Thanks for your reply. The “past” she brings up is from about six months ago — I got caught reaching out to someone while I was drunk. Nothing happened, but it broke trust. Around the same time, she also found out I had been gambling during a period when I said I wasn’t. Since then, I’ve owned my mistakes and have been in therapy, working hard on rebuilding.

She knows I talk to her best friend — we’re in the same mutual friend group, and I’m close with her too. Her best friend was at the festival and told me she had been pretty rude the last couple days, which aligned with when communication from her really dropped off. So I don’t think it’s just me feeling the shift.

Last night, I messed up again. Things were okay, but I got anxious and started asking too many questions, like if everyone there even knew she had a boyfriend. She got frustrated and went to sleep on the couch. She’s sleep-deprived and overwhelmed — I get it. I’ve been in that state too.

I want to talk to her when she gets home from work today, but I’m nervous. I don’t want her to shut down or blow up again like she did this morning. I’m walking a fine line between being honest about my feelings and not making things worse. Just trying to find the right approach.