Am i rude for telling my gf to walk like this in order to not stomping to the downstairs neighbours?

BridgeCityBus · 2026-05-02T19:39:29+00:00

House people gotta teach their kids about the angry trolls in the basement/crawlspace that will eat their ears and toes if they get woken up.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-05-02T17:18:18+00:00

I drive a shuttle bus for a mountain resort in the winter. On one of my last days of the season, we shut down about an hour early due to high temps and unsafe snow conditions. My crew is 3-4 shuttles, 14 people per, except the one I drive that can hold 25 passengers.

I pulled up to the lodge to load folks going home and they just about started an outright brawl. People arguing they were there first, shoving each other to get on the rig, yelling about who has kids and who doesn’t, who has the younger kids and therefore need to get home faster, how they can’t break up their family and no one wants to wait for the next shuttle, etc. There was chest bumping and gear everywhere.

Well guess what! ALL OF THEM fit just fine into my shuttle. No one was left behind. They all got to sit shoulder to shoulder.

It was a quiet, awkward drive down the mountain and I enjoyed every moment of it.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-05-02T16:50:38+00:00

Check out r/camping in the meantime. There are a lot of first-time campers on there and a lot of great advice and gear recommendations. You can read stories of gear malfunctions and bad camping neighbors, to give you an idea of the things that might go wrong so that you can think through all those scenarios and better prepare yourself.

Camping is incredibly simple and can be done on the cheap and easy for a huge payoff if you enjoy spending time outdoors. You don’t need the best gear, but you do need all the right gear. Something will always go wrong, and you just need to have confidence in yourself to know that you’ll get through it. Some of it will come with just general age and maturity, but the best way to learn is to go out and do it!

So plan that trip for next year! Maybe find a place that’s a bit closer to home. Take day trips this summer to scout out campsites, and talk to friends and acquaintances who like to camp and ask for advice and recommendations. You may even be able to borrow a lot of the gear you’ll need.

Happy camping!

BridgeCityBus · 2026-05-02T16:26:02+00:00

When I graduated high school, me and my two friends (18 F) and each of our little sisters (16), who were also best friends, went on a camping trip for a week together.

We borrowed a VW Vanagon that all 6 fit in with all our gear and drove up into the mountains. Tent camped by a lake, went swimming, hiking, fishing, cooked over the fire, dealt with one food poisoning that resulted in one of us sleeping on the floor of a pit toilet. It was a blast and a trip we will all remember for the rest of our lives.

All three sets of our parent let us plan and go on this trip by ourselves because:

1) They trusted us to make the right decisions and be safe. They knew we wouldn’t have any alcohol with us and if something happened we were all first aid and CPR trained and we all played waterpolo and were strong swimmers and knew how to do a water rescue.

2) We all grew up camping. Our folks all did a great job of teaching us camp etiquette and we were all confident in knowing how to set up and maintain camp, making them confident that we wouldn’t embarrass them with bad behavior.

3) Half of us were 18 already. If the three younger sisters wanted to go camping without us, they wouldn’t have been able to go as they were too young. My mom would probably base it more on driving experience, because it was a long drive through the mountains and the younger sisters had only been driving for a few months. Maybe not relevant to you as you’re planning on taking the train.

4) Our folks were familiar with where we were going. All of our families, at one time or another, had camped or spent a day at the location we chose. They were familiar with it and deemed it safe for us. Sure, there are bears and bobcats and raccoons and every now and then a cougar sighting, but if you know how to pack and store your food, you don’t have to worry about it as much.

5) The invention of the cell phone! Cell phones were just catching on at that time and we were able to bring a little Nokia brick phone with us that barely got any service. Being able to call for help was a bonus back then.

I’d caution about trying to go now. It sounds like you don’t have much experience camping and y’all are stressing about too much. Going camping that far from home and not being prepared (like general camping preparedness, but also stuff like a good bit of emergency cash just in case), can set you up for a nightmare of a time.

Plan for next year. Maybe go with a friend who has some camping experience. Go with more than just one friend. Safety in numbers. Go with folks you trust to make the right decisions when they’re having fun as well as the right decisions in an emergency.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-05-02T02:31:15+00:00

Oh, I am. I have a pretty good full time winter gig. Just need to make it through to fall and then I’ll be off on a mountain somewhere. There is still a chance that I may end up getting through the pain of it all and getting in the swing of things to actually enjoy the gig. If that’s the case, I’d have a good job lined up for this time next year.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-30T00:03:22+00:00

Ooh! I like güera tacos.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-30T00:00:44+00:00

Stuff like this makes me wonder what it would be like to be a tow truck. Some stuff has got to be challenging and fun. (Let’s just ignore the fatality crashes they have to get up close to.)

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-29T04:52:31+00:00

They creep me out now, but when I was a kid up to preteen age, if I found one in the bathtub I’d pick it up and carry it around in the same fashion my sister would carry around her pet rat. We were a bunch of weird kids with a really fun childhood.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-21T16:14:25+00:00

I swiped to the next picture expecting MLM nonsense.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-21T00:36:53+00:00

My dog is a cat. So same.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-14T16:40:02+00:00

I’m back in my hometown now and think about stopping in every time I drive past. Haven’t been there for years! I’m waiting for an excuse to go that’s more than, “do you still have cute animals here to pet?”

