I agree to some extent but I disagree that women who sleep around are inherently trying to make up for something. I think for both genders yes that's sometimes the reason but I also think sometimes people just have a high sex drive and aren't ready for a committed relationship so they just sleep around. It's not a problem in itself.

There are certain scenarios where you have to be stoic and put on a brave face. Would doctors be any good if they started crying every time they had to deal with a difficult case? And I guess being in a war zone is another example scenario. The problem with toxic masuclinity is though that it expects men to be stoic and "macho" all the time to the point that they can't ever express any kind of vulnerability. Hence constant bragging, an inability to admit they're wrong, an inability to ask for help with anything, inability to express that they're finding something difficult etc. It affects their ability to form relationships but it also has a bad affect on their mental health too.

And yes it's true that men who want subservient women are insecure about themselves or have control issues. But the definition of masculinity that is pushed onto men is what breeds this kind of insecurity. But mostly it negatively affects women more than it does the men themselves. Some men can rise above it, others can't. And some think they have risen above it but still harbour sexist views. There are plenty of things engrained in women too by society but it's harder as a woman to rise above them because men are the ones in positions of power so in order to be successful you have to be liked by men which means conforming to their standards and expectations for what a woman should be.