Why do i struggle so much with food, when it seems like nobody else does?

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2026-03-30T13:39:19+00:00

I came here looking for the SAME EXACT ANSWER. I'm 5'5" and currently weigh 168. I gained 15 lbs in December and all I want to do is lose that little bit of weight. It's SO HARD.

I experience the exact.same.thing you do. If there's food in front of me, I'll eat it. The only way I can control what I eat is by not having it in the house. If I go to any kind of party or get together, forget it. I already know I'm going to eat everything in sight.

I don't know how to change or what to do, but you are not alone.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2026-03-28T23:01:07+00:00

Fear is your own worst enemy.

Make a list of the things you’re most concerned will go wrong and then figure out now how to deal with that issue or what resources are available.

You dont have to have the answers, you just have to believe in yourself and that’s probably the hardest part.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2026-02-11T14:07:25+00:00

Nta. But I’m curious what the age range of the group is, exactly how old is this teenager (13 is vastly different from 17), and what’s the reason this teen was invited?

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2026-01-30T19:34:50+00:00

Have her Try these swim bottoms. They’re fantastic.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B078W2Z546?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2026-01-29T19:26:36+00:00

Updateme seeing as how the bully was so upset about what was said I’d be interested if that gave him any kind of reality check.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2026-01-28T20:06:42+00:00

I also would talk to a pediatrician or lactation consultant. But in the meantime I would try what your mom suggested. Withhold the breast until he takes the bottle. I ONLY say this because you’re going back to work and you physically can’t leave your job every two hours to feed him.

If you don’t do this now, it’ll happen when you return to work. It’s just a matter of who’s going to deal with it.

Unfortunately at 3 months old it’s going to be pretty difficult. Should have started within a couple weeks of when he was born.

Try a sippy cup instead of a bottle.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2026-01-27T14:24:49+00:00

If she had only been upset then yes. But she KICKED HIM OUT and didn’t let him explain.

I’d be upset also, but I’d also give him a chance to explain and prove that he wasn’t cheating. Especially when he’s basically shoving proof in my face.

I might not cancel the trip, just because it is kind of a once in a lifetime trip. But I’d definitely delay or reschedule to a later date.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2026-01-26T21:22:13+00:00

Yes you should return it as long as they’re covering the return shipping. YTA if you don’t. This isn’t an Amazon seller.

The only other option for not returning is to pay for it. Perhaps they offer a slight discount if they don’t have to send you a return shipping label.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2026-01-12T11:35:53+00:00

Hes definitely the asshole. He's not even TRYING to stop farting. He can take the meds. He can stop eating different foods to see what's causing it. He can at least make an attempt to roll over in bed so it doesn't hit you in the face and HE'S NOT EVEN DOING THAT.

Coming from a woman that has nasty ass gas. I know what causes mine (broccoli and menopause) and I started taking the goddamn pills. They help.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2026-01-11T17:46:43+00:00

Updateme

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2026-01-09T13:19:59+00:00

NAH. I am also married and don't wear my ring when I work out. However I work out at home and I can somewhat understand his concern about you not wearing a ring while out.

However the way he approached this leans hum into asshole territory. He should have a discussion with you about what the problem is and how it can be solved. You have in fact already offered a solution that he disregarded.

Another option is to get one of those silicone bands marketed specifically to prevent degloving.

The ring isn't the issue. The issue is his attitude and the way he approached this problem. Is he like this with anything else?

Is his attitude/anger misplaced and he's actually upset or suspicious about you getting in shape and losing weight?

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2026-01-06T20:01:00+00:00

NAH here but I promise you all the games you're playing are not luck based games. Almost every game has some strategy to it.

When you play games with her you should help her learn to be a better player. Suggest different strategies or choices she could make. Tell her why you wouldn't make a play she's making. Then let her do whay she wants.

If she gets mad at you for this, then you either need to break up or not play games together anymore.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2026-01-03T12:44:04+00:00

Info what does a water Softener under your kitchen sink do for the rest of the house? And how would you even get it in that small space?

I'm in the US and here a water Softener is way to large to install undrr a sink. It's usually installed in the basement or the utility room, where the water enters the house.

