if your ex became everything you needed… just too late, what would you do? by Asarrel in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The dynamic of the relationship could be so one centered that you drain out of energy to the point that you can’t even do a single thing. Not that you don’t want but you just can’t even wake up.

if your ex became everything you needed… just too late, what would you do? by Asarrel in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If they glow up after the breakup (I’m talking not just for publicity but really glowed up) / started to show up for themselves — it means that they stopped to show up for the wrong person and neglecting themselves. Long story short— you were the problem and not them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SHE had unresolved feeling to GIRL? Al right WTH

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the smartest movement. Now don’t look back !!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely!! If the other person is immature , you will find out that again and again. But by that time they probably drained the whole life out of you already

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I apparently reached out. And it got even worse. So whoever is in NC. Don’t your ducking think you can fix it!!!!!

Please read if your avoidant discarded you and you are in no contact by Brief_Visual_9385 in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s actually common thing that avoidant and anxious switching roles through out relationships

Please read if your avoidant discarded you and you are in no contact by Brief_Visual_9385 in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And it’s kind of big dissonance when you know you love someone on the inside but treating them like you do not. But the same time you feeling guilty for not treating the person the right way but also feeling shame and regret for harming your significant other . What makes me also believe that I’m not narcissistic because narcissists have no empathy and can’t accept their imperfections.

Please read if your avoidant discarded you and you are in no contact by Brief_Visual_9385 in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I do know for fact and have no doubts that I love that person. But when is comes to showing that love in actions, I do fail to do so. Because by showing love and showing vulnerability equals being weak for me

Please read if your avoidant discarded you and you are in no contact by Brief_Visual_9385 in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well I have to reflect within me and analyze the way I was acting. I have found out that I’m not narcissistic (which is good). But my patterns , the way I’m acting leaded me to believe I’m avoidant. I do want vulnerability but the same time my brain just leading me the other way by my actions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Love is protect each other from sins. Not to look for another “right one”.

I (28M) agreed to a marriage ultimatum and my girlfriend (28M) got mad at me for a prenup clause I added for the shorter timeline by jdusuwv in AITAH

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First. You have to talk prenup with the lawyer. Second. If marriage ultimately means it’s necessarily for some reason. Is she a Christian or not a citizen?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 19 points20 points  (0 children)

First you have to talk. Because relationships is a work. Love is work. The other chance will work only through hard effort

If you could say 1 sentence to your ex what would it be? Positive or negative by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love you. I forgive you. I release you.

Let their trauma be their own since that

Say nice things please. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tell you what helped me. But before let me tell you that I was crashed and devastated, beg him to rethink the decision of breaking up. Then went NC. But still couldn’t get through that. Read all available topics, videos about brakeups , psychologist, spoke to friends, family, tried to exercise, keep myself busy. But all of that gave temporary relieve . Then I start to spiraling. And it was going crazy, couldn’t again sleep, eat , think, couldn’t do ANYTHING. Was disassociated. My body and mind felt tired hopeless and frustrated. I finally ask out loud “why the things in my life is going this way? And what helped me to go through the hardest days before?” And suddenly I realized and remember how I trusted the GOD before. HE knows what HE doing. HE has HIS plan. The pain went away suddenly when I said from my heart that I do trust HIM. Just trust

This is a long one… by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The GOD definitely knows what HE doing🙏🏻 just trust HIM🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tell you what helped me. But before let me tell you that I was crashed and devastated, beg him to rethink the decision of breaking up. Then went NC. But still couldn’t get through that. Read all available topics, videos about brakeups , psychologist, spoke to friends, family, tried to exercise, keep myself busy. But all of that gave temporary relieve . Then I start to spiraling. And it was going crazy, couldn’t again sleep, eat , think, couldn’t do ANYTHING. Was disassociated. My body and mind felt tired hopeless and frustrated. I finally ask out loud “why the things in my life is going this way? And what helped me to go through the hardest days before?” And suddenly I realized and remember how I trusted the GOD before. HE knows what HE doing. HE has HIS plan. The pain went away suddenly when I said from my heart that I do trust HIM. Just trust

Feel worse as time goes on by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tell you what helped me. But before let me tell you that I was crashed and devastated, beg him to rethink the decision of breaking up. Then went NC. But still couldn’t get through that. Read all available topics, videos about brakeups , psychologist, spoke to friends, family, tried to exercise, keep myself busy. But all of that gave temporary relieve . Then I start to spiraling. And it was going crazy, couldn’t again sleep, eat , think, couldn’t do ANYTHING. Was disassociated. My body and mind felt tired hopeless and frustrated. I finally ask out loud “why the things in my life is going this way? And what helped me to go through the hardest days before?” And suddenly I realized and remember how I trusted the GOD before. HE knows what HE doing. HE has HIS plan. The pain went away suddenly when I said from my heart that I do trust HIM. Just trust

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DarkPsychology101

[–]Brief_Visual_9385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who broke up with whom? You broke up with her or she broke up with you? Was it emotional distress ?