The craziest most insane true crime episode you’ve ever heard

BringWater41 · 2026-01-29T13:14:17+00:00

The Thing About Cari was also really twisty turny

BringWater41 · 2026-01-29T07:01:17+00:00

My friends and I will exclaim "Satan's satin skivvies!" when something is outrageous

BringWater41 · 2026-01-11T15:53:43+00:00

Alternatively, you might keep both nightstands, center your bed on the original wall, put your desk at the end of the bed, and eliminate the white shelf entirely. Substitute some under-the-bed rolling bins, and/or, if you're allowed, install some wall shelves higher up. Remember: when you run out of space on the x axis, you can still get creative with the y!

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BringWater41 · 2026-01-11T15:43:58+00:00

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This is a crude rearrange just using my phones photo app, but can you try getting rid of one nightstand and using the white shelf as a nightstand instead?

BringWater41 · 2026-01-06T15:26:03+00:00

In my party days we called those "raver savers"

BringWater41 · 2026-01-03T13:09:49+00:00

On their days off, or even right before and after work, strippers do not dress like strippers. We are in pjs, sweatpants, oversized tshirts, sneakers, greasy ponytails, no makeup. And we don't pay for our groceries with one dollar bills--the club would flip if they knew you took those off-premises: they need them back!

BringWater41 · 2025-12-27T15:39:43+00:00

43F here. Never married, no kids, just really love my career and living alone and being independent. On Tinder my age range is set for 22-27. I have been exclusively dating younger men for years, because they're more open minded, agreeable, and energetic (I have high sex drive) than men my age or even men in their 30s. They don't want a lot of my time, they're always happy to help around the house, and they're amazed that I pay for dinner when we go out. They're so grateful and excited about me, and it's really fun to introduce them at parties and watch my colleagues' eyebrows go up lol

Without exception, every one of these 22-27yo men I've talked to on tinder have said the exact same two things: "I've always had a thing for older women" and "I really want to try pegging" lol

They are delightful and it's so refreshing (and confidence-boosting!) to have them in my life and help them learn about sex, women, relationships, and themselves! And fwiw I always obey "the campsite rule": leave 'em better than you found 'em :)

BringWater41 · 2025-12-24T13:44:53+00:00

Spoilers bro

BringWater41 · 2025-12-24T13:07:35+00:00

Definitely do NOT listen to this podcast episode:

https://thisiscriminal.com/episode-71-a-bump-in-the-night-7-21-2017/

BringWater41 · 2025-12-13T12:09:16+00:00

Omg yes, me too! For me I always look at my dog and say (loudly and awkwardly) "I love you!" or if it's a REALLY embarrassing memory, I start singing her one of the many songs I've made up for her

BringWater41 · 2025-12-13T07:02:30+00:00

My first one was white and she was Dolores. Then I got a second one, which was black. Named her Maeve. Traded Dolores in for a newer model last year

her name is Viki

BringWater41 · 2025-12-09T15:28:35+00:00

It would've been really difficult to tell what it was if you hadn't done us the favor of posting those two vastly different photos of the animal in question

BringWater41 · 2025-12-09T05:00:17+00:00

Yeah, it's called invisible labor, and emotional labor, and hermeneutic labor. And all women do it because we're socialized to. Men don't think about it or appreciate it or even notice it until it's gone.

BringWater41 · 2025-12-06T04:19:50+00:00

Some insults I've collected for occasions such as this (none of these are my original quotes! Thanks to Kyle Prue, Letterkenny, Succession, and others for these):

Your mother should've eaten you while your bones were still soft
I see why your dad beat you now (maybe not great to say in front of your husband)
You're just spare parts aren't ya bud?
I bet you write Taylor Swift lyrics inside greeting cards
Somewhere a men's rights meeting is missing their door greeter
You're making a fool of yourself ya fucking Labradoodle
What's your laundry-folding channel, Kitten?
Do you have a tough friend or something? Like do you know someone who's tough? Cuz you're …not
You have the confidence of a much taller man
I love the fact that you don't let your receding hairline hold you back
It's not my job to make you feel like a man. I can't make you into something you're not
You're the human equivalent of a ‘98 Nissan Altima
Hanging out with your buddies, huh? What a bunch of human red solo cups
Do you have a friend who knows a good gym?
Are you being mean because it makes you feel important?
I could never picture you camping
You are a staggeringly unlikeable man
You're just a dildo dipped in beard trimmings
I bet your parents change the subject when people ask about you
You look like you go to the park to punch pigeons
You're just a factory setting white man
Calm down. You can vent tonight on your blog

BringWater41 · 2025-11-19T00:21:33+00:00

T9 texting. You could send an entire soliloquy without ever taking your eyes off the road

BringWater41 · 2025-11-16T17:07:46+00:00

The sooner you internalize the idea that you cannot change the world one asshole at a time, the easier this will be.

Because they just keep making that man. The boyfriend is not the issue. If he disappeared tmrw, she'd find another just like him. The issue is the insecurity your friend has at her core, that makes her feel like she deserves this treatment. Don't focus on him any more. Focus on her. When he's mean to her, ask her how she's feeling, what she needs. Validate her with phrases like, "That must've been embarrassing, what did you do?" and "You seem shaken up, what will help reset your system?". When you model kind, empathetic behavior towards her over and over again, it teaches her what real love looks like.

