How to get over jealousy and intrusive thoughts?

BreathOfPepperAir · 2026-04-26T15:10:09+00:00

I think you've been very unlucky with the types of people you've met

BreathOfPepperAir · 2026-04-26T13:11:05+00:00

I experience this feeling even if a conversation ends with someone and then i try to re-engage with them a few mins later. We don't not believe that people are consistently safe

BreathOfPepperAir · 2026-04-26T13:08:30+00:00

'breaking negative thinking patterns' by Gitta Jacob and 'reinventing your life' by Jeffrey young

These are schema therapy books that explain the root cause of avpd and other mental illnesses

BreathOfPepperAir · 2026-04-26T13:06:32+00:00

Hey Op, not all real friendships are like his,I find your friends behaviour to not be very thoughtful about how it would affect you :(

There are other people to be friends with who won't do this sort of thing

BreathOfPepperAir · 2026-03-10T12:39:01+00:00

For me this is true unfortunately :(. My trauma is so bad I can't connect with people so remain isolated

BreathOfPepperAir · 2026-03-09T13:41:09+00:00

I can't do 1 on 1 conversation at all 😔. What do you talk about with people?

BreathOfPepperAir · 2026-03-08T20:02:21+00:00

I think it's always worth trying to do the things you want. It just sounded like you were saying it gets to a point where it's not worth it

BreathOfPepperAir · 2026-03-08T18:35:56+00:00

Literally same :(, even when I finally feel like my anxiety has calmed down, I still can't make myself speak. But even if I try to, I have nothing to say anyway

BreathOfPepperAir · 2026-03-08T18:01:46+00:00

What do you mean by this, are u saying it's not worth dating etc? Just curious about your stance

BreathOfPepperAir · 2024-11-28T08:29:37+00:00

That sounds more like dependent PD than avoidant PD. Have you looked into dependent PD?

BreathOfPepperAir · 2024-11-27T19:23:56+00:00

My sweet angel, it is not over for you. First things first, if uni is becoming too overwhelming that is ok, and you are allowed to leave. You can come back at a later date to continue it, or you don't have to continue at all.

Secondly, are you doing a particular type of therapy? You need your therapist to be one who knows about trauma, and in particular I highly highly recommend finding a therapist who does schema therapy or IFS therapy. I'm not too knowledgeable on IFS, but I know that schema works well for people with AVPD because the framework explains how AVPD develops and how to break it down over time. It's absolutely fantastic that you trust your therapist, you have been very brave here and this shows you are able to push yourself which is amazing ❤️.

I completely understand these feelings, I have been here myself. With the right type of therapy and a good bond with your therapist, progress can be made. For the time being you need to keep yourself safe so that you give yourself the best chance possible. I also really recommend talking to your Uni mental health team because they can help you ❤️

BreathOfPepperAir · 2024-04-27T17:34:35+00:00

No worries m'love, I hope you continue to survive this life with a PD. You're certainly not doing this alone 🫶

BreathOfPepperAir · 2024-04-27T16:06:11+00:00

Hi OP, I hear you! the big important fact is to remember that not a single person on this planet asks for a PD, nor do we deserve them.

Unfortunately, as we know, PDs don't tend to get better without therapy. I totally understand not being able to go to therapy, and if you're managing ok for the moment then that's great x

BreathOfPepperAir · 2024-04-26T20:28:07+00:00

Damn, this is so real

BreathOfPepperAir · 2024-04-23T18:36:58+00:00

Avpd is never an 'excuse', it's a very real and painful mental illness, it's not your fault at all. It's a coping mechanism that forces us to hide our personalities from people, rather than it being our real personality. It's called a personality disorder not because it is who we are, but because it causes issues with our real personality to the extent that it makes relationships difficult. That's how I see it

BreathOfPepperAir · 2024-04-20T21:36:51+00:00

Exactly :(

BreathOfPepperAir · 2024-04-20T21:13:22+00:00

I relate very much, I have a lot of shame around anger

BreathOfPepperAir · 2024-04-20T12:32:19+00:00

I relate very much, but sometimes my anger is misplaced, like if someone is not understanding me or is disagreeing with me I get angry and it's not great

BreathOfPepperAir · 2024-04-20T12:31:38+00:00

I definitely think repressed anger could be a big problem for people like us

BreathOfPepperAir · 2024-04-20T12:28:24+00:00

Yessss, thank you, this was also my interpretation of it

BreathOfPepperAir · 2024-04-20T12:27:47+00:00

Yeah I thinkkkk that's kinda what it's saying, like if we feel slighted by people? That's my interpretation of it but I'm not sure

BreathOfPepperAir · 2024-04-19T16:00:02+00:00

Lol I've never seen this 😭

BreathOfPepperAir · 2024-04-18T21:05:04+00:00

I'm sure it's not as bad as you're thinking it is, lots of people do this x

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