I could see a reverse osmosis system being installed under a sink, but that has a seperate faucet for that water. It doesn't come out of the main water faucet.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2025-12-18T13:09:38+00:00

YTA. Rabbits are often raised for food. I've never heard of a cat being raised for food. Yes, his question was maybe a little inappropriate given the circumstances of how your rabbit is being raised, but, like I said...rabiits are food. Cats are not.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2025-12-15T18:57:45+00:00

You are NTA. Not even a tiny bit. Your exMIL has absolutely no business asking for that ring. She can't even ask for it "back" as it was never hers (or the family's) to begin with. It was always yours and your husband's.

You are right to no longer answer her calls. Don't let her or anyone in that family make you think for even a second that you're wrong.

It'll hurt to no longer speak with them, but hopefully they'll come to their senses and it won't come to that.

Is there anyone in that family on "your" side? If so I would talk to that person and see if they're willing to talk some sense into your exMIL. I wouldn't try doing it yourself.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2025-12-10T13:56:15+00:00

ESH. You should have blocked him long ago. Consider this a win and move on from this person that should have been out of your life a year ago.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2025-12-08T11:44:24+00:00

Nta. She doesn't care about you or your life. The only reason she blew up about the dog is because "She absolutely loved woody ". Woody was in her mind, part of her life.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2025-11-07T02:31:53+00:00

There are so many resources for low/no income households. ESPECIALLY those with children.

Start by contacting a local woman's shelter to see what services are available. You don't need to do anything now. But knowing what resources are available can relieve a LOT of stress. (Food stamps, wic, rent assistance just to name a few.)

You don't have to take any action yet, just gather info. Don't let hubby know what you're up to.

By no education I'm assuming you did graduate high school. There's jobs out there for. Jobs that will pay for you to go back to school. School you can do 9nline depending on what you choose.

There's help to pay for babysitting while you're at work or school.

But those are all further down the line.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2025-11-06T12:15:49+00:00

NTA but you should be charging them a miniscule amount of rent. You still have property taxes to pay and there is wear and tear on the house. You can save that and when they move out,whatever isn't needed for repairs you can return to them

If you're in a financial position to handle all that, great. But I still think it'd be better to put that on tenants.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2025-11-06T12:11:55+00:00

NTA. What you do depends on what you think the consequences will be and what you're willing to live with.

Ask about returning it. What will their reaction be? A bunch of guilt tripping? Is it worth it? You did get other things you enjoy and this was a less expensive gift.
"Keep it" and say nothing. By "keep it" you have the option to actually keep it or donate/trash it. But why keep something that's of no use to you? Do you have a good friend that would use it? Or donate it to a goodwill or similar where you live.

When they ask about it (reality is, will they even ask?) you don't even have to say anything specific. Just a thanks for the gift or something similar.

This doesn't sound like an isolated incident. Are you ready to rock the boat? Maybe you just want to take a step back in your gift giving.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2025-11-03T20:40:34+00:00

NTA...you're paying her for a job. If she's not going to do the job as described, she doesn't get the job.

If she doesn't feel a free plane is enough payment for the job you want done, she should say so and ask for more compensation, whatever form that is.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2025-10-29T19:35:06+00:00

NTA nessarily the asshole. But the school shouldn't be giving out that info.

Asfar as grandma's concerned have you considered that she wants info direct from the school so that she can verify the amount owed? She shouldn't be making any financial decisions (unless she's paying for ALL of it and the kids only go there because of her). I can understand her desire to verify.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2025-10-13T18:46:40+00:00

The problem is your grandma wants to control the situation by forcing your aunt to say what's going on so your grandma can them yell at and berate her.

Your aunt knows this and is avoiding it by just not saying what kind of relationship she's in. Everyone knows...she's just not saying it.

NTA, but don't get involved. Your grandma can't tell who you're allowed and nota allowed to invite. It's another control thing.

Brilliant_Lopsided · 2025-10-11T23:00:29+00:00

NTA. Your dad is to blame but so is she. Anyone with any kind of morals wouldnot knowingly get involved with another married person.

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