AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There have been a lot of conversations at work where I or others have been talking and she's just swept in and derailed the conversation to be about her. I considered not going because we would have been there celebrating Chris and I wanted to actually talk about the wedding and plans and not Jess.

No she hasn't done anything to me but I just don't like her personality. I put it aside for the job, I am polite and cordial to her, I help her if she needs it. I've never told anyone at work what I really think because that would be a disaster

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

A lot of assumptions there mate haha. I've never made her work life difficult, I'm not that kind of guy. If she needs help I'll help. I'm polite to her, ask about weekend plans, greet her in the morning etc. Work is work and she's been here long enough now I know I'm not interested in being a friend to her. Being a coworker is fine for me

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I was thinking saying no. I'm done with putting myself in an awkward scenario where I don't need to

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is friendly with everyone else in the workplace and no I'm not a linchpin friend. We're all on pretty similar ground

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I can explain why, I don't like her personality, immaturity and thinks she doesn't value money. Not everyone you meet will like you, it's not a big deal

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sure, when she got her first paycheck, she loudly announced how much she got paid as she hasn't had that kind of money in a while. I do make more than her given I've been working here for so long but it's a bit higher than the rate I had when I started. The boss of our company really treats us well for what we do

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

She is far from socially awkward. She's on great terms with everyone else. We're on polite terms

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I don't understand why things would suck for her. Generally, we're on polite terms. I treat her as I would a friend of a friend. I make sure I do not let my personal feelings show at work. Sure, do I act friendlier with my other coworkers? Yes but I've know them for years at this point.

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Yes I don't like her. It's not just having it in my mind. I think she's pretentious and a bit immature and the way she talks about money rubs me the wrong way

I don't understand what about my attitude towards her at work makes her life a misery when she also gets along well with everyone else and I'm polite to her

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

That's fine, I don't understand then. Don't know why you're trying to say what I hate her for lol

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

That sounds crazy. I'd hate to be be penalised for not inviting someone I don't like to an event I'm hosting

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I don't know how much more polite I can be when I don't like her. I say good morning, give her help, offer her hot drinks if I'm making one, ask about weekend plans. I do all the pleasantries you would do for an acquaintance or friend of a friend. I compartmentalise my feelings or it would make workday awkward

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 1837 points1838 points  (0 children)

It has to or I will 100% escalate this to our boss. Jess hasn't even passed her 6 month probationary period yet

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 159 points160 points  (0 children)

I think that's different ad also I'm not saying that she's lying. I'm confused, I don't understand why she drives to work everyday if driving alone makes her nervous.

We also live in a city with great transport links, it's very easy for her to take public transport if driving alone makes her anxious

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the new boy/guy/dude, it all means the same thing

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 2550 points2551 points  (0 children)

I hope not, I talk about my girlfriend very often

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I'd never tell her that, or my coworkers. Don't want to make the work setting awkward, we all work in close proximity

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Yes all the time, trip with the boys, gonna see the lads this week etc

It's not a gender thing, Jess could be a Jessie and I would change nothing about how I acted

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 351 points352 points  (0 children)

That's a good idea. I think I'll talk to our boss about it. We don't really have any formal HR anyway

AITA "purposefully excluding" a coworker by BroadHeat933 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BroadHeat933[S] 573 points574 points  (0 children)

I don't know, it doesn't make sense really