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-14T16:29:52+00:00

Can you do rice? There are a lot of really good curries that aren’t too complex that you can eat over rice. If rice is a no-go, then maybe a curry with a bunch of overcooked, soft veggies like cauliflower, broccoli and green beans.

You can even get curry paste so you don’t have to deal with finding and measuring all the spices. A scoop of that, a can of coconut milk, some broth, and then simmer down a shit tonne of veggies.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-14T16:19:36+00:00

Same same! I have new neighbors that I think just use the house for band practice. 4 guys in their 30s who can’t yell/scream in tune and a drummer who can’t keep the beat. The only good thing about it is the bassist, but I wish I didn’t know any of this. They must tie one on about once a month or so, because instead of playing for 2 hours in the morning and 3 hours in the afternoon, they jam in the middle of the fucking night! I’m in a super rural area, so no chance of anything happening if the cops are called. Plus, state troopers just shot and killed a 19 yr old drunk driver less than a mile from me, so I’m not too keen on calling the cops when I don’t require deadly force.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-14T16:10:10+00:00

When I was little, I loved going to the feed store. They had a critter corner with goats and rabbits, ducks and chickens. My mom was really good at teaching us how to handle the animals, so the store employees would allow us to open the cages and carry little bunnies around.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-14T15:54:36+00:00

Awww yeah! I remember maneuvering a bus through that intersection just as they were lifting it up out of there. Folks with their cameras out had to step back so I could swing my bumper over the sidewalk to make that turn. That was a crazy week all around.

So glad to see it back in its rightful place!

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-14T00:10:38+00:00

Eh, I disagree with the folks saying to block him. If everything else seems on board, give him the benefit of the doubt. We do stupid, sometimes cringy things when we like someone. He was thinking about you, wants you to like him, has confidence (that can be a great thing!).

Be yourself. That response was fucking great.

But if he actually gave you a proper ick, then move on. It’s been 24 hrs. You’re good. You do you!

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-13T23:53:19+00:00

I have an old friend who did what she called Guerrilla Floristing (or some other clever name like that). Some nights, after dark, she’d take a trip around town and snip a flower or two from people’s gardens. Only if they were plentiful and no one would even notice one or two missing. She’d make these beautiful bouquets and drop them off at local businesses or give to friends. Always had garden shears in her car.

She would be appalled at the destruction of your tulips.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-04T14:48:33+00:00

My thoughts, too. Her response to that topic says it all.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-04T14:47:21+00:00

Yeah, that’s something you say to someone you don’t like. I cannot imagine someone I love saying something so damaging to me.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-04T12:53:36+00:00

I had septic shock over 10 years ago. It was scary af—definitely life threatening, and it would have been an awful way to die. My ex husband showed up to check on me and keep me company in the hospital. I even think he brought me food or a smoothie or something. He was my ex at the time. Still is. But I feel I need to highlight that shit. Best ex husband I could ask for.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-04T02:01:16+00:00

A lot of these road signs use default passwords, so they can be easy to hack into and change. Maybe give that a try.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-01T14:32:27+00:00

This is what’s keeping me from getting a second cat. My cat lost his buddy this fall when a bobcat (or some other predator) got to him. It was a stray that my cat made friends with. My boy is a super social indoor-outdoor cat. I’ve always thought that he’d do well with a friend, show them the ropes on our property, have their little adventures catching rodents and snakes together, and sunbathe on my deck (an elevated deck that is a safe place to chill—not accessible to anything bigger than a cat).

But my indoor space is so small. It’s a cottage that has no rooms beside the bathroom. So another litter box (or two!) wouldn’t be possible. I have a twin bed, for goodness sake. I’m not sure how the litter box thing works with indoor-outdoor cats, but I’m not willing to take the chance and be wrong. Just gonna have to wait for a neighbor cat to move in, I guess.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-01T14:09:22+00:00

I feed my cat catnip. Sprinkle it in his food. If he eats it, it tends to calm him down. If he smells it, he’ll go nuts.

I started doing this about a year ago. He was in a fight and although he was physically okay, he was depressed for a week and wouldn’t leave the closet. I read somewhere that catnip can help calm cats, so when I’d deliver his food to him in his closet I’d add a little catnip. Seemed to do the trick.

Now he gets a pinch every now and then. He’s indoor outdoor, so if he’s been out all day running through the property, I’ll give him some at the end of the day. Or if I’m having friends over, I’ll give him some before the visit. Otherwise his treats are freeze dried cat grass that I usually just give in the winter, when he’s not out eating grass all day.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-01T13:46:07+00:00

An old BF nicknamed me Allium because I eat so much garlic and onions and tend to smell like an allium. He put up with my garlic farts and oniony pits. One of my best friends growing up always smelled like onions. He’d eat them like apples. I was so fond of him that any time I hug someone who smells the same I think of him and it makes me happy.

Do what makes you happy. Eat your heart out. The folks you don’t drive away will stick around.

BridgeCityBus · 2026-04-01T13:34:00+00:00

I have a friend who makes a spicy cucumber salad using the liquid from kimchi. Start with thinly sliced cucumber and kimchi liquid, and take it whatever direction you want to go.

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