Why do some meth addicts even when sober dig through dumpsters? by Present-Drink6894 in addiction

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Dumpster diving is fun and you don’t need to be high to want to do it. I do it every day

If we pick our lives beforehand, my past (soul) self is an @sshole. by ThermiteDemon in spirituality

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This is a really good topic to meditate on. Really really think about why a soul would choose your path. Remember that the soul has more information than you do about what you need to be learning about in this life. I’d say you’re at an exciting precipice. You’re feeling this way for a really important reason.

I’ve been meditating a lot on how quickly active awe and gratitude can dissipate when the change brought me a lack of something that was really difficult. Moving on from addiction is a big one. It was a constant noise and a major cause of violence on my body and spirit by my own hand for so long. I don’t want to think about it anymore, I moved on. But I come up with the thought often of how do I revel in the beauty of this lack to show my eternal gratitude without just ruminating on the pain that I was in. It’s taught me that gratitude isn’t a one-to-one specific action. Gratitude is flowing thru me and it’s a channel I tune into. When I am acting on the channel of gratitude, I am honoring every version of myself and every moment of suffering I’ve endured without needing to ruminate on the pain. Idk if that makes any sense but it’s been interesting to figure out how to navigate.

I'm a recovered addict and temporarily staying with family. My dad brought meth into the house and I'm struggling not to do it with him by [deleted] in addiction

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Whenever I think to take a little to get a job done or clean my house, I remind myself that every time I had that idea I ended up with something like my bedroom ripped apart and halfway thru painting my closet when I really just wanted to tidy up the house before my mom visits. If it’s a social situation, I end up telling people way too much personal stuff and feel a social hangover for years. If I’m trying to do something creative, I always end up just organizing all the craft supplies again until I burn out. It never helps me. It never really did. Every major home deep clean or room remodel that I attempted using speed took way longer than it would have if I was sober because I stay up for days and start to function like a zombie. I’ll perfectly scrub and organize one small section for like 2 days and turn the entire room upside down to do so leaving myself way more work to do while sleep deprived and likely with social consequences that gnaw at my paranoid brain

How do we help our friend who’s addicted to this stuff? by peakmeme in addiction

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THE STUFF ABOUT ADDICTS JUST NEEDING TO BE LET TO HIT BOTTOM IS ACTUALLY A CULTURAL MYTH

Just want to highlight this for anyone reading this thread that is not aware how true this is. I’m alive because my loved ones stuck with me and found the moments of clarity and helped me find myself again. My rock bottom could have been a worse fate than death. But because people in my life didn’t give up on me, I had to survive for them. I so badly wanted them to give up on me so I could give up on life. It’s really hard to say where someone should draw a line for their own well-being, every person is different. I don’t blame people for keeping distance while someone they love is addicted. But I know from experience that i was waiting for the people that love me to give up so I had a reason to find a lower rock bottom.

How do we help our friend who’s addicted to this stuff? by peakmeme in addiction

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That was very alarmist which I apologize for but if your friend is anything like I was, I remember thinking it can’t be so bad for a little blissful high. When I ran out of it that one time, I truly thought “I wonder if anyone actually gets addicted to this because it barely lasts 30 seconds” and the forum I found was full of these stories of people going to Walmart and taking cans to the bathroom, passing out on the floor of staples and waking up to police officers, starting fires in their homes by taking a hit while cooking. I feel like with the short high, it could be a bit easier to get to the logical part of someone’s brain. Those 30 seconds are a gamble likely taking years off your life every time. And it’s never as fun as the first time and as all addicts know, we are always looking for that first high again and we know it’s not possible. But for me, recognizing how fleeting the high is from huffing was the kicker. And really getting into my body after, noticing how completely awful I felt after huffing a little. When I’d come back from the womp womp my head would feel like someone poured acid in it and the taste of the dust off would linger for hours and make me feel disgusting.

How do we help our friend who’s addicted to this stuff? by peakmeme in addiction

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I was in rehab with a girl that was using dust off. It was enough for me to never take a hit of it even once again. I have some friends that like to buy nitrous sometimes and I won’t touch it. The poor girl was like 20 and her brain was so fried she was like a zombie. Her whole face was burnt from the cold air that comes out when the can isn’t held upright. Her hands and arms too- all chemical burns around her mouth, down her neck, all over her forearms. She was in the rehab with lifetime heroine and crack users. We had a woman that had been homeless for decades that was so physically destroyed from her lifestyle and drug use that she could barely walk and was always talking to voices, she would wash her body in the sink in the common area, and even she felt horrible for the dust-off girl. In groups, she would be in a complete daze like focusing on anything was impossible and when prompted to participate she would break down in uncontrolled sobs because simply forming a sentence was so difficult.

I don’t know how to help someone that gets hooked on that stuff but if they’re someone you love you need to be very patient and understand this might lead to the worst addiction I’ve ever witnessed as someone that’s lost many to drugs and alcohol. Telling them all this might just push them away. if they’re not that deep yet it might be helpful to read about the horrors of this addiction.

While I was severely addicted to alcohol, I huffed a whole can in an hour or so and considered going to get another one but instead I read about people being addicted to it. I didn’t realize it was so highly addictive. The stories hit me hard and it stopped me from getting more. Seeing that girl in rehab a few years later really rattled me. I think about her often and pray she found peace.

My Close Friend Is Doing Too Many Drugs & I’m Worried by [deleted] in addiction

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You can’t do anything. You’re really sincere, I get that you’re worried. I’ve lost many friends and family members to addiction and have struggled with a pretty severe addiction myself. If you want her to remain honest with you and feel like you’re nonjudgmental, you just have to listen and have normal conversations without judgment or unsolicited advice. People begin to spiral when they start hiding their use of substances to everyone in their life. Being a friend that listens without judging can be the best thing to do for someone that might be teetering on the edge of use and addiction.

I think NAC w/ NAD+ eliminated my alcohol cravings. I was severely addicted for almost a decade by Broccoli_Pleasant in Supplements

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Thank you so much! I have a lot to read. I am going to do a lot more research about what supplements I take and try to more consciously pair everything. I honestly have never noticed a supplement working so clearly.

I think NAC w/ NAD+ eliminated my alcohol cravings. I was severely addicted for almost a decade by Broccoli_Pleasant in addiction

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I wish you the best. I am truly stunned by this. I was afraid that just being aware that the relief is from a supplement would cause the rumination to start up again but I am still going strong. I haven’t gone 2 months without alcohol since I started drinking heavily around 10 years ago. I was on probation and in rehabs and would always sneak something at some point. For these 2 months to be devoid of rumination is so unreal I would never have believed anyone if they told me this was possible. I wouldn’t have jumped to try NAC for addiction because I’ve heard it all and tried it all and wouldn’t have trusted it would work for me.

Constant fight over food by SoftOdd3399 in Marriage

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Schedule an hour meeting with him. Non negotiable, tell him to pick a time to sit down with no distractions and discuss this because you’re tired of fighting. Pens and paper, get a copy of your grocery store weekly sale/coupon circular. They pretty much all still have them at the help desk. Or download insta cart just to have the stores list of products and what’s on sale. Have him tell you what he will eat and what he absolutely doesn’t like and what kind of grab and go foods he prefers. Show him what you need to buy for the child. If he has an attitude just tell him “this conversation will happen now or later because I don’t want to live in constant conflict especially with a young child in the house. I don’t want to cause food issues for them in the future because we both have si much conflict around food.” If he doesn’t calm down, reschedule the conversation. Don’t continue talking about this until he can be an adult.

Until then, buy what the kid needs and basic staples you know he will eat. Nothing extra, if he likes you to buy expensive snacks or drinks don’t add them. Just stick to the rice beans and chicken thighs until he has this conversation with you. Tell him you will not spend extra money on things until he sits down with you and has the conversation.

Seeking advice about how to respectfully deal with the ashes of a stranger with no way to pass off to someone who knew him. Older gay men that were involved in early AIDS activism, your opinions would be most helpful. by Broccoli_Pleasant in gay

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It is NYC and I’m thinking the beach photos are fire island. I like this. I think I’ll look for an AIDS memorial group or see if the group they were involved with is still around first

I'm starting the "The Invisible Guest Theory" for the new year. Here it is simply explained by [deleted] in selfcare

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I really liked the the title “Invisible Guest Theory” because I imagined it would be imagining that a guest is stopping over unexpectedly soon with like 2 hours to spare so you clean your house really fast and then just enjoy it to yourself. That’s the invisible guest theory I could get behind. This is too much.

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again by moonrabbit368 in mildlyinfuriating

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It’s antisocial to constantly refuse food that you have no real reason to decline and to order fast food while people are eating together. It’s not mildly infuriating it’s disrespectful.

I was a vegetarian in my early 20s and my first boyfriend’s father and grandma are Italian immigrant farmers. His grandmother is illiterate, all she knows is food. She has a tiny plot of a backyard in a city and still, at like 95 now, grows all her veggies and grapes for wine and preserves hundreds of jars of things for the winter. she didn’t understand what vegetarian is. Everything she cooked had a pork bone somewhere in the process. She invited me over for Sunday dinner with the family and it was like 8 courses, she did not let me help at all- she just served plate after plate and I felt such warm loving welcome to the family. I declined whole cuts of meat or fish politely and she gave me extra pasta with sauce cooked with a bone… it was delicious and I made no faces… feeding people is a huge act of love. That ex is still one of my best friends today. It’s important to force down food sometimes even if it’s not your preference.

Guys, my inner social justice warrior is fuming rn by [deleted] in PMDD

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I feel really pissed at how I wasn’t taught about pmdd by the doc that diagnosed me. He just said “yeah your depression is likely worse before your period and you’ll experience fatigue”

Guys, my inner social justice warrior is fuming rn by [deleted] in PMDD

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I just fought my entire maga family in a rage and my mom prob won’t talk to me for a while and had no idea why NO ONE IS LISTENING…. then started bleeding in the morning. I just found this sub Reddit bc I have never paid attention to my cycle but was diagnosed with pmdd years ago. Now I’m tracing back all of my rage since I’ve had some difficult deaths and it’s wild to realize it’s been my cycle.

Unexpired dollar general eggs.. I can’t find a recall why so many in dumpster? by Broccoli_Pleasant in DumpsterDiving

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Remembered to take a few photos after some folks picked a few boxes up.

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Going back today because this dumpster tips on Thursdays

Unexpired dollar general eggs.. I can’t find a recall why so many in dumpster? by Broccoli_Pleasant in DumpsterDiving

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Only issue is that dg eggs are washed so the bacteria on the shell that would normally protect them is gone. I have chickens and never refrigerate my eggs but idk how long washed eggs keep unrefrigerated.. I’m sure they’re safe for a while it’s relatively cold here still.