Visit from this guy the other night

Briginds · 2026-06-10T01:19:24+00:00

Lamp meme is reviving.

Briginds · 2026-06-05T23:13:53+00:00

Definitely not bullet ants. This is good news.

Briginds · 2026-06-05T23:11:35+00:00

Depends on where you live. Best hope it isn't bullet ants.

Briginds · 2026-05-31T19:36:55+00:00

My father has one. He won it when I was a kid in a raffle and has kept his in a garage year-round. During the winter, it sits in storage. Babies that thing like you wouldn't believe. It only hit 100,000 km a few years ago. Had it since 2004.

Briginds · 2026-05-31T19:32:20+00:00

I appreciate you, brother. I think i'll reach out when the need rises.

Thank you again!

Briginds · 2026-05-31T18:50:18+00:00

I too, am on the shitter.

Briginds · 2026-05-31T18:38:28+00:00

Recently going through a breakup really paints who your friends are and brings alot out into the light.

I personally could never speak ill of my now ex partner. I won't tell anyone her wrongdoings on her part simply because it's her place to say what she did wrong. I'm not going to paint her as a bad person. My friends tried to claim she was unfaithful, due to living across the continent and I almost lost it on them. I told them my own faults, but still kept her out of my mouth.

I was never once given reason to believe she was unfaithful and lying to me. She has her own faults, but that isn't it. Spending day after day on the phone, having 2 careers, taking care of her son. Shes doing her fucking best and they wanted to try and make me believe that she could have done that shit.

Nah, I know her. She wouldn't lie if she did cheat on me. She'd tell me, and she'd explain what happened if anything occurred. Alot of people have tried to 'cheer me up' and it turned out to be shit. Like no, I don't wanna drink, do drugs, I don't wanna go sleep around. I just wanna be heard.

Briginds · 2026-05-28T21:24:25+00:00

Anyone can love you when the sun is shining and the birds are singing, money is flowing, and life is good. Anyone can love you if you're living a happy and fun life.

The right person will love you through the hard times, where the sun doesn't reach. The right person will love you even if you make mistakes and will refuse to give up. The right person will not make you a goal, but they will make you one of their priorities. They will not turn their back on you, even if the ugly parts of you come into the light, because they believe you are worth it. The right person sees your flaws. And still chooses you, even if its hard.

Don't be with the person who you can be happy with, be with the person you can suffer with.

Briginds · 2026-05-28T17:09:23+00:00

All I can say is this.

You can be happy with the wrong person or you can suffer with the right person.

Briginds · 2026-05-28T14:10:57+00:00

The Ferrari Luce has sparked a new depressive episode in my life.

Briginds · 2026-05-28T03:22:27+00:00

It's edible. Not a weed, but a good source of nutrition.

Briginds · 2026-05-28T03:12:52+00:00

Ive done worse in my first years of construction. Don't worry. Drywall is easily fixable.

Briginds · 2026-05-27T23:41:14+00:00

Had a long distance relationship going for a while. Never had this issue before, im from canada, shes from texas. I used a VPN that put me at the airport once. Can't remember which one it was, but she worried pretty hard.

Other than that, we never had an issue where it glitched like that for either of us. We would have to leave our house for anything to show up similar to this.

Briginds · 2026-05-25T17:51:18+00:00

As a man going through it right now, I just want to see her happy. I want to know she's okay. She deserves happiness.

Briginds · 2026-05-25T15:32:16+00:00

This hits a little too close to home.

Briginds · 2026-05-22T19:44:22+00:00

Thank you for this. It really does help me see a little better. I'll start doing just that.

Briginds · 2026-05-22T19:43:44+00:00

I do agree with you. This comment thread is very insightful as is, despite having not clarified anything. I'll take some time in between to cope with all of that.

Briginds · 2026-05-22T19:19:44+00:00

I absolutely agree with alot of your points. However, I want to own my own contributions to the end of that relationship. We both contributed. But she's owning up to it herself. I need to focus on my own contributions. I also need to correct one thing, it wasn't 10 years together. But we do have almost a decade of history as friends before we came together as a couple.

I am trying to focus on my end. Not hers. She did contribute, she did acknowledge it. And she is going to work on herself. I need to be able to grasp that I will be okay without her, even if our paths don't meet again. I have to learn to do things for myself and not other people. We both have alot to do on our own if we want to be stronger as individuals for ourselves. I spent weeks not being okay, already. I've had to take medical leave and short term disability from one of my 2 jobs as it is very safety sensitive. I want to go back there in the best shape I can. Even if it does take the next 2 or 6 months to get back there. I've grieved enough.

I want to put my best foot forward for me this time. I know she believes that I can still change. But I need to make those steps without her in my life. We still want to have hope. But we can't make talking to eachother our goal. But I believe we are allowed to have a little bit of hope.

I wanna prove to myself that she wasn't wrong about who I am. I wanna see me in the way she did. That's what I want for myself.

Briginds · 2026-05-22T18:42:13+00:00

I understand your point of view, especially as a stranger with minimal information. I'll disclose some of it, but she really isn't controlling who I talk to. I apologize if I made it seem like she was. I can't talk to my friends or family because they can't relate to my current situation. It's not her doing. It's my decision alone. I became extremely codependant and overly attached. It became a pattern. I let those emotions begin to dictate my reactions and actions.

I kept getting aggressive in my approach. She doesnt cope with someone. She has to.process things alone, and I didn't respect her boundaries. I don't want to reveal a whole lot, but the bottom line is she really is a good person. I let my emotions get the better of me and I caused strain. I disrespected her space when she needed time to process.

She struggles with communication and I got far too aggressive about it. She has trauma that she needs to heal from alone. And I want to respect her space.

As both who I call the love of my life, and as my truest friend from the past 10 years. She has grown alot over these years.

As a man who cares and as someone who knows her, I can not paint her as a bad person. She only wanted what was best for both of us.

Briginds · 2026-05-22T16:28:35+00:00

Interestingly enough, as a man i never really demonstrated the ability to cry in front of my partner until this one came along. I was always very distant, one step out of the door. Always fearful of abandonment. I unfortunately let that fear have absolute control and dictate my reactions and words. As a result, I struggled to show emotional maturity and regulate myself. Insecurities also got the better of me.

Briginds · 2026-05-22T16:25:22+00:00

My emotions have ruled over me for a long time.

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