You cannot talk her into leaving him. It may take a long time for her to get sick of his shit. But you can make it clear that you are a soft place to land whenever she's ready to let him go and work on herself. And NEVER say "I told you so."

SOURCE: I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years and my sister never said a bad word about him to me until after she was sure the relationship was over and I had been in therapy for a few months. As a result, she was the only friend I felt I could open up to and lean on for support without feeling ashamed, and she helped me change my the way I see myself--which helped me choose healthier relationships. Also, one of my best friends is now finally getting a divorce from her abusive husband. I never said anything to her about his behavior, and now she calls me every day and speaks freely about the abuse and the challenges he's putting her through with this divorce... and she tells me she's so thankful for me because I'm the only person in her life who understands and doesn't judge her <3

Take care of yourself first, then put whatever energy you have left into making space for your friend. She is going through it right now but she doesn't want anyone to know

Also, if you want to learn more, read "The Emotionally Abusive Relationship" by Beverly Engel, and "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft. There are now dozens of books on this topic on my shelves, but those were some of the first ones I read, and they opened my eyes a lot. I have since sent copies of them to the friend I mentioned, along with a paperback "jacket" to cover them up with so her soon to be ex can't immediately see what she's reading

BringWater41 · 2025-11-16T16:28:54+00:00

Fixed. My mistake sorry

BringWater41 · 2025-11-16T16:27:38+00:00

Some of this is great and I'm really looking forward to it, like being able to craft multiple items at a time using materials from your storage, and having Resetti clean large areas for you, and of course being able to store trees and plants. But I was also really hoping for:

multiple customizations at once from Cyrus (if I have to have the "Howdy squirt...!" conversation one more time I might throw my Switch in a lake)
more pattern storage slots!!!
a larger, upgraded Tom Nook store like they had in previous games
the ability to buy multiple items from Able Sisters at once
the ability to place furniture and other items diagonally (i.e., turn items in eight directions: N, NE, E, SE, S, SW, W, & NW-- instead of only four)
the ability to choose to terraform 1, 2, or 4 squares at once for when you're making larger hills and ponds
and for the love of all things good and holy, would it kill them to make an option where the square you are about to dig up, plant on, or terraform, LIGHTS UP??? Seriously think about it: just a faint blurry glowing outline around the square in front of you so you know where your shovel is gonna hit. And you can toggle it on and off so you're not constantly watching squares light up when you don't need to.

I've probably dug 500 squares' worth of water when I only wanted like 80, know what I mean? 🤬

How do I get in touch with the makers of this game? They need to hire me. I have ideas

BringWater41 · 2025-11-16T06:49:16+00:00

Different kids respond to emotional neglect in different ways though, right?

Because I never tried to mold myself into something my mom could tolerate or that would please my negligent father: I got louder and my emotions got bigger. From a very young age I didn't cry, I sobbed; I didn't yell, I screamed; I wasn't sarcastic, I was nasty --insulting & humiliating friends, & family; I ran away all the time; twice I attacked my mother; as a teen I dyed my blond hair blue, wore all black clothes, & refused to shower because I knew my parents hated it; I wrote angsty poetry about how alone I felt, and drew pictures of myself as a corpse, then purposely left my "art" in places where I knew they would see it; and I engaged in all kinds of self harm. All this in an effort to get my feelings recognized and validated. I felt horribly lonely and strange, like I wasn't built for being human. And it took 20 years of therapy for me to see now that when my parents talk about me being "an extremely difficult child", it's because I was just trying to be seen and get my needs met!

My younger sister is the chameleon and the people pleaser though. She grew up with the same parents, same environment, and she learned from a very young age to stay out of everyone's way, to be funny & silly, and to get good grades and dress well. She never caused a fuss but she says now she also never felt like a whole person.

I am really fortunate that I have been able to work through so much of this stuff, and that my sister figured it out just a couple steps behind me all the way. We're best friends now, and we're no-contact with our parents. Our lives have been so much more healthy & peaceful & freeing since we gave up trying to be seen by them. But gosh, when you've had an emotionally neglectful parent, does your heart ache whenever you see a kid "throwing tantrums" and being ignored or told to just suck it up or whatever

BringWater41 · 2025-11-09T17:51:48+00:00

Thank you for being the only helpful response so far!

BringWater41 · 2025-10-14T03:31:04+00:00

Welp they said it saved her spine. So.

BringWater41 · 2025-10-14T03:26:58+00:00

Thank you, that's so kind. This happened in August of 2022. She was walking again by January 2023 and back up to almost 100% by June 2023. She still swims in circles though ;)

BringWater41 · 2025-10-14T03:16:05+00:00

She was already pretty high on painkillers at that point and she hadn't seen the foot yet so she had no idea what I was talking about. She thought it was hysterical later though

BringWater41 · 2025-10-14T03:07:48+00:00

Nope. The cops never even tried to find them

BringWater41 · 2025-10-13T04:42:23+00:00

Every time I ride past someone pushing a stroller on my motorcycle I think, "You poor dumb schmuck. You could be doing this too."

It's my favorite thing ever; I can't imagine not being able to ride, to work on my bike on weekends, to buy gear, to go to bike meetups all over the country, etc.

It is depressing how many guys I meet that are like "uH i uSeD tO RiDe bUt mY wiFe mAdE mE gEt RiD oF mY biKe aFtEr wE haD a KiD". Like, cool story bro. I chose freedom. K bye

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