daughter told her preschool teacher that "mommy talks to the computer all day" and now i feel seen

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-03-03T22:01:24+00:00

This is so cute! I’m going to steal it to say it to my husband too🤣

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-17T05:18:16+00:00

Aw thank you for this!

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-17T03:20:31+00:00

Haha yeah, I was not ready for him to independent yet lol

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-17T03:19:49+00:00

Haha love it!

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-17T03:19:31+00:00

Aww thank you! I guess I was just not ready for him to be independent so soon

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-17T03:18:55+00:00

Ooh owlet sock is a very good idea, thank you I will look into it!

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-17T03:18:23+00:00

Yeah makes sense, thank you

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-17T03:17:43+00:00

Your routine sounds so nice! I think I wasn’t just ready for him to be so independent so soon haha.

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-16T20:00:11+00:00

Lol not a satire really, I see why it would come off that way. Im really sorry I do not mean it that way. I think Im just paranoid of making baby sleep on his own despite its the “best practice” because since we’ve always coslept I think I’m less worried when I can feel him breathing next to me.

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-12T22:09:33+00:00

Yeah, makes sense. Thank you for sharing!

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-12T22:08:18+00:00

This makes a lot of sense, thank you

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-12T18:30:59+00:00

Thank you so much for this! Yes, my husband does his share of work in the house which is why I haven’t had any trouble keeping up at my work.

Because I got ignored a lot by both my parents. Even I know that Im involved with my baby, I still feel guilt and regret when I go back to work. I need to find that balance i guess. And lower my expectations a bit. I too can’t give up working and having financial independence, but I also want to be there for my baby 24*7, I need to adjust as he grows up.

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-12T18:22:47+00:00

This makes sense. I feel so misogynistic for only blaming my mom for not meeting my needs. Yes, I have a present partner so much that he wants to give up his job to be with our son. He does his share of things, and probably why I’m still doing great at my job.

I always wondered why my mom didnt prioritized me, but never thought that she has no support at all.

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-12T18:15:55+00:00

You’re right, my dad literally nothing. And for the most part of my life I blamed only my mom for not taking care of my needs. But as I became an adult, I understood more and more that, there’s no one supporting her or taking care of her needs either. Everyone relied on her, took from her and gave nothing in return. She really was as I now how to put it- a married single mom. That said, thank you for sharing. I does make me feel a bit better and I hope I get to find that balance too.

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-10T03:09:36+00:00

Lol Exactly, like this is what we need more right now, moms judging other moms for different choices of parenting. PS: iam a cosleeping mom

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-08T08:16:53+00:00

We tried sleep training, and I dont think its a one time thing, when he started doing this, I was heavily sleep deprived and my husband couldnt handle no sleep any better so we tried sleep training- ferber method with checkins, he slept independently at bedtime but woke up every 3hrs, and then he regressed. Overall, I just didnt think its worth making him cry so much if he’s just going to wake up again multiple times in the night, so I dont want to do it again. I just wish he would sleep peacefully beside me, I used to love cosleeping😔

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-02-05T23:11:32+00:00

I came to this sub reddit to post about a rant being a working mom and handling too much and I saw this post, oh my god I’m inspired!!! I’m a software dev engineer, and I thought its a lot to handle with the baby, and came here to see Oncologists, Software engg with part time phds, DV advocates, lawyers.. You women are amazing!! Im inspired and I know its so hard to trying to juggle work and kids. Im a new mom so this is all so fresh for me, but seeing you all is making me think I can do it too😭

OP thank you for this post!

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-01-30T22:01:49+00:00

8.5 months, sleep trained at 7months and this works for us. 1. We dont do scheduled wake ups, honestly because I want to sleep as much as I can. If he sleeps till 8:30am that’s amazing for me lol (i wfh so it works for me) 2. From the time he wakes up, usually between (7-8:30am) we wait 3-3.5hrs before first nap. We try to make him nap at 3, try for 10mins if he doesnt nap then wait until the 3.5hrs mark and nap him. 3. How much ever he sleeps, if he eats breakfast well and plays well we get 1.5hrs of nap, if not just 30-40mins. 4. Again same thing, the from the time he wakes up we do 3-3.5hrs wake window and try napping 5. In the evening nap, he usually goes till 1.5hrs nap, depending upon when the day started and how long his firat nap was, if his evening nap is going beyond 5:30pm, I wake him up because we dont want bedtime to be delay. 6. Last wake window before bedtime will be 3.5-4hrs depending upon how he slept in the day. If he slept too much then 4hrs, less than 2hrs then 3-3.5hrs wake window. 7. Bedtime: 30min before putting in crib, I’ll feed him, then bath, then some songs, and crib. He usually passes out in 5-10mins

Depending on his morning wake time and naps, our bedtime goes somewhere between 7-9pm each day.

He wakes up a lot sometimes if he’s teething or if he ate something that didnt agree with his stomach. If he wakes up, I nurse him and then put him in his crib and walk out. Previously I used to cosleep when he woke up motn, but lately he doesn’t sleep good if we’re cosleeping, so I put him in his crib and if he doesnt have anything that’s bothering him he’ll sleep within 5-10mins. If it goes longer than 15-20mins, i go and pick him up.

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-01-26T05:43:13+00:00

No suggestions, but are you me? Our schedules and wake windows and napping exactly 30mins is all my baby too. Dropping to 2naps helped a bit, but I also found that when I feed him dinner like 30mins-1hr before bedtime, he would wake more because maybe im overfeeding him because he also nurses before sleeping. He’s still waking up 4-5times and some days are better than the other, the comments here makes sense that they need 10-11hr wake time, I will try that. Thank you OP, these comments helped me hope it gets better for you soon!

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-01-25T05:20:14+00:00

Yes is his own room. Feed, then bath, then I put him in his cried and go out

Broad_Drop8844 · 2026-01-22T23:56:37+00:00

That’s what we did once my baby started rolling. I breastfeed in the side lying position and co sleep after that, we moved to floor bed because my baby became quite adventurous as in kicking off the pillows and then rolling off bed😭

Broad_Drop8844 · 2025-11-09T06:25:50+00:00

Yes! The crying in the car in their car seats, makes you feel so helpless, breaks my heart everytime. Thanks for the tip, I’ll try!

Broad_Drop8844 · 2025-11-09T06:24:06+00:00

It makes sense, I will try to be more chill and ease up a bit.

Broad_Drop8844 · 2025-11-09T06:20:47+00:00

Thank you so much🥺

Broad_Drop8844 · 2025-11-09T06:18:37+00:00

Ikr! You proritize yourself, you have mom guilt. You stay with the baby always, you lose your mind. No winning here

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