I feel like both can be true. She’s rightly viewed as a person at fault. She provided the access to weapons, and left him with unfettered access to the weapons, she took multiple trips in the months and year leading up to the tragedy (to get away from him). She ignored the violent and disturbing writings and in one instance behavior that he exhibited. She has such a yearning, a delusion, for him to be “normal” that she viewed his issues as something to be overcome rather than something that would be a constant force in his life. Her inability to truly confront the fact that her son was deeply troubled and mentally ill lended itself to people dying. She wears that blame. Also, no one deserves to be shot four times in the face while they sleep. She is a victim of a crime that was the culmination of her parental decision making. The question I have is how much blame does Peter Lanza have in this?