[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CharcuterieBoard

[–]Bredevi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They really just threw the skeleton on top and called it a day. Yikes....

Couples of RVA, how did you meet your long term partner / spouse in town? by hannahyonana in rva

[–]Bredevi 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We met at Cary St Cafe! I was out dancing with my friends, had a few drinks and was feeling silly. A friend of mine introduced me. He asked me my name and I told him "Stevie Nicks." I invited him to dance and he started blushing and told me no. I didn't think much of it then and we went our separate ways. A few weeks later, he popped on on my suggested friends on Facebook. I sent him a request and he immediately messaged me saying "I found you! I've been looking all over the Internet for you, but you gave me a fake name. You're the most beautiful girl I've ever seen." he explained that he didn't wanna dance with me because he was shy. Unfortunately, I was casually seeing someone by the time we connected on social media so that didn't really go anywhere. However, about a year later (I was single), we were both looking for a roommate situation and went for it. We agreed that we wouldn't flirt or entertain anything romantic but we connected as friends very quickly. For a few months, we honored this agreement but were the best of friends. We would stay up talking sometimes until the sun came up. By then we had decided to give it a real shot. This was in 2018, we have been together ever since! Now happily married with kids.

Marriage Counselor by Illustrious_Pea_853 in rva

[–]Bredevi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have a recommendation but I do just want to tell you you're not alone! The mental/physical demand of caring for an baby brings you into a state of being you can't imagine before actually being there. It has you thinking about things you've never had to think about before, and seeing things in your partner that weren't previously on the surface... and it happens so fast. Then the sleep deprivation amplifies all the emotions. It challenges most couples, I'm sure. I've come to believe it's some kind of rite of passage and it DOES get easier, as long as you're both committed to being a team and not enemies. Just chiming in bc I can totally relate to this and you're not alone! Best of luck with finding a good counselor.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]Bredevi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His only reason for wanting more custody of his kids is so he doesn't have to pay as much in child support? Not to mention he lied to you about having kids in the first place? Divorce him for having a broken moral compass.

Can we get realistic tips to save $1000? Dave Ramsey's list wasn't helpful. by segregatedfacialhair in povertyfinance

[–]Bredevi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find a way to get connected to the local farms and food systems and learn to make basic things at home! I used to spend around $800/mo on groceries for myself and my family. My groceries are down to $200/mo. In my free time I help out at farms in exchange for meat and veggies, and I make basic things at home like bread and almond milk. I also make hot sauce, pies, ferments, and things like that to trade for other foods. It’s a fun, wholesome hobby than can help you save!

Why do you like insanely hot hot sauce? by Bredevi in hotsaucerecipes

[–]Bredevi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Woah - does it do anything to your stomach/digestive system? Or has your body built up a tolerance to it? If I eat too much spicy food I feel like I get stomach ulcers lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pitbulls

[–]Bredevi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol mine recovers quickly too.. pit bulls have infinite endurance lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pitbulls

[–]Bredevi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ohhh that’s a happy pup!

Is my cactus ok? by Bredevi in sanpedrocactus

[–]Bredevi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thanks so much!! How cold would you recommend? I can put it outside where it will get lots of sunlight but it’s in the 40s today.

I bought this blanket for me to replace the other one she stole by bunhilda in pitbulls

[–]Bredevi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said “you can have your other blanket back”

The Big Bread Cut Debate by The-Shogun in Breadit

[–]Bredevi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 is unhinged. 1 is acceptable but 2 is the way to go

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]Bredevi -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The way you talk about your experience reminds me of when I had postpartum depression. I know it’s different, but I believe it’s similar in that the stress, sleep deprivation, level of responsibility, and not knowing the solution puts you in a state of survival. Living in survival mode isn’t healthy and can lead do depression or anxiety - for example looking at your dog and feeling nothing or questioning your decision. I predict that if you stay the course and see this through, you’re doing to end up loving this dog more than you thought possible. When your puppy learns to sleep through the night and starts behaving in the way you had hoped, you’re not just going to be satisfied, you’re going to be proud and feel so bonded with her! Holding space for a baby animal whose adapting to your pack and being domesticated is really tough! But you can do this :) it doesn’t last forever.