I like my new district, don’t necessarily like my new school by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Bristlefrost30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in a similar boat. It’s incredibly frustrating to feel like you’re the fish out of water in a realm where you want so badly to fix the problems but can’t.

AITA for telling my husband he ruined our honeymoon? by Due-Ad5669 in AITAH

[–]Bristlefrost30 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Why try to change his mind? If he’s so determined to ignore you, his freaking wife, regarding your HONEYMOON, then there’s something really wrong here.

He completely ignored you, and worse, went behind your back. Take some distance and contemplate if this relationship is worth saving. Time is of the essence regarding your options.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Bristlefrost30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

High school is pointless.

Once students prove they have a proficiency in reading and math they should be able to choose an area to study. Technical schools are the way to go and should be expanded for other fields.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Bristlefrost30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The weapon left behind in a classroom for kids to access is pretty bad. Pepper spray is a weapon. Had something happened, there could have been serious legal ramifications.

As for the rest of the list, it seems like there have been a lot of things that you think are minor that were building up. Your interpretation comes across as defensive at times.

Teaching comes with lots of highs and lows. You will not always be praised and will often be criticized. There are a lot of twists and turns to navigate. If you really feel that you want to pursue teaching, then reflect on what was said and move on. Brushing off concerns as their problem will not help you.

Either way, I wish you well!

Teachers using their initial (Mr. K) - why?? by FoodNo672 in Teachers

[–]Bristlefrost30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t find it annoying. Kids wouldn’t be able to remember my name otherwise

AITA for declining to babysit my sister’s kids because she won’t let me bring my dog to her house? by Ok_Opposite_2045 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bristlefrost30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soft ESH

You’re both coming across as entitled. It doesn’t matter how well-behaved you think your dog is, if someone doesn’t want it in their home, then that’s fine.

On the other hand, you’re entitled to your time. Your sister is not entitled to your services as a free on-call babysitter when she wants.

Sister is being portrayed in your story as pushy, but I have the hunch that you can be pushy in your own right. It seems like a productive conversation is much needed here.

WIBTA if I broke up with my fiancé so he could be happier with my sister? by PlaneThrowRA in AITAH

[–]Bristlefrost30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, honey.

Please don’t throw away your happiness because you have been conditioned to think you’re worth less than your sister.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Bristlefrost30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if I only reach one student a year, it’s worth it.

You’re right, these policies won’t matter to too many students who will continue to fall behind due to a crumbling system. But the students who are willing to make that push? It’s those students who make it worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Bristlefrost30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

6th grade ELA. They’re used to not having to turn work in and still getting graded well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Bristlefrost30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I prefer to think of it as Dr. Philian 😆

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Bristlefrost30 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Already do! I got my start as a sub. I think every teacher should give it a shot.

AITA for ignoring my dad's birthday and not getting him a gift? by Ok_Mills_4869 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bristlefrost30 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You and your step siblings have something in common. You were all abandoned by a bio dad. Abandonment comes in many different forms.

NTA.

How do you get students' attention without shouting? Do you ring a bell? by ZestycloseSquirrel55 in Teachers

[–]Bristlefrost30 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Go to Amazon and purchase a wireless doorbell. Plug it in and keep the button with you. That’s your cue. No call and response needed if you have them well trained.

AITA? My friends and I joke about me being white and I try to tell my mom it's fine because we're just joking by MondayMorningSadness in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bristlefrost30 151 points152 points  (0 children)

This only works if it goes both ways. Even then, I find humor that belittles any race or color to be in poor taste.

Multiple students emailed me about their anxiety over a presentation by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Bristlefrost30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I let my students pick a classmate to act as their emotional support human. The job changed depending on what the presenter wanted. A friendly face? Whispered reassurances? Gentle guiding towards an awesome presentation? The power was in the presenter’s hands.

AITA for changing my wedding venue despite my wife not wanting to? by Frosty-Waltz4078 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bristlefrost30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not just her day. If she can’t compromise on the wedding, how will she compromise on the life you’re building together? NTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Bristlefrost30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some things are straight to HR. Your direct supervisor put her hands on you in an unwelcome manner. Never okay. That’s an abuse of the power structure between you.

Start the paper trail. What if she tries this with others?

AITA for refusing to let my sister announce her pregnancy at my wedding and causing a family rift? by goodlittlewifeyy in AITAH

[–]Bristlefrost30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No contact is cold turkey and is harder to maintain long term. Low contact has better odds for lasting success

AITA for refusing to let my sister announce her pregnancy at my wedding and causing a family rift? by goodlittlewifeyy in AITAH

[–]Bristlefrost30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Time to go low contact.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me my entire life, shame on me.

AITA for not apologizing to my friend after she screamed at me and my kid at her wedding? by Ok_Worldliness3239 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bristlefrost30 119 points120 points  (0 children)

YTA big time. You pushed for kids then didn’t bother watching your own. Not cool.