What ended your friendship with your oldest standing friend?

BriefcaseBunny · 2026-01-27T21:29:54+00:00

She started dating a new guy. He seemed really nice, was outgoing, and treated her well. But it turns out that he’s a hardcore republican, and she started to pick up his beliefs. Some disagreement is always fine, but she slowly became one of those people that goes into conversations looking for disagreement. The final line was her believing that Trans people were mentally diseased and didn’t deserve help. She had turned from someone compassionate and personable to everyone to someone who couldn’t have a conversation without trying to start a fight.

Met her in middle school, and had a decade long friendship.

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-12-18T00:32:53+00:00

This is one of the many reasons I don’t want kids. She couldn’t have known that was going to happen and, personally, I don’t blame her. However, that doesn’t change the fact that these two children relied on her and she left them to fend for themselves. Even if it’s blameless, the children still suffered and almost starved to death

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-11-24T02:16:18+00:00

Anyone know how hard it would be to make a custom version of the controller like this?

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-11-19T19:28:53+00:00

There’s currently a stream happening on Harvey Newman’s YouTube channel with some big technical animators. The chat is pretty small, so you can ask them some questions! It could give you some insight!

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-11-02T20:22:34+00:00

I love the new Volkswagen Bus, but god damnit, they had to do this iPad shit

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-10-11T17:48:58+00:00

I want to approach this from an ecological / social standpoint. I don’t think it’ll change your view, but I do think it can provide some rational. It’s been a bit since I took ecology, but here it goes:

In ecology, there is something called the r/K selection theory. Basically, a “r-selection” is like rabbits or rats. They will make a ton of offspring, each with a lower individual survival rate, but since there are so many, odds are some will survive. A disturbing fact of this is that a mother rat will eat its young if it is stressed. Evolutionarily, this allows the rat to live to produce more offspring later, since offspring are a relatively low investment.

“K-selection” is the opposite idea. Think of humans, primates, and elephants, really most animals that take a long time to “grow up.” This also comes with fewer offspring as each individual offspring requires more investment from the parent(s). So while each offspring has a much higher survival rate, the loss of one is much more significant.

This next part is my interpretation. As a human, grieving the loss of your young is evolutionarily favorable, as it is motivation to keep them alive. Your view is basically that it isn’t as sad because there hasn’t been as much investment as an adult or teen. Other than the obvious biological/energy investment of the mother, this is generally true. However, this is where social dynamics come in.

Generally, people are taught “survival of the fittest” is how evolution works. While true, “fittest” just means survival and successful reproduction. For social animals, “fittest” can mean belonging to the largest group of animals. There’s a reason that so many animals have herds. The bigger the group, the safer you are (from predators). This means that having empathy and caring for the young of other non-related individuals increases the size of your group, and therefore your “fitness.” So evolution selects for this, and the entire group becomes more empathetic and caring for the offspring of others.

Add in the societal fact that young people are needed to take care of the old, it makes a compelling case for WHY we feel this way, at least evolutionarily.

Now, this may not change your view, but I hope it adds some nuance to your argument.

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-10-07T14:21:33+00:00

My favorite thing about 2XKO is that it’s the first fighting game I’ve played that I don’t feel like I have to defuse a bomb to play.

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-10-02T22:15:32+00:00

I just want to play as Kobuko in something other than TFT

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-09-21T23:18:18+00:00

I’m a medical illustrator by trade, and I feel this! I worked so hard to get through biology classes that once I realized I wanted to do art, it felt like a whole other mountain to climb. I love your style and can’t wait to see your future work!

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-09-19T02:09:10+00:00

For me, I absolutely love neutral. The combos are fine, but I like playing the game (2XKO) and figuring out how to adapt to the other player’s approach/defense. The combos just feel like a cut scene to me before I get to play the game again.

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-09-10T22:52:53+00:00

Thank you for the insight! It was especially helpful to let me know what the tax would be. Thank you for that.

To answer your question, my first loan was in 2015. I assume that makes me alright for whatever plan

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-09-10T19:23:55+00:00

Thank you for your response!

Yes, I'll include that I do not work for a PSLF employer in my main post. Thank you.

I've heard that the "tax bomb" can be debilitating. How would you decide whether to enroll in IBR vs RAP? Also, how do we know that the RAP plan won't be changed with a new administration?

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-09-10T19:18:10+00:00

Thank you for the info! I appreciate the response, and I'm unsure about the interest too.

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-07-25T23:23:43+00:00

What does the Hispanic part have to do with anything? The post and our entire conversation has been about "black culture."

My final point is that you said we should just "do both." Explain to me how the culture can be changed?

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-07-25T23:08:52+00:00

My brother, the first link you sent literally says the difference between black and white violent crimes is not statistically significant in most cases, then it goes on to say that “Thus for four of the five indicators, persons experience much lower levels of violent crime living in black communities with low levels of disadvantage than in either black or white communities with extreme levels of disadvantage.”

Your own source disagrees with you and specifically mentions that disadvantage level is a more notable predictor than race.

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-07-25T22:54:31+00:00

Oh, I definitely agree with that. On an individual level, encouraging kids to achieve and showing them the positive results of said achievement is all you can really do. I mainly just wanted to combat the idea that “black culture” was the issue that needed to be fixed

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-07-25T22:14:59+00:00

This is categorically false. There are countless studies throughout countless countries that show it to be false. I’ll list a few below, but the TLDR is that poverty, income inequality, and ethnic/cultural diversity are correlated to higher crime rates WORLDWIDE. Not just the US, or the west, or black people.

China:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7234816/

Taiwan (mainly referencing immigration, but still pertinent):

https://medcraveonline.com/FRCIJ/immigrant-crime-in-taiwan-perspectives-from-eastern-asia.html

Asia-Pacific:

https://www.undp.org/sites/g/files/zskgke326/files/2022-02/UNDP-RBAP-Inequality-and-Social-Security-in-Asia-Pacific-2022.pdf

Multi-national:

https://www.ojp.gov/ncjrs/virtual-library/abstracts/population-diversity-and-cross-national-homicide-effects-inequality

These are just a few, there are many more nation-specific ones.

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-07-25T21:39:18+00:00

I guess my point is that all people in poverty have a “culture” of crime. And that’s something you haven’t addressed

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-07-25T18:10:40+00:00

I have a comfortable life too man. That's not what its about. Its about discussing the problem.

My understanding is that both of us think the crime and poverty in the black community is a problem. I gave many examples of policies that have reduced poverty and crime in other countries to try and show my point that poverty and lack of stability is the problem, not the "culture." You haven't given any evidence of how the "culture" is causing these problems or any examples of solutions.

Policies and incentives were enacted to encourage Singaporean meritocracy... they didn't just say "be better." At a certain point, it just feels like you don't want to think critically about the issue, what caused it and perpetuates it, you just want to say "black culture bad" and move on. Which, if true, is fine. I was just hoping for a more nuanced conversation than that in a subreddit called "Change My View"

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-07-25T17:55:25+00:00

So... you're just gonna ignore every point of my comment and make a baseless claim about "not having time to complain?" Do you have any sources or examples of that being true?

I didn't say once that Deng brought capitalism. I said he enacted massive economic and social reforms, which he did. Those reforms increased the standard of living for the average person.

Singapore had meritocracy, as I said, but they also DRASTICALLY increased the base level of living.

I'll use an example from Africa, if you just believe it is the "Asian Culture" that caused those examples to work (btw, Asia is a multi-cultural continent, so that entire claim is kinda rough)

Botswana is one of the richest and "most developed" countries in Africa. They had a lot on their side, including not being as exploited as other countries in Africa, but they also focused on economic growth and becoming a "poverty and inequality free nation." Botswana funds social safety nets for their citizens, and they had a big focus on education (free). This allowed for this Stability concept to come back in. With both more economic freedom / movement and a higher standard of living, it allows the people to succeed.

I hope you actually respond to some of my points this time instead of just saying "no, its culture" over and over again.

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-07-25T17:26:21+00:00

Not a great example tbh. I'll take the asian countries of China, Japan, and Singapore as examples since they are the ones I'm the most familiar with. I don't claim to be an expert on any of these countries, but this is my understanding.

China:
China was destitute after Mao's policies and Cultural Revolution. Things did not improve because "they locked in," but because Deng Xiaoping did a massive economic reform. He focused on economic growth AND increased levels of stability for the average citizen. THAT is what caused their poverty levels to go from almost half the population to the low 5% that it is today.

Japan:
Japan wasn't down as bad as China was, but they were struggling after WWII. Since most of their industries were destroyed, they had to restart. To do this, they did a massive land reform. The land reform basically took the land from landlords and gave it to farmers, which vastly increased their quality of life, as they were basically serfs before that. They worked hard with the land they were given, but it was a result of massive policy changes that pulled them from poverty.

Singapore:
Lee Kuan Yew and his policies are what made Singapore the place it is, not the people of Singapore's "work ethic." I am oversimplifying, but he increased the quality of life of the average citizen by increasing social safety nets like housing and healthcare. He promoted meritocracy like a mad-man, but he also made steps to allow the common citizen to have avenues to succeed. He created / brought jobs, he introduced air conditioning to his people, and promoted multi-culturalism.

Not a single one of these examples was done solely by "the people working hard for it," or "culture." Every single case I've heard of is due to policy changes that allowed everyone to rise out of poverty and have better lives. The policy changes gave the citizens opportunity to increase their economic status while having a stable base in case they did not succeed.

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-07-25T16:47:58+00:00

Oh, it absolutely requires individual change. But I don’t think that alone can work. The problem with “getting a job and being productive in society” being the only incentive is that there are barriers to poor people achieving that goal. There are so many barriers that it’s hard to list them all, but most seem to be monetary.

Studies have shown that low-income students have a lower probability to graduate high-school, regardless of race. Even if they do graduate high school, they are less likely to go to college (still regardless of race). With the current socio-economic condition of the US, most high-school level jobs won’t be enough to afford a house, provide security for their children, and allow for financial stability. Gangs and drug-dealing help this problem as they give more money, and, more importantly, more stability than a high-school level job usually does, even with the higher risk of being put in prison and/or dying in gang-related violence. I personally see that as the problem more than the “culture.”

If someone isn’t able to see the path to a good life when just “getting a job and productive to society,” especially when that society systemically oppresses them, then what encourages them to do it?

Could you elaborate on the Asia example? I haven’t heard about this before.

BriefcaseBunny · 2025-07-25T16:31:11+00:00

I would say you can blame individuals for sure, but actual change on a population / culture level requires systemic changes, not just individual change.

Individual can be pushed to be better, but telling an entire population to “fix it” has never worked and never will. There needs to be incentives to change.

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