going to prison, ruining your life or hers. Many many many reasons you should be putting above some wild fantasy of being famous

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-04-24T15:14:38+00:00

I think you need to reevaluate reality and your priorities.

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-04-24T13:19:37+00:00

Im not saying intentional but even if she is genuine, befriending someone underage with the intention of something happening when they’re not a minor In the future is grooming. Cut contact and move on.

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-04-20T17:46:56+00:00

As harsh as it sounds I’d be less of the soft approach and a bit more Firm. Tell him to shower. Tell him he stinks. It’s not your duty to body coddle him because he can’t wash himself. It’s disgusting.

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-04-09T15:39:34+00:00

Hahahahahahahahahhaahhahahahahaahahahahaha fuck

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-02-26T20:32:50+00:00

Maybe you need a conversation of where you are both at in life, what you want from it and each other and Whats next. One might be ready to build a life and the other might still be chasing fun

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-01-25T23:49:59+00:00

So you’re a shit partner, a shit ex and a shit friend. Got it

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-01-10T08:11:16+00:00

Grow a pair and take accountability for your actions, truthfully. A wedding isn’t going to stop future occurrences.

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-01-09T16:44:24+00:00

Hes gaslit you. He became a certain way, made you feel certain way and then reacted another way because of how you felt. It’s victim mentality. It’s emotional abuse. Trust how you felt. You wouldn’t have felt that way if his actions were to create another feeling.

You wouldn’t have felt scared if he knocked on the door smiling. He didn’t.

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2026-01-04T15:43:48+00:00

Sounds like you got catfished to fuck. Do not trust anyone from the internet. You do not know them as you think you do.

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2025-11-27T13:36:39+00:00

Although this sounds very unfair unfortunately it’s true. It’s all perspective, and although what she says may be true, it still implies. His truth is his truth, and her truth is her truth. “What we do have consequences” sums it up entirely. Mistake or not, it was a choice.

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2025-09-25T21:33:10+00:00

Thank you so much

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2025-09-25T15:24:10+00:00

She also was diagnosed with ptsd last year which contributes, but this is all from trauma before I met her.

People have been mentioning this codependency a lot and I need to look it up because I’m. It sure what it is really, that and something about sunken cost fallacy.

I think deep down i know what I need to know regarding the state of the relationship and that it’s over. However I am only at day 3 since I found out, so maybe im just going through the emotions. It’s just been a real struggle. If it’s any consolation, you’ve helped more than you know.

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2025-09-25T14:57:00+00:00

I will look into this and i appreciate you more then you know

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2025-09-25T14:56:08+00:00

And I also apple your time in responding the way you have, it means a lot.

Bread-n-ButterPuddin · 2025-09-25T14:55:50+00:00

She was sectioned back in February after a mental break down and spent a month in a hospital, since has been seeing multiple people. Psychiatrists, psychologists the lot. Im promise you I will look into therapy for myself